When i was six my mother and father would abuse me everyday, till one day he came in while i was tied up gaged and bleeding, he got rid of my parents soon after....he is he only person that has ever helped me....or loved me....well i have fallen in love what do i do?
2007-05-14 15:06:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I too would like to know how he got rid of your parents.And I am sorry to add to your burdens if this is truly sincere, however you might not have been rescued by your brother.If he is in any way encouraging these feelings you are still being sexually abused by your brother. Tell someone a teacher or friend what is going on.
2007-05-14 15:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very common for people who have been abused as children to have difficulty defining boundaries in other relationships. Since important relationships in your life fell on the most extreme side of the emotional scale (the terrible one), you may view all relationships in your life with inappropriate emotional intensity.
I doubt that you are actually in love with your brother, but rather your history makes you respond unnaturally strongly to his kindness. I would get yourself a good therapist as soon as possible who can help you work through your feelings and define healthy boundaries for you and your brother's relationship.
2007-05-14 15:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Acadia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not OK. You need to see a pschyatrist. You are relly not in love, you have just got some things all mixed up which has been brought on by the abuse. You need some one to give you some professional help so you can get it al straight again.
2007-05-14 15:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm....I don't know if this is serious or a game but either way.... a professional opinion will be the best or hopefully somebody that experience something similar. I personally believe...thank your brother and love him for it....but falling in love that goes further then brotherly love is odd and raises concerns. I hope this help!
2007-05-14 15:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Danny A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK if you really want to hear what i think its that its love but its got to be a brotherly love. because my parents verbally abuse us(me and my Sib's) and i love them to death because whenever they are around and they are talking down to me they tell them to stop and just chill out. i mean don't get me wrong when someone bails you out of a bad situation its like a miracle a sign of chivalry and i think you should be proud that you have family like that, your blessed. not a lot of people have that but seriously think about it, he's family and as you say the only one that is there for you.
2007-05-14 15:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by dye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I think that is not acceptable..but you can't control your feelings toward someone. But i think you need to sit down and find the real truth. Maybe you dont love him as a boyfriend but as a person. There is a difference between a real reletionship and a family reletionship.
2007-05-14 15:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Shannonnnn! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard time, I'm guessing. But you are free to do whatever. Brotherly love, is perfectly normal. I think you will find someone someday, but just don't tell your brother how you feel, he will be extremely grossed out.
2007-05-14 15:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, No, No! You do nothing beyond recognizing he has been there for you, protected you, and loved you. That is part of being a family. Your parent were sick. Thank God your brother wasn't!
2007-05-14 15:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by RT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did your brother get rid of your parents? Did he actually get rid of them or just get you and himself out of that environment?
Either say, I think what you feel for your brother is gratitude, affection and admiration.
2007-05-14 15:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T ACT ON IT! That's disgusting. You can love him sooo much...but only in a brotherly way. Family love.
⥠xoxo
2007-05-14 15:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by em<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋