Was this neighbor rude?

Question

She's not our next door neighbor, she lives 5 houses down the road. She walked across the backyards between my house and hers, came into my backyard, opened our gate to our fence, walked up the steps of our deck, while not even asking if it was okay. We don't even now who she is. She asked that we cut down our grape vines because the birds are eating the fruit, going to her yard and pooping, and therefore creating unwanted grape vines in her yard. As if she wasn't already a witch, she went far enough to say to cut our apple trees down because they were a sore sight and to take better care of our property. My family are no slobs. We do try to keep up, but when both parents work, one child is getting married, two work full time, and the fourth is a full time college student with part time job, it gets difficult getting all of us together to tackle HUGE projects. Not to mention the lack of money to do these home improvement jobs. Any info on how to deal with this woman is welcomed.

Answer 1

For now, just ignore her. She crossed the line (in more ways than one!), and you don't owe her an answer or an explanation. If she talks to you again about this, very politely and very firmly say, "Thank you for bringing this to our attention. Good-bye." Then shut the door. Please, whatever you do, don't let her get to you! Some people have too much time on their hands, and you were her unlucky target that day. You're too busy raising a family to deal with that nonsense.

Answer 2

Actually was technically illegal for her to do that in the first place. The back yard is more private than the front, and the fact that she did not ask your permission first constitutes trespassing. You can lodge a complaint against her with your homeowners association for that.

If she comes by again, I would suggest you tell her politely that her concerns have been noted and you disagree with her assessment. You can also mention that you do not appreciate her trespassing on your property and that if she wished to contact you in the future, to please do so via mail or the homeowners association.

Keep a record of when you asked her to stop as well as when she came over initially (if you remember). If she comes over a third time I suggest you file a complaint with the police.

Answer 3

Yeah, I'd say she was rude in several ways. The first being that she went to your BACK door to announce herself. It's definately out of the ordinary to do so, as our rear yards are considered to be the more private of a public area. (front being where the road usually is, so any motorist can see) And she had to get through your fence to do so. Fence being an actual physical barrier, gives the strong message: "Stay out" That's a tacit invasion of one's personal space.
The others are closer to valid, but far from acceptable. Birds? Grapevines? It's not like those are unique to your neighborhood. If so, any winery would be liable for every unwanted grapevine on earth. Sounds like she's pissy cause she's too lazy to pic up a bottle of weed-b-gone and take care of her own property. $5 and 30 seconds is all it'd take for the chick to solve her own "problem"
The rest? Where do I begin?! lol. Who'se to say what constitutes a sore sight? And even if it were, what would her basis be for demanding that YOU do something about it? Bottom line is that if it's YOUR property, you can do as you see fit. So long's it's not a major deal that'd bring down other property value (a farfetched possibility) you're free to do with it as you wish. That's one of the main reasons folks buy things! :laughing: I bought it, it's mine to do what I want. If she gives you trouble, point out her own visual shortcomings, and say that SHE'S an eyesore, and should get the "F" out of public view.

Answer 4

Well, call the police next time she comes along. This woman doesn't know what she is dealing with! Tell her "Yeah, so your house is unsightly to me, demolish it." The birds probably liked her house colour or either that, they loved to pick on her. Don't call her a witch because then you're at fault for name-calling.

If she ever destroy any of your plants, you can gladly tell the cops that it was YOUR property and she CANNOT touch them, which also makes it court case if you would like matters to be blown up.

Overall, it's best to be neutral around your neighbourhood, who knows someday you might need each other's help. If your plants are definitely overgrown, kindly trim them somewhat or built something like a scarecrow so those peskybirds won't come; if you have a dog, use it.

Answer 5

each and every so often as mothers and fathers we are blind to behaviors which at the instant are not as socially suitable as we want, like sharing. Watch how your son interacts with different newborn in distinctive circumstances to be certain if he's conscious the considered sharing and taking part in properly with others. If Emily likes taking part in along with your son I see no injury in it, as long as she shares and is a stable place kind being as she is the older newborn. Having somebody to play with makes existence extra relaxing! in view which you're patently disturbed by applying the comments of your neighbor, I say, do purely not enable her niece and your son to play at the same time returned, and if she asks why, be honest and tell her you probably did not like her comments. whether they're actual, the way they have been provided became into rude! stable success and God Bless.

Answer 6

Yes, she was and is rude. It is your fault birds are pooping in her yard? Ha ha, that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. You do not need to be polite back. If she has a valid complaint (which I doubt she does) then she can contact the home owners association and complain. Otherwise she can keep her opinions to herself.

Answer 7

WHAT did you say to her? I would ignore her now that she isn't in your yard.

If she returns, I would, in a calm voice, say "I don't need your opinions on my property. I want you to leave now. If you choose not to or continue talking to me, I am going in to my house and call the police." Then I would walk away and not turn around. I would go in the house and call the police. If she starts talking to you, just continue to walk. The worst thing you can do is engage in a conversation with her.

Answer 8

Quite rude! And way out of line. But don't stoop to her level, just thank her nicely for her concern.

And don't cut down your grapes or your apples! Besides providing food for wildlife, it's just nice to have fresh, homegrown food. And if you want, I can give you a great, easy recipe for canning the apples. Can't help with the grapes, as I don't can jelly.

Answer 9

get a big dog and keep it on the porch...ok seriously tell the lady that it isnt your fault the birds poop on her lawn and when you have time you will gladly get the trees pruned. and if she doesnt like the wait she is more than welcome to prune them herself. also mention that you didnt realise that she was the dictator of the street you live on.

Answer 10

Very rude. I suggest that you set up a camera just to prove to the cops that she has been trespassing. At least you don't have to say much to the authorities. The video will.