I'm a pretty nice guy who's attached with an anger management problem girl . She apparently never had to take responsibility for her words or actions .
What would you do ?
2007-05-14 13:44:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no idea where to ask this, but I thought that this might be the right one .
2007-05-14 13:45:38 · update #1
Well Earnest, you ARE a nice guy entangled with a gal w/ anger problems. I am a nice lady who has been married for a lot of years to a guy w/ anger management problems....translated...a bully...
It has never gotten better and I doubt if it ever will. The meaner he gets, the nicer I try to be. So unless she is totally committed to addressing her problem and/or unless you are committed to always trying to avoid making her angry... I would advise you to send her packing. Wish this could have been more positive.
2007-05-14 16:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is hard. so many people seem to have some type of anger management problem. i know that having a relationship with this type of behavior will include plenty of abuse, physical or mental/verbal or both. are you willing to have a relationship that you have to tip toe around in? worry that the slightest comment by someone can provoke an outburst of anger...in the most inappropriate place or time? it will take a lot of work and patience dealing with a person like this. stress will run high. if you love her and are devoted to her, maybe you can help and make a positive outcome for you both. i would recommend counseling, for both of you, and to make sure there is no underlying cause.
2007-05-15 08:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mustardseed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate admitting this, but if it will help, here goes. I used to have an anger management problem. It did not stem from lack of responsibility for my actions either. Please, if you haven't already do NOT make that accusation to her. It will only serve to make the problem worse. What helped me, was learning where my anger came from, and how to properly address it. I learned that a lot of it came from suppressed angry feelings as a child. (oldest of 7 here). I also discovered that I needed a "physical" outlet to release my anger. Walking to "cool off" became my saving grace. If you want this woman to stay in your life, encourage her to find a good therapist. Whatever you do, don't make her feel inferior to you.
2007-05-15 11:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by T S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES !!! In the early 80's I had a Girl Friend (Yes, I lived in sin) who hauled off and belted me in the mouth. Never saw it coming. I had to drop to a knee.
I told her that I would not tolerate her kissing another guy in front of me, and said I was leaving. She belted me. I left, only saw her 1 more time when I cleaned my stuff out.
Thats a real issue. As with any other problem, they will not change until they themselves see it as a problem. Tread carefully buddy, that's a tough one...
2007-05-14 20:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ken C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say if you are not seriously involved with this girl. Find some one else who will give you less stress and worry. If you are seriously involved with this girl and you don't want to break it off and wish to change her.... then seek help for her and practice a whole lot of patience. YOU alone cannot change her no matter how nice of a guy you are. She has to be willing to get help on her own, you can only suggest it. If she gets upset with your suggestion, you are fighting a lost cause.
2007-05-14 20:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Vida 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you want my ex-wife's Picture? Phone number? Or the Rap sheet to show the Anger. It's all ready for ya! Jeepers!
2007-05-15 08:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya Bidniss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What would I do... that depends on how much I like her and how crazy she gets when she is angry.
I have dated that type before. One of them I spanked. Not kinky spanked but like spankin a kid on the butt for misbehaving.
However you dont want to do that if they will freak out and like smash your car with a brick or something.
If its that crazy then, if I really like them I would tell them to grow up or they are going to lose a good guy ( that works sometimes believe it or not )
If I really wasnt enough there for that then i would just say start steppin women.
2007-05-14 22:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by sociald 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well actualy I have. It wasn't good. he got reallymad for no good reason! He punched the ground and broke his wrist because he lost a football game. He also totally breaks out and drops f-bombs and s-bombs cause he feels like it. It was a disaster. So I dumped him!!!
2007-05-14 20:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by Popstar 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My bf is the same way. He asked me to marry him. I accepted but then i told him that i will not where the ring until he respects me as far as taking responsibility 4 his actions. So now he is seeing a psychologist.
2007-05-14 20:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My friend Earnest....I have never dated someone with anger management issues...but I do have a brother with one!
I hate to say it....but basically I just told him...A) I'm your sister....take it out on someone else....and B) If you keep screaming at me....that's IT! You can scream at someone else....cause I'm not taking it anymore.
Believe it or not...it worked...we are now closer than ever!
2007-05-15 11:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋