Why do many women claim that they love me, but then ignore me after a few days?

Question

But I am strait.

Bad Side? What do you mean?

I mean it even gets as far as kissing but then they always ignore me after that.

They never tell me what I do wrong they just ignore me. I even try to ask them what I do wrong they just never respond.

It always ends with them saying call me tommorow night and then when I do they ignore me. WTF CAN'T they just act like real adults and actually communicate or at least tell me they dont like me anymore and say why?

I have perfect hygein I shower twice or even three times a day.

Answer 1

Because...it...isn't...love. That takes a while to develop, or at least admit to! Be cynical of anyone who quickly says they love you 'cause they are apt to burn out like a little firecracker.

Answer 2

A number of questions come to mind. A few days? How long have you known these "many" women? And they all do the same thing???? Nobody has told you why they want to ditch you? Do you have bad habits? Do you have bad breath? Are you cute but dumb? (You may not know -- ask your friends.) Are you just letting them get to know your weirdness after they say the love you? What goes on at your house? If they're just using you, it should last a bit longer than a few days... Is your house haunted? Is your body healthy? What goes on? What happens differently after the declarations of love? There's your clue.

Answer 3

Wow, you need to go into some detail here. What kind of women are you dealing with? Are you giving them money? Love does not just fade away in a few days. How long were involved with the women before they told you they love you, and last of all are you a little on the obsessive side? I know you asked the question, but there really isn't much information to go on.

Answer 4

Perhaps they get tired of you or you're not the same person they though you were when they first met you, I know that happens to me. I met these two guys, and I thought they were perfect for me, and that I had never met two better guys,and how I needed them in my life. A few weeks later, I'm much closer with them, but I like them less. They just weren't what I thought they were. Or these women might have found someone knew, many reasons. It sucks though. You'll find the one who definitely means it. Otherwise it's not worth it, forced love is never good. Good luck!

Answer 5

I think you really can't get an honest and true to point answer from anyone because people here do not know you personally and also you didn't provide much details..

So..my answer will just be based on presumption.

I think it has a lot to do with oneself. Do you come across as too needy, too controlling, too desperate the moment you think you're in a 'serious' r/ship (I reckon yes, hence..the claims of so-called love)? Sometimes we need to look into ourselves when we keep getting ourselves in the same old cycle of love rut.

Most probably you don't love yourself as much as you should. Honestly, I'm in a sort of same similar situation and I hate the fact that I'm actually meeting two very similar men (jerks to be precise) in a row..making me feel like such a loser. I have since come to terms and admit that the problem actually lies in myself that I just don't myself enough..therefore giving men like these the opportunity to approach me and treat me like a doormat.

Learn to love ourselves. Yourself. First.

**skier, your answer is hilarious..lol**

Answer 6

Ummm, I don't know, redelman... maybe a shower would help. After a few days you would be pretty ripe.

Seriously, do you come across too strong? Do you brag about yourself? Do you take the time to listen to her?

Do you have a good female friend or a sister? Ask her... and tell her to be open and honest.

Answer 7

Sounds like you're one of those guys we women just LOVE as a friend. You'll end up good marriage material for some lucky girl, though, so try to keep that in mind. Meanwhile, you may want to show a little more of your "bad" side from time to time to make it more exciting for the girls.

Answer 8

There is another guy who has thde same problem as you and that is Mike Piazza. See women think they love him and then they figure out he is gay and dont love him anymore. And lord knows I would be pretty embarassed if a girl I loved turned out to be a big fat dyke and i wouldnt want to talk to her after that



Hallelujah Holla Back

Answer 9

Well anyone that claims they love you only after a couple days isnt all there anyway. Love takes time. So its them.

Answer 10

Introspection is the solution. I thing in friend you must be giving importance to sex. Women are initially not interested in sex unless they are sure about their future through their b/f.Let sex may not come in your friend ship.