Why won't a person change?

Question

My bf wants to lose weight. Rather than exercising daily or making better food choices, he simple eats too few calories. I suggested that we exercise more and make better choices. Nothing too drastic. He agrees, but then he makes little effort to do it. When I cook healthy foods (baked chicken vs. fried chicken or fruit vs french fries) he eats it. At restaurants he drinks/eat high calorie/fat/sugary drinks/foods. He awon't turn down "bad" food when family cooks it for him. Why doesn't he make an effort to learn what's more healthy? (Read a book, take a class, and etc). Why can't he say no ? Why am I the one to suggest that we go for a bike ride or walk?

Why won't he change? Is it because he's only doing for me? He claims he wants to change. He eats healthy foods when I cook it. He doesn't do it on his own. He doesn't make an effort to learn what's healthy. What can I do to encourage him but not nag? How can I make him do for himself and not for me?

Answer 1

it's quite simple.

change takes effort, keeping bad habits does not. people are inherently lazy by nature.

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Answer 3

He seems to not have a strong inner will, he needs to fasten up and be a man about it. You can't change people, but you can sure as hell nudge them the right way.

Answer 4

well if he starts doing it for you... he is still doing it, just keep it up after awhile he will decide he likes it maybe

Answer 5

unless he REALLY wants to, he won't change.