I have had a very close relationship with a guy for last 4yrs and now i realise that there can never be full time commitment from his side, he has become icy cold towards me not accepting my calls, is this common amongst indian men who dont get things their way????
2007-05-14 17:38:07 · 27 answers · asked by platformer70 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes!
You learned a lesson...
Listen to "Wisdom" if you r not of their caste or doctor/lawyer THEY WILL NOT MARRY YOU!! They ONLY choose whom their parents like!! Check out Elizabeth Hurley and her handsome hubby..His family disowned him for marrying someone they did not choose! It's 2007!!
Anyway, he just wanted a Visa dear. If he is much younger than you then you KNOW he just wasn't in to you. They try to marry older lady, divorce you in 2 years so they r still "primed" for their 2nd marriage after they return home and find YOUNG bride.
Now, if HE is over 40 years then maybe he was more sincere...since at that age if they are not rich they will not find bride. They WILL NOT marry widow woman, or woman that has children in their country. If the woman is divorced SHE must be pretty like film star or rich. No exceptions. It's most sad....one guy I really really liked. He was soooo handsome like movie star!! My friend said uh uh...he is certain caste...he is engineer...he is over 40 yrs in age....he is here attending University...this guy will divorce you in 2 years...and marry his own type. I was almost about to RELOCATE to a different state!! Change career & live in motel!! { he is that fine! looks like H. Roshan's dad, i forgot his name..filmstar from the 70's-80's} But he suddenly stopped calling LIKE THAT! and married woman of his own caste/status....Would you believe I then met ,by mutual friend a film director!!?? I know,I know, I need to write a book on my life!!
Final words...if he could forget u like that, it's because he has some other "Golden Goose" lined up...forget him!! I am with u , u r not alone!!
2007-05-15 14:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damn you noticed that too!!
Yeah that is common with them. I dont know where that B.S. comes from but I'm American and I have dated a few Indian guys and they can be very cold and show no mercy when their mind is made up or they dont get their way!
I was dating an Indian guy for 2 years and he didnt tell me he had a fiance back in his country. He even wanted me to abort his baby although he said he was a Muslim. He didnt try to help me thorugh the pregnancy or anything. I was hurt & cried everyday for 6 months straight trying to figure out why this man would do that to me. After time went by he still wants to come around and see me although he has a wife. Then when he saw me with a male friend he got mad as hell and said he was very upset with me.
I'm like...dude! You are married now, what the hell am I suppossed to do sit and wait for you whenever you want to be bothered. I dont have to answer to you. They have a very warped sense of a relationship. Then he said I need to cook more and ask him what does he want more because I never asked him what he wants.
I guess they are used to the village girls who dont have an opinion and are like a mindless droids. F8ck that! I am grown and strong and I refuse to be a doormat to somebody . Indians are very intelligent people, but they are sooo far behind in dating & relationships. Women get no respect.
Now I know it wasnt just me that was thinking that....
2007-05-15 13:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea.... but he is an *******! Just forget about him. It's hard, because he was ur first "love" but u HAVE TO!! If i was u i would delete him from my facebook page! Ok u already know he has a new girlfriend, he does'nt care about u or whatever u guys had plus he is getting MARRIED!!!! Move on girl... look at it this way, Some people never had the chance to fall in love or feel what its like or even have a serious relationship or get married.... :( Men can be jerks but not all of them...There are still some good men out there! ;-/
2016-04-01 01:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why generalise? Learn from this relationship, forget about him for all times. Move ahead and find the right man who would accept u as u r. Learn to appreciate urself. Realize the power of positive thinking. Why yearn for a relationship where u r not respected. Such people do not deserve a thought. Read books on positive thinking and get good guidance.
2007-05-14 19:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by sudershan Guddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me give u insight about Indian men. they momas boys, no really they are. by that i mean they want a mother figure in there girlfriends a women that will cook, clean after them and really fragile creatures that pretends that they cant do anything for themselves or think for themselves.
some women acts that way &can wrap them around their finger, but if u act independant u will get a stuborn man.
but i must note that u cant say all men are the same just like not all women are the same, but the odd indian man are rare to come by trust me
2007-05-14 17:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it's just Indian men. Its a human thing. It can be from anyone. They might have a lack of interest in the activities that you have or the friendship has just drifted apart for him. I wont be general to say indian men. Just people.
2007-05-14 17:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by ucancallmejay02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy may not be good and it has more to do with your judgement. The 'Indian Men' as a class can not be blamed. Like anywhere else, Indian men too have 'good guys' and 'bad guys'. It can be said with ceratinity that Indian men do not lack emotions...
2007-05-14 17:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indian men r not lack emotion rather they r full of it.
Now as far as your matter is concerned, it seems to me u need to check your own emotional level before generalise Indian men to be unemotional. what makes your partner to be icy cold! A person who have full of energy & suddenly he becomes icy cold - this is a sign of a perfect emotional man.try to melt him down.......
2007-05-14 18:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by bubaiiii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship with an indian man ,,, to be honest if your not his wife you are just satisfying his sexual needs and satisfying his lazy and cheap ***. They want a cook and a maid as well as some to have sex with until they go back to india and get a "virgin" bride. this stuff makes me so sick because they act like they care about you for a short time just to get what they want but in the end it is you who gets left hurt. But what gets me the most is that they themselves are not virgins but they expect to return home to india and have a virgin wife(poor woman doesnt know weither or not he has an std from sleeping around with all these women)
Even thought i strayed off topic i have done alot of research on these indian men just from dating one and i have to say they should come with a warning because even if the relationship does go wonderfully it doesnt mean that this traditional arranged marriage parents are going to even allow you two to be together or even like you for that matter.! Trust me girl run ..............be gone with him and get yourself someone else. God bless and best of luck.
2007-05-15 06:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like very much my Indian friends, for a lot of reasons.
Both the men and women are very intense, they have not superficial feelings.
Indians are very beautiful, inside and outside.
He is cold because he is a cold person, not because he is Indian. I feel very sorry for you.
Hugs.
2007-05-15 07:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by stella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋