Me and boyfriend have been going out for more than 5 years and currently living together. Recently he told me that I sometimes am an embarrassment to him when we go out. He would prefer going out with his best mate, who I think he is full of crap, than me. He thinks I am a ***** and doesn’t understand why I hate his best mate so much. He says that everyone else besides me likes his best mate, if I don’t like him, that is my problem. Please tell me, what am I doing wrong here? After 5 years, all I get is “I am an embarrassment”? and why do I have to like his best mate? (I like all his other friends, just not his best mate). All the relationships have ups and downs, mine is not an exception. Every time I could change or compromise things if we had problems, but not this time, I have no idea what I can do. Please help. Thank you
2007-05-14 15:13:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would be hard to help you because I have no idea WHY he thinks of you as an embarrassment. He's still with you, so it's obviously not bad enough for him to break up with you, but he IS calling you that, after all, so there is something he disapproves of. What he finds so embarrassing, I have no idea, so I can't say whether it's his problem or if he has a valid complaint.
2007-05-14 15:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing wrong is staying with someone that isn't right for you. The fact that you are still clueless of that after 5 full years doesn't speak well of you. Most people would have figured this out in 2-3 months. You must be either desperate or...well desperate.
He doesn't really love you, he is just using you. That is clear when he doesn't show you or the relationship respect. Why on earth would you want to be with someone who like their "mate" better than them? Not everyone is meant to be together.
2007-05-14 15:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there comes a point in a relationship where you no longer can change or adapt to your boyfriends needs or wants. At some point, you need your own to be answered and fulfilled. Maby the problem is the fact that you haven't done anything wrong at all... perhaps you are not seen as valuable as you truly are. It may be extreamly difficult to do.. but maby it's time to consider this relationship may on a crash course to end. Talk to your boyfriend, tell him your feelings. If he doesn't take you seriously, and or nothing changes, it's time to break up with him. You need to be valued and respected but most of all loved. If this guy is truly embarrassed to be with you, then he doesn't deserve you. If you wish to talk about this more, i'm always ready to listen.
You won't be an embarrassement to me. IM- SeanieD2003
2007-05-14 15:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by seanied2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to go on a break for a while and dont want to be with him. Maybe then he will realiaze your need. If not then he doesn't like you. Maybe his best mate is behind all of this problem.
2007-05-14 15:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you are on the right path, stick to what you are saying, if he is unable to hear or understand your side then it may be time to move on.
Just because you have put 5 years into it doesn't mean you have to put in 5 more years if you are unhappy.
Sometimes people are just unwilling to change to accomodate someone else, and it is quite sad when it is the one you 'claim' to love.
Be strong, be firm, set a time table, and if he is unable to meet it then move on and find someone who is willing to hear and understand your concerns, instead of telling you how bad you are.
2007-05-14 15:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not incorrect so you may be disenchanted yet there perchance something in the back of all of it--how advance into she raised working example? She could have the thought intercourse must be initiated via the guy. Is she shy or unconfident--she may be fearful of rejection or finding silly. attempt chatting together with her. lease/watch a action picture that shows a woman drawing close to a guy and tell her how attractive this is. flow out and via a foreplay sport that would positioned her instantaneous in specific circumstances.
2016-10-05 02:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by husted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if his best mate is more important than your are I would dump him. You should be # 1 always. This will always be a competition and a bad issue that will destroy you.
2007-05-14 15:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like to know y u r an embarrassment first and formost . thatmight tell u a lot about whats going on in his head... he maybe be getting lil confused also i mean five years is a while he maybe distancing himself or something i would keepmy gaurd up if i was u
2007-05-14 15:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Argentina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who is not in love with their best mate.
2007-05-14 15:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and move on
2007-05-14 15:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by tx1942txx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋