without looking like another overly-dramatic teen seeking attention/drugs? I've mentioned it before, and my parents have talked about it with me--but I get too embarrassed and start sobbing before I can explain myself fully...so my parents never get the full picture. They just think that I have a poor self-esteem, like every girl at my age has. How do I let them know that I truly feel that everything I say and do sounds/looks stupid, I spend hours in the mirror doing my make-up and my hair and I still feel ugly, I am too scared to death of coming over my pride and simply asking people for help when I need it, I don't have any friends, I keep feeling like life is a waste of time and energy and the idea of death is appealing? I tried for so long to put my feelings on the back-burner and pretended to be happy, but it just doesn't work.
2007-05-14 16:47:10 · 9 answers · asked by Stardust 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry, that sounds quite a bit like a pity party, doesn't it? I'm not trying to make anybody feel sorry for me, I just want some help. And I want to know how to get it without making myself feel like, you know, a self-pitying fool.
2007-05-14 16:52:46 · update #1
You can't talk about it without crying.
The idea of death is appealing
Nothing seems like it's worth the effort.
These are signs of nasty depression. If your parents don't get it (and it is hard for a parent to accept that their child is hurting), talk to your school nurse asap. You could also talk to your doctor, a crisis line or some clergy.
It's serious. Get serious about doing for you. Do it and your folks will follow.
2007-05-14 16:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by booktender 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Home school is obviously not working for her. Look for a school where she might feel comfortable. There are lots of alternative high schools, charter schools, and private academies out there. Many are publicly funded and wouldn't cost anything to attend. Some private high schools offer need-based scholarships or financial help. Have her meet with a guidance counselor (not a therapist, since she won't go) and plan a program that will allow her to graduate as soon as possible. Set short term goals, like getting a certain number of credits completed by a certain date. If she sees that it's doable, she may be more motivated to try. She is probably so far behind by now that it seems overwhelming. If she is meeting with a guidance counselor, that person can get a sense of whether she needs therapy and if necessary, can encourage her to go. They can also get her thinking about longer term goals, such as what to do for a job or career.
2016-05-18 04:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you should start seeing a therapist, secondly they are right it is centered with low self esteem. Maybe you should talk to a close relative instead of you parents first. And of course the best course of action is practiced you dont sound like an introvert just shy try and get out and meet people like you, but that are not depressed. Could luck and remember suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Even though it may seem like you will be like this forever I am sure youll find your way through
2007-05-14 16:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by swoggiemaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if they think it's lack of self esteem, that's reason enough to seek help. if talking to them is to difficult for you, write them a letter. tell them everything. ask them to help you find a good psychologist/psychiatrist. you could even express these feelings to your regular doc and he/she could help you find someone to help.some of this could be hormonal as i don't know your age but it still needs to be addressed. when i reached my pre teen yrs i felt the same as you. i never told anyone and didn't get help til i was almost 40. a lot of unhappy years were spent. talk to them. write them the letter. why wait? you deserve to feel better about yourself. life is to short to spend so much of it unhappy. good luck.
2007-05-14 16:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you are pretty upset about things...sometimes our parents, although they have the best of intentions, don't have the best of information...the well intentioned and the uninformed...perhaps you could talk to your teacher at school or ask your Mom or Dad if they would schedule a doctors appointment for you....
2007-05-14 16:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by coastcheaney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need help and the only way you can do that is if you talk to your parents.
2007-05-14 17:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to convince anybody. If you have A problem your parents should take responsibility and believe you.
2007-05-14 17:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor or school nurse, and perhaps they could talk to your parents.
2007-05-14 16:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by nenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this: questionteen@gmail.com
they are completely anonymous and will email you back and keep things confidential and you don't have to give your name. I have no idea who they are but you don't have to give any information just tell them your problem and they'll email you back with a response.
2007-05-14 16:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋