Is sex before marriage wrong if you really love then and know you are going to be with them?

Question

I am really having trouble with this. Could some people give some for and against stuff? Please?

Answer 1

if you really love the person and want to spend the rest of your lives together,
then what is the problem with waiting however long until you get married.
how many times have you heard of people waiting before marriage, and one week before their wedding they have sex and break up. i have heard it many times.

Answer 2

Yes, It is wrong. And if you love them and know you are going to be with them, then why not get married and do it the right way. Sex befor marriage can bring alot of problems that one really doesn't think of. One being Children,other sex partners in some cases, the fact that you did, and now aren't for whatever reason not getting married, now what????See something to think about in making your decision. I say do the right thing, that would put you guys in a class most of us only wish we were in. In the long run you will be glad you did.

Answer 3

Whether premarital sex is morally wrong depends on your particular moral system. By asking this question without revealing your beliefs, you're subjecting yourself to other people's belief systems, and most of the answers will not apply to you directly.

My beliefs are irrelevant to you unless they're the same as yours. This is your decision, and no one else can answer it for you... but I'll get on to the lists.

Here are some pro-sex things:
Sex is pleasurable.
Sex makes babies.
Sex can distract you from other relationship issues for a while.

Here are some anti-sex things:
Sex is pleasurable to encourage you to make babies.
Sex makes babies.
Sex can distract you from other relationship issues for a while.
Sex transmits disease.

Everyone is capable of self-deception, and sex is a powerful influence. Another answerer asked, "if you really know you are going to be with the person, why aren't you married?" Another similar question is, "if you know you're going to be married, why are you in a hurry to have sex?"

Both of those questions can help reveal self-deception. If you were saying "I don't really want to marry this person, but while we're seeing each other I think we can have a safe and enjoyable sexual relationship without long-term complication" it would sound much less like self-deception (even though there is a possibility of a baby, which would almost certainly cause long-term complication).

It sounds to me like your sex drive and your religious beliefs are in conflict, and you're trying to rationalize that away.

That might sound harsh, but it's my honest opinion.

Answer 4

I like the idea of knowing that sex isn't the basis for a relationship. The essence of a relationship is being able to talk to your spouse about stuff as your best friend.

I'm for sex before marriage (being a daily practitioner myself); however, it's not a good idea to have more than 3 partners a week for months and wonder how you contracted AIDS. Make sure you know that this particular significant other of which you potentially speak of has a clean past.

Answer 5

Well..I just had a Youth Rally over the weekend..it's pretty much a youth Rally. The theme was "All things Pure" and the scripture that went with it is Titus 1:15
This verse says "Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled."
This is something made my God. He made it for a husband and a wife. Although you are "in love" there is still a possibility that you will not get married. I don't know your status, but i've known people who were going to get married, and it just broke through, and are now pregnant. You can always wait til you're married, but if you don't obstain, you can't ever change that. Just something to think about. Anyways, just make the right choice! =]

Answer 6

Well, I may not be the right one to answer, since I am a witch. To witches, marriage is a legal, administrative thing. We have "hand-fasting," which may or may not be done in accordance with the laws of the state. For example, I know one witch who had three husbands simultaneously. (They got along just fine.)

But your question was sex before marriage, assuming marriage to be a lifelong monogamous thing. I think if you enter into such a binding contract without having had any sexual contact whatsoever, you are taking a big risk. On the other hand, screwing around indiscriminately is also risky in this day of dreadful sexually transmitted diseases.

Moderation in all things is my motto.

Answer 7

Yes, it's wrong. It's done without a public, legal commitment to each other - as in a marriage. That way, everybody knows you're hers and she's yours and you two are committed to each other holding back nothing. If you REALLY love a woman, prove it to the world.

Answer 8

If you know you are going to be with them in marriage
evenually, what's the hurry? Many jump into bed without
"mathematically" looking at the equation. Wrong equation is:
Hormones=horniness=sex=
children=RESPONSIBILITY.
Right equation; Hormones=restraint=work=
marriage=sex=children=
responsibility.
Cut any corners in this equation and say hello to welfare and poverty...

Answer 9

If your in love than get married! Sex before marriage is very wrong!

Answer 10

there is nothing wrong with it. In some cases it can be good to make sure this is what you really want. But make sure it is what you want before doing something you might regret. you seem to have godo ethics and i trust you will do whatever you do wholeheartedly. I would say go for it if you know it is what you want. If you do and it turns our your relationship doesn't wokr out, hey, at least you figured that out before you got married.