how do i tell my parents??

Question

i think that i might have borderline personality disorder. i can tick all of the boxes when it comes to symptoms and im quite worried about it. im just really scared of telling my parents. i dont even know how to being. they already think im a hypocondriac (dont know how to spell it) and i think that it they will think im just being stupid if i tell them. i have told my best friend and she thinks i should tel them too but i am just sooo worried of how they would react. please help.

Answer 1

Try to talk with your parents about it. Explain to them that you really feel that you need help and that you would like to talk with a professional. If they persist and say that you are a hypochondriac, tell them that hypochondria is very common in people with anxiety disorders and you would feel a lot better if you knew what was going on because something does not feel right. You could try speaking with your school guidance counselor, pastor, or another adult both you and your parents trust and ask if they could give you some ideas (perhaps they know of someone you can speak with). You could also ask if they would mind speaking to your parents with you. That way you could have some support when speaking with your parents.

Answer 2

How old are you? The chances are, if you're under 20, you're just going through some changes. Maybe you're depressed. The best thing to do would be to talk to your Doctor. They're the best people to help deal with this and provide medication if you need it. Possibly counselling?

If you are worried about telling your Parents, then don't. Tell them when you're feeling more in control, or when you've spoken to a Doctor.

If your parents call you a hypochondriac, then this isn't very good. They should be supporting you and not knocking you back. This may affect how you feel about yourself and your mental health.

Talk to your Doctor. They're not allowed to tell your parents, but trust what they do tell you. If they advise you tell them, then fine. Ask the Doctor is he/she minds them coming with you?

Stop doing the online quizzes though... they're bollocks. Really.

Answer 3

If you are old enough, schedule an appointment with your family doctor before telling them. A family doctor can often tell you more then you think about these kinds of situations and even often refer you to someone who can help if they see a problem. You could then tell your parents after you have something from a doctor indicating a problem.

If you are too young to schedule your own appointment unnoticed, then tell your parents that you are concerned and even scared and that you would feel way better if you could just talk to someone.

And just a side note: It's never good to do the whole self examination via self help book without actually seeing a professional.

Answer 4

your parents love you more than anything else in the world. just sit with them and tell them what you feel, be sure to include that you are very very serious.. if they still look suspicious to you tell them to take you to a psychiatrist just for a check up, this way both you and your parents will feel better about it. if you DO have borderline personality, they WILL be worried, but that's just because they love you. don't think that by worrying them you are hurting them, because you are not!!!! because they WILL know in a way or another and if they know that you did not tell them when you first knew the problem, THEN they will be really really hurt.
whatever happens, you will always be special and loved so don't worry...
hope you feel better..
GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

You know honey,...just from reading that you think you are a hypochondriac, tells me that you are NOT a person with a borderline personality disorder...you are smart, and at that age, where you are picking yourself apart, out of maybe feeling guilty, or just a smart person with a vivid imagination...You might be someone with Obsessive Compulsive disorder though, and it has made itself known by your hypochondiacial symptoms...You should go talk to a school councelor and mom and dad, and tell them to assure you and that you dont want to go through life suffering mentally when it is so unneccessary Please say your prayers also, and I promise you you are going to be just fine

Answer 6

I know this isn't going to answer ur question but what exactly is borderline personality disorder? But anyways, whatever it is, it is important to let your parents know what is going on in your life. Maybe you are just over-reacting, your parents care for you, and they want the best for you. they can help you, you are their child and they love you. Unconditional Love. No matter What

Answer 7

My friends & family think I'm a hypochondriac too... :)

First, how old are you? If you are old enough to visit a doctor by yourself without letting your parents know, I would recommend that. If you're not, and you really are concerned about it....then, you'll have to risk them thinking you're full of it....because it's important that things get figured out. Checking off boxes is not going to diagnose you, and you need a professional opinion.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I told my parents many years ago that I thought I was depressed. My mom & dad said that it's not true & that I'm just getting it confused with boredom. I knew then that's not what it was, so for the past... I don't know how many years really... I've been handling it myself. I'm almost 18 & I told my doctor about it, even though my parents protested against it, that I thought I was depressed. He considered it & gave me anti depressants for it. I've been okay ever since he prescribed them to me. I'm doing more things than what I was & I'm more productive, but it doesn't erase the emotions. You should tell them & see what they say. If they argue about it, go see your doctor about it privately. My dad was in the room with me when I told my doctor... but things are okay now & we don't discuss it. Sometimes, you have to fight your own battles by yourself. Maybe you're parents are different from mine & hopefully they'll support you & be by your side. If not, I wish you strength to go about it yourself, because it's hard to do... But you got to do something before something bad happens.
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Answer 9

BPD is a really serious illness. I am assuming that you are a teen and need your parents to help you. My suggestion tell your mom that you have to go to the Dr. Once at the Dr have a candid talk with him/her about your feelings. Take the test results with you and make sure that they refer you to a Psychologist.


Good luck,

Answer 10

Well try this,

just talk to your parents and be like "hey mom/dad i was reading about this symptom and i think i might have it. Can we go to the doctor to be sure". Im sure they wouldnt mine, they might me scared, like any parent would be but yes im sure they would understand.