I have a four years old son that is still on diapers I been trying everything and nothing has work,what do?

Answer 1

I just finally had to take my son out of pull-ups. Take him out of them put underwear on him and believe me he will go to the potty after the first couple times he wets or poops himself. Just, still for a littlebit longer, have pull-ups for night, until you notice hes not wet in the mornings when he gets up.

Answer 2

First, is your son using diapers all day or only at night? Our pediatrician told us that some children simply don't develop the ability to wake up in the night and know that they need to use the bathroom until they are 5. It has nothing to do with bladder control - it's an issue of simply sleeping very deeply. Sure enough, we were just very patient with our daughter, didn't make a big deal about it when she had an accident in the night, let her use pull-ups as long as she wanted, and when she was about 4 3/4 she just magically stopped having accidents. It was a total non-issue - we never did any kind of "training" - she just grew into when she was developmentally ready.

On the other hand, if your son is still wearing diapers during the day, it probably is time to regroup. I would first check with his pediatrician to confirm that there's no biological issue here. Then, you might want to try just backing way way off for awhile. This has probably become a huge anxiety for your son and your whole family. Some kids react to this kind of anxiety and pressure by simply refusing to do what is asked of them - and potty training is exactly the kind of situation where the kid has control over whether he goes or doesn't go. If everything you've tried so far hasn't worked, doing more isn't necessarily going to be helpful. You might want to sit down with your son, and explain to him that you know he wants to be a big boy and use the bathroom. If he would like your help to learn how and to stop using diapers, you are there to help him. But, you are not going to remind him or talk to him about it unless he talks to you first. Give yourself one month of zero pressure on him or you, and see what happens.

Answer 3

Explain to your son that he's a big boy now, and no longer needs diapers. Then stop using them completely (that goes for pull-ups as well!) There will probably be quite a few accidents at first while he gets used to it, but he will learn quite quickly that the toilet (or potty) is where to go. Give him lots of praise when he goes there! Remember that you've trained him for the last 4 years that a diaper is the proper place to pee and poo, so it's going to be hard for him to adjust. The most important thing is to be understanding, and not get mad at him when he does have an accident, as it's not really his fault. Good luck!

Answer 4

Get him out of diapers or pull-ups and into "big boy underwear". It'll be messy sometimes but diapers confuse things. Then do something that motivates him... like a chart in the bathroom with star stickers for everytime he goes on the big potty. Then a prize when he gets so many stars (something that he'll LOVE!)

Here's a chart I found that you can print and put up on the bathroom wall.

http://www.childavenue.com/images/Printables/train_potty.jpg

Best of luck! I know it's no fun doing the potty training thing.

Answer 5

Sorry to tell you, but he is too old for not being toilet trained. The trick of the cheerios is great. Talk to him tell him he is too big for diapers than that there's no more diapers for him, be firm. Buy or make a chart for toilet training, where he put a sticker every time he do it in the toilet. Give him a reward for every day he don't have an accident, like crayons, a candy, a hot wheels car, etc.
Be consistent and firm, no more diapers, not even pull-ups, only big kids underwear, you can even use his favorite character underwear as reward.

Answer 6

Don't give up!
You have to put him into regular under wear and promt him to go to the potty ( hopefully he has his own "cool" pottyand some spiderman undees) every 20-30min. Reward him when he goes ( don't go overboard, don't break out the band and ballons:') But praise him. Most of all be prepared to do lots of laundry! Boys just don't have the same motivation to be/stay clean like girls! But he will get it! But if he has diapers on or pull-ups, there is no incentive, they will absorb and absorb there is no sensation that he is wet. Also if you have an older brother or even dad take him to the potty and show him how the big boys do it its more fun.

Answer 7

My brother and sister in-law had the same problem with their son last year. Sometimes it takes boys longer than girl. One thing they told him was he was getting too big for diapers and didn't know what to do if they couldn't get them any more for him. It seemed to work and he starting using the toilet. Good luck,I know how frustrated you must be. It will happen. Take care;^)

Answer 8

I just finally potty trained my 3 yr old. It took me telling her that she would get a bike once she started going potty like a big girl. SO one morning I told her she would not being wearing pull ups anymore and we put big girl panties on her and she has had 1 mistake in them in the 9 days she has been wearing them. My son was hard to train as well so i took squares of toilet paper and threw them in the toilet and told him to sink them, i also used cheerios, i would throw like 3 or 4 in the toilet and tell him to sink them as well. He loved playing the sinking game and that also helped him to learn to stand and aim (which we all know is VERY important). I also used my younger brothers, they were 11 and 9 at the time so when we were at my parents house I would have them take my son in the bathroom (which he thought was very cool). Try the sinking game....he may just like it. Good Luck!!!!!! I know its tough though! Hang in there!! Hugs!!

Answer 9

OK, here is my best advice. Get some Cheerios's or any donut shaped cereal. Drop a couple of them in the potty water, and tell your son to "aim" and "shoot to sink" the cereal as it floats in the bowl. There is just something about shooting, that is a natural for a male and this might be one way to interest him in using the potty. Try it and let me know how it works?

Answer 10

I was getting a little nervous because my son was getting ready to go to kindergarten and still had to occasionally wear diapers and them I went to this seminar I had to attend for work. The man said, "if they are under five you can train them to do anything in four weeks." I had to be firm. I couldn't waver. This is hard because I waver a lot. But I was firm and I didn't waver. We just kept going to the toilet in regular intervals. I threw away all the diapers. He didn't drink before he went to bed and I couldn't believe it. He started going to the bathroom by himself and it took about four weeks.