It would be me, a lesbian or bisexual and him. He only wants to watch me ane the other woman make love, for titalitation he says. What do you think of a man who declairs he is in love with me asking me to do something like this. I really love him alot and would consider obliging him.
2007-05-14 10:04:56 · 26 answers · asked by Redhead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it unless it's something you want to do. These things lead to problems later in a relationship. I personally wouldn't want a guy who was into things like this, it's not a healthy type of thinking for a long term relationship. That of course doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, just that it is up to you.
2007-05-14 10:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one requires a great deal of maturity and trust. Don't allow it to fall into a right or wrong category. And don't allow him to push you into being a part of his fantasy. Just know that this type of behavior is EXTREMELY addictive and no matter how much he tells you he only wants it once, he'll desire it more and more.
Does it make you a bad person? Not necessarily, people have different sexual drives and desires (for whatever reason). And to ignore or deny them can be harmful. As long is it is with someone that is of age and everyone consents, it's your business. But make yourself completely aware of all that will transpire afterwards. You will wonder if he looks at you as a slut. You will question your own sexuality because you'll wonder why you aren't enough for him. You'll wonder if he's done or doing it with someone else.
Lastly, he's not being completely honest-he'll want to touch and participate, trust me. He just thinks once the ball gets rolling, it'll be easier to convince you to allow him to go all the way. Haven't you ever been with a guy who says, "I only want to put it in a little bit."? It's never 'a little bit', it always ends up being ALL THE WAY IN.
If you're going to do something like this, wait until you're in a very secure relationship with someone you completely trust. Oh yeah, guys talk about this kind of stuff so be prepared for his friends to know as well.
2007-05-14 17:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Black I 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He only thinks with one thing, and it's not his brain. You can't be serious about obliging to him. If he loved you and only you, he would NEVER want this. You would feel trashy as well. You're probably not lesbian, then why in the world would you consider another woman? This is another reason I'm so against premarital sex. Honestly, he'll probably cheat on you as well. The guy only has one thing on his mind.
2007-05-22 13:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How comfortable are you with this. It won't be a threesome if you don't take part. These days the idea of a threesome can be very popular. Years from now, will you look back on this event as your bright shining moment or will it be a source of shame that he can hold over your head.
2007-05-22 15:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Stan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do YOU feel about it? If you don't feel comfortable with his request, don't go through with it. It could bring feelings of jealousy and inadequacy into your very young relationship. If you are intrigued, lay out some ground rules and give it a spin.
Whatever you decide, don't be afraid to tell you man what you think. It's not only about what he wants.
2007-05-22 14:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider doing that If he really loved you he wouldn't ask you to commit such a vulgar act he's just fulfilling his fantasy i say drop him and let him find a girl who will do those things! Good Luck ⥠=o)
2007-05-22 04:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes selfish... He should be totally infatued with you and you alone. What does that say about him. UMM honey i love you but id rather see you with someone else....what an a** dont do something to oblige him
2007-05-22 15:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having a difficult time separating love and sex. If he loves you and you alone, then it's a simple matter of a mutual decision. If you are worried about losing him, then it's a LOVE issue.
Some people "swing" as a recreational activity. if it's NOT your cup of tea, tell him so. Period.
2007-05-22 11:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by jcatania58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, You don't feel good about doing it, since you asked. And personnally, I think it makes him a pervert. Someone that loves you would not want you to do that unless he got something out of it-so I think he wants it for the porn. I would tell him no, but its your choice.
2007-05-14 17:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really have to ask this question you don't feel good about it so you shouldn't be doing that at all.
How can you love a man like that? Dump this pervert
2007-05-14 17:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer484 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋