My neighbor, whom I am not close with at all, called and asked my mother today if he (and, I think, his family -let's hope he included his family in the invitation-otherwise this will turn creepy...) could attend my Senior Brunch as well as my graduation ceremony. I don't feel it's his place to be at either because #1. He was not invited, he is inviting himself. #2. The brunch is for seniors only. and #3. I feel my graduation ceremony should only include people such as family, or family-friends who have significantly been there throughout my high school career. My mother feels obligated to allow him to come to my graduation because he invited us to his daughters, though we didn't go for the same reason I listed above. What should I do??? I find it odd he would invite himself to something like that, especially since we hardly initiate any get-togethers with them.
2007-05-14 15:00:38 · 13 answers · asked by LuvUrGirl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am not close with his daughter either. See....compared to his family, we are the Simpsons. They are much more like the Flathers.....so I don't exactly mesh with them.....
2007-05-14 15:08:58 · update #1
Hey! That's not right. She may be your mom, but it's your graduation. Ask her what she wants to achieve: to make you happy by not inviting them OR making you unhappy by inviting them because she just feels obligated? Make her realize that your next door neighbor may have some vested interest by using you. You don't need any implications from them, if they've got something devious up their sleeve. Make your mom see that it's your decision because it's your graduation. If she gonna go through with inviting them, that decision will never be erased and will remain a bad memory for the rest of your life. Can she live with that? Your neighbor's got no ethics at all.
2007-05-14 15:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by raebert s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is weird. I would definitely not let him go to the Senior Brunch since it is for seniors only, which he should know if his kid just graduated. As far as the graduation ceremony, it wouldn't hurt if he went to that, though can't imagine why he would want to.
2007-05-14 15:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave it up to your mom....you'll be busy doing your own thing. It doesn't even matter whether he should be there or not, the fact that he feels he should be or wants to be should be flattering; he must really like to see you graduate. If you still have some room left for those who you invite, you may as well just let him; it'll obviously make him happy. You're going to be busy with your friends anyway, as many of them will be going a different route than you, enjoy your little time left with them.
2007-05-14 16:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. He was out of line inviting himself in the first place. Just tell him the truth, only family and seniors allowed.
2007-05-14 15:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sharpester 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your mother to decline the self-invitation - you should discuss with her.
He probably feels as though all the children in the neighborhood are close-knit - and having extended the invitation when his girls graduated, didn't think a thing about asking to attend yours. While not the best way to go about things, etiquette wise - it's not the slap in the face you may think it is! He may think more highly of you than you do of him.
2007-05-14 15:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Zasu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I grauduated, there weren't too many seats. Explain that there may not be enough seats and that you need the space for close family and friends. Thank him for his interest but level with him: You want to keep it family oriented. If he's offended you can't do anything about it. He'll recover as long as you continue being nice to him and such. People heal and he will too.
2007-05-14 15:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by LaDonnaMarie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is very strange. I would simply deny him. If he pushes for an explanation simply tell him it is an event reserved for family that is why you did not extend an invitation. Don't be concerned with his feelings, this is your day! You have worked very hard for it; it should be the way you chose it to be. He is creepy! God bless****
2007-05-14 16:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend a number of there names. would not say all neighbours are friendly yet tend to declare hi to every physique passing. Get some that are nosey and attempt and quiz you, yet then you definately comprehend they pass all that documents around the area. So am careful of what i say! I do think of while i became right into a toddler our neighbours have been alot friendler.
2016-12-11 09:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by caren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me too. so i told my mom i didnt want the guy there and she talked to him for me, you know..
adult to adult and she said "im sorry, you cant come, its for senoirs and family only"
but be kind and gentle. also say "i know we probably hadnt have time to get closer as neighbors, so i was wondering if your family would like to join us in a small pinic at the beach later on"
2007-05-15 01:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to get closer, and this is his opportunity? or he wants free food...
2007-05-14 15:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋