Am I battling Depression?

Question

Lately I find myself often on the verge of tears and I'm not always sure why. In fact I'm not usually sure why. Even on my birthday and Mother's Day I felt so disconnected, I wanted to fly away. I'm not happy with my life. I never thought I would end up a housewife. I never thought I'd be overweight. My husband's family talks about me behind my back. When I found out, my husband didn't stick up for me either and that's not his usual m.o. I have kids, and though I love them and do a lot for them I don't have any time to go do anything for myself because it would interfere with what I do for them. I don't have many real friends, if any. I don't trust anyone with how I really feel because I've been let down too many times before. My husband talks about being supportive of me going back to work but when I tried to once he got REALLY jealous and I had never seen him like that before so I wonder if keeping some weight on me is a way of thwarting that... advice?

I've been eating very unhealthily and have had no inclination to work out. I feel like I don't care. I worked in the entertainment industry, and of course you know they don't usually hire bigger women unless it's for a character type role and I'm not that overweight. I'm average for your every day female, just not a size 4 anymore. Plus who's to say that I could get work just because I decide to try to go back? That's not exactly an ego booster either! We also don't have much money. Living off 1 salary is hard and we can't afford a lot and my husband's company was just bought out by another company so what's going to happen there is now up in the air! The rest of his family does pretty well and aside from 1 sibling, they do not help each other out. It's every man for himself. I get so tired of them going shopping every week when I can't afford to buy my family new socks. I'm just all around unhappy. I resist taking meds, but is that the answer of something else?

Answer 1

It sounds like it......

Depression is a mood disorder that causes you to feel sad or hopeless for an extended period of time. More than just a bout of "the blues" or temporary feelings of grief or low energy, depression can have a significant impact on your enjoyment of life, your work, your health, and the people you care about.

Common symptoms include:

Depressed mood.
Inability to enjoy activities.
Problems concentrating.
Changes in eating habits or appetite.
Weight gain or weight loss.
Changes in sleeping habits.
Difficulty going to work or taking care of your daily responsibilities because of a lack of energy.
Feelings of guilt and hopelessness; wondering if life is worth living (common).
Slowed thoughts and speech.
Preoccupation with thoughts of death or suicide.
Complaints that have no physical cause (somatic complaints) such as headache and stomachache.

See your Dr if you continue to feel this way. I would try getting a part time job and see if it helps.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

You poor thing. I really do feel for you and I can connect with a lot of the things that you are saying. The answers to your problems are in your question. By getting back to work you would kill a couple of birds with one stone! I feel my job is a big part of my social life, especially when you are caring for everyone else all the time a little adult interaction does you the power of good and will boost your confidence. Also you deserve a little time to yourself, even 1 hour 2-3 days a week would do you the world of good - say at the gym or a walk in the park with a friend or coffee with a friend!! It may be difficult at first to fit into your life but trust me you will soon mange to fit it in without anyone suffering!! Good luck to you - remember a change is as good as a rest and in my opinion not only is it about time but you deeserve it. Housewife/mother is the hardest physical and mentally challenging job going!!

Answer 3

I have been suffering from post partum depression for the past one year when I gave birth to a baby boy. I couldn't stop thinking about how my husband loves him more than me and how things might be better if he wasn't born at all. Thus, I stayed away from him because I knew that I might do something I will regret for the rest of my life.

Almost instantly I went to a therapist and convince them that I need help. Among other things, I've tried herbal supplements and other book to treat depression but nothing works like the Depression Free Method. So now I'm proud to say I'm one of the happiest mother in the world. My husband loves us both very much and I thank the Lord for the blessing he gave us.

Depression Free Method?

Answer 4

Wow,Huni my heart goes out to you.If your husband is acting like this,maybe it's time for a chat?Your come across has a person who wants more from life then just been housewife, and only you can change that.
Something I learnt when I had depression,you need to learn when to put yourself first,yes it may cause some upset,however in a long run, you will feel better for it.
Good Luck

Answer 5

You have a bad case of "victim"-itis. You view yourself as a victim. Butch up! Take control of your life. Noone else will do it for you. Lose weight if it bothers you. Don't worry about what anyone says behind your back. First you have to figure out what is going on in your head, then you can expect the husband, his family, etc., to have respect for you and for people to become your friends. Get it together, girl!

Answer 6

sounds like me, apart from the housewife thing. But yeah, ive been told those are the symptoms, im sorry to say!

Answer 7

I would say you definitely have issues. My recommendation is to seek counseling with a psychologist. If he believes you are clinically depressed, he may refer you to a psychiatrist. Psychiatrists are pros at treating depression with medication. If you don't seek help, you could end up feeling worse.

Answer 8

sounds more like the seven year itch to me. And it sounds like you and your hubby have issues, issues that had better be worked out together, or one or both of you will want to divorce eventually.
Get yourself into counselling.