when she comes to your house she non- stop shoves food in her mouth all the while talking about how she only just eats a little here and there (yes, she is heavy set) One time she excused herself from our conversation with another friend at my house and went into the kitchen to get some water. She nosily checked out what kind of bread I use so when she got back, all she could talk about was how I was eating the wrong kind of bread because of this and that that science says is going to give you this or that but, meanwhile she is eating Nacho Cheese Doritos like they are going out of style saying, I just don't know what is wrong with me today, I just seem to be overly hungry. What do you think is wrong with this woman?
2007-05-14 13:04:24 · 9 answers · asked by Midge 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Some people are not aware of what they are doing themselves. I believe that she means no harm at being critical, but she loves to give advice. Sometimes it is hard for people to look in the mirror at themselves before giving others advice.
2007-05-14 13:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by millineumlaura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she's probably embarrassed about her weight, has problems controlling her appetite, and can't bring herself to seek help. Her social skills are apparently lacking, too, which is another area in which she is out of control.
She may not even be aware of what she's doing, or if she is, then she has some serious weight/social issues that she's not capable of dealing with at this time. I guess what you need to do is decide if she is a good enough friend that you're willing to accept her, foibles and all. If her behavior is unbearable, then you may just have to back off the friendship and let it drop.
As matters stand, I don't think confronting her will do anything except upset her. This gal's got some problems that are beyond your ability to help.
2007-05-14 20:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a compulsive overeater.
1. She can't bear to part with any of her food while you are at her house.
2. She can't pass up "free" food (eating at your house).
3. She denies how much she eats.
4. She brings up food in her conversation (saying you had the wrong bread).
It is a mental illness. She may be able to get help at a place like Overeater's Anonymous. However, right now, without help, she cannot stop by herself.
2007-05-14 21:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman lives in self deception and she is also rude.
She probably suffers from some complexes. You are not in a position to change her behaviour. What you can do is to decide whether she has some redeeming qualities worth keeping her as a friend. People rarely change so it's up to you to accept her the way she is or stop socializing with her.
2007-05-14 20:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next time you know she is coming over, don't have food around or don't serve her any food.
2007-05-15 04:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite her over. problem solved. Maybe then she'll get the message. if not, at least you'll still have food!
2007-05-14 20:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't know how to relate socially and hides behind overeating
2007-05-14 20:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
should tell her to mind her own business.
2007-05-14 20:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loser. Stay away.
2007-05-14 20:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by birdie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋