my father died in september of 2006 I still can't get my self together should I see a doctor?

Answer 1

I know how you feel my mother died in 2005. And I can't get myself together either and I'm only 19. Right now you don't need a doctor you just need someone to talk to talk to anyone a friend or family member cause it helps. You can even talk to me if you wish.

Answer 2

My condoloences, I am sorry for your loss. If I were you, I would read up on the subject first, either online or in books and magazines from the library. Also, talk with someone you trust about it, and look around you and see how others deal with grief in their lives. This could help identify and maybe even solve some of the personal difficulties you are dealing with first, and then, if you do decide to consult a doctor, you'll have some knowledge yourself about the subject, and can maybe answer your doctor's questions better. It's natural for you to feel the way you feel, as time goes by, sorrow will fade.

Answer 3

First, let me offer my deepest, most hearfelt sympathy. Second, let me tell you that I lost my father in 2002 and it was such an interruption of my happy life that I thought I might have died,too. I am female, age 59, and I never knew that so much of who I am was tied up with who he was. Even now, 5 years later on June 7 of this year, I still sometimes cry and cry for MY DADDY> I have a wonderful husband and 2 wonderful kids but that didn't help any, as far as grief was concerned. I quit my job, and went to a grief councelor for over a year. It doesn't really help, except it lets you vent about what ifs, and my family soon grew weary of my continued unhappiness, so it was good to have an outsider who could offer a different perspective. My Daddy was 89 years old and he was everything to me. I have changed forever, since he has gone. I still have my wonderful family but some of my happiness will never return.

I wish you a few good days ahead. Mine came one or two at the time and finally 3 or 4 at the time. You will feel better, but you will have to work through it the best you can.

Bless you and Antonio, too, I was very lucky to have had my parents as long as I did.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my Mother in October 2005. I was so very close to my Momma. I still cry and get depressed when Holidays come around. I think for everyone it is different. Some people heal quicker than others. For me being a Christian and knowing that she was saved helped me get thru it all. Talking to someone helps too. If you feel the need to see a doctor I say go for it. They may be able to give you something until you can come to terms with everything. Hang in there and I wish you the best.

Answer 5

Philly,
Yes, please see a Dr. You need to talk the issues out in order to heal yourself! Until then you will always stew over it. This takes professional help!

Get this, my Dad died back in 1991. I went to Church with my older Brother and accepted God into my life, and at the same time this took place my Father was at my other Brother's house with the Hospice organization and my Dad died at the same time I was praying to God.

I was torn because I was a victim of being molested by him in my younger years and while he was dying, I had to forgive him all at the same time these changes were taking place. Anyway, I went to Counseling for years over my childhood problems and I can now talk about the painful times I encountered, because I learned to deal with the past and not let it hold me back but you need to stay with some sort of Counseling throughout your life until you can deal on your own!

Counseling is a great step and I recommend it!

My Blessings to you, and prayers!

Answer 6

Maybe - maybe not - I'm not a dr., but I don't think anyone fully gets over the loss of a parent. Have you thought about maybe seeking some kind of spiritual counseling as opposed to psychiatric?? If you have a religion you've grown up with or are especially comfortable with, or maybe your father's minister -- speaking to people like this in a time of death can be helpful... but its such a personal decision and so dependent on trust.

I hope you find the comfort you seek -- bless you & your family - I'm sure you'll all miss him always... but in time, perhaps the pain will ease and you are left with nothing but fond memories.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Think about your Daddy and all the good times, and Laugh I call it wonder land, I will go their in my mind and spend time with my Daddy I close my eyes and Go back into time, and remissness the times I had with my daddy, it makes me realize that I have become a big part of my Father, And that I have made him proud, And He lives in my heart, He is a big part of who i have become, Their is not one father who would want us sad depressed or even thinking we cant go own, And here is why They went through losing their parents, And they did not week en they grew stronger, And became all that they wanted us to be,,,Keep a positive attitude because a positive attitude is a magnet for positive results..And your Daddy would not want this , He wants you to smile and be Happy And remember this You will see them again, so for that in its self should give you strenght to carry own , stand Proud, and become all your Father taught you to become...And remember the Wisdom that he taught you and that will see you through.God bless you and I am saying a prayer for you,

Answer 8

You should probably see a counselor/therapist or a psychiatrist if you feel you will need medicine. Once you feel back on track, as much as you ever will, you can discontinue and see how things go from there. I am sorry for your loss. You might also want to try a bereavement group. Look in your newspaper and try local churches.

Answer 9

I would suggest finding a counselor and talking with him a few times. My aunt whom I was very close to passed away in October of 2005. I'm still not over it. I'm living with it easier than I was a year ago, but it's still hard.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry for your loss.

If your continued grief is interfering with your life, seeing a doctor is a good place to start. Ask your doctor about grief support groups and other options.

Best wishes.