Have been married for only 5 months. Friends of mine have told me that having your husband or boyfriend give..

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foreplay down their, helps to provide a better orgasm. My husband and I were both virgins before we got married. We are learning, as we go along. Picked up a book, for him - to teach him how to perform orally down their for me. The book is called
"The Lowdown on Going Down: How to give her mind-blowing oral sex." We had never dated anyone before we started dating one another. How do I bring up to him that I want oral sex? How do I go about giving this book to him ? It is awkward. Thanks for all the help.

Please NO answers from men please.

Thank You.

Answer 1

No, it isn't awkward. You married the guy, so you should feel like you can be honest and open with him. No matter how embarrassing...

Answer 2

I know this must be difficult. You should also get a book for couples on how to improve your love life and one for women so that you'll each have a book plus have a book to discuss together. That way, it won't seem like it's just him that needs to make an effort. For virgins that marry, books are probably the best way to learn and get ideas. There's also a book that's titled something like" 365 Days of Romance". It alternates between days with one day having the woman do something for the man and the next day having the man do something for the woman.
When you approach him, just tell him that since this is new for both of you, you thought that this is one way that you might learn together.
Most of all, don't stress out over it. It doesn't all come at once, but it will improve. (And yes, when executed properly, oral sex is mind blowing!) Good luck.

Answer 3

Well first of all as far as the orgasm thing. Having an orgasm for woman is not so easy. it probably will take some time before you can achieve one. If you don't Thatt doesn't mean tha t either of you is doing anything wrong so relax aand take the pressure off the pleasure. 2nd oral is a wonderfull thing and it seems to me that he should have some ideas on his own, so to take the pressure off of you ask him if he wants it, then tell him your curious and want to experience that new pleasure. as far as the book goes men are more visual creatures so i suggest a very soft porno, he'll like it and that will get him excited and he'll want to try it. if not porn some kind of image. But take your time to orgasm, you are either a vaginal type or the clitoral find out first by discovering what area gives you the most pleasure and take it from there. Relaxing is a huge part of it to. good luck

Answer 4

I know that you asked men not to answer, but please read this.
I am the kind of person that understands things, and I have helped many people. Most men, not all, are very open and supportive of their wives' pleasure. Unfortunately, men have egos. They NEVER want to hear that they are not bringing their lovers to orgasm. They also NEVER want to admit that they don't know something.
You should first read the book yourself and memorize all the techniques. Then, tell him that your greatest fantasy is for him do you oral foreplay. That you have always dreamed of him doing this for you. When he starts help him be telling him how great he is and most importantly what he is doing right. After he sees how much you loved it, he will feel like he is the greatest lover in the world. That is the time that you tell him about the book and read it with him.

Answer 5

have you given him oral? If so then just tell him what you told us that friends tell you the orgasm is great. If you already bought him the book that was a big enuf hint. If he still hasnt tried it, then get some flavored oil or flavored lubricant and ask him to put some on you then tell him its flavored and suggest he taste it. If that doesnt work you're going to have to come right out and tell him. If your married then you should have open communication about everything, especially sex.

Answer 6

Tell him you heard from girlfriends about oral sex and you thought that you two could try it. Let him know that you are curious. At that time you could give the book to him. He might even get more into it knowing that you bought him a naughty book! Good Luck! It is a wonderful experience :)

Answer 7

I think that you need to become comfortable sexually before this will start to feel natural. I would probably plan a romantic night and then talk about sexual fantasy. Maybe start with dinner... research foods that are aphrodisiacs, Set the mood with wine, candles and maybe give him a massage with body lotions or oils and then whisper some sexual fantasies to him casually bringing up the oral sex thing.

Answer 8

I too have only been married a short time, and talking about sex could be awkward. But the key to a happy marriage is communication, and i think if it is important to you he would want to know. So i would just ask him if there is anything he would like me to do differently in bed or other wise, and then he would surely ask you if there is anything you would like. That would be the perfect time to bring up the topic. Hope this helps
Good Luck

Answer 9

I think you should just say something I dont think this book is going to help. God I remember asking my boyfriend to do it. This was his first time but I have had it before from someone else. and I felt so sorry for him cause he had no freaking idea what to do. I was even there to coach him thru it step by step. I think if he would have read on it. It would have confused him even more. Maybe you could surprise him with oral sex and then maybe he will want to try it with you.

Answer 10

My wife and I were together for a couple years before we got married. It was another couple years before we started talking about what we really liked.

We found that John Grey's book about marians and veneusian in the bed room (not sure of the name) was a big help in getting a spark of conversation going.

Talk, communicate, if you want him to do something tell him, faster, slower, whatever, he is trying to bring you pleasure, you should help him give it to you, and you to him.

Answer 11

How about just starting to kiss him all over, then move down to kiss and lick him? Then ask him to kiss you down there and he'll be quick to get the point and move on to more than just kissing you. You gotta give oral and you might even like it. All guys love oral, giving and getting.