why do i fall for the thug type?

Question

aw man how bout its this dude i met hes so sexy but hes bad as hell i love his thuggish ways and the way he talks to me dont get me wrong he doesnt derespect me but he knows how to please me ( im not talkin bout sexually either). he keeps it real gudta thats wat i like about him the most he tells it like it is and doenst beat around the busch like most guys do and yea i know he might have otha chicks but im at the point where i dont even care. the point is imma goodie goodie and hes a thug and my family and friends would go crazy if they knew i was dating him what should i do?

i type how i feel and for those who think im dumb . stupid bitches back off my major is english and if i dont feel lyk typing proper shyt i dont have to

Answer 1

They're attractive & exciting, but not boyfriend material. That's why people talk about the bad boys they USED to date, not the bad boys they CURRENTLY date. Somewhere along the way, they learned their lesson and got over the sexiness of bad boys.

You might as well just crush on this guy, but don't get too involved or expect him to make a good bf. Just save yourself the trouble and remember that it is most likely temporary, so have fun, but keep your true heart on lock. And if you are sleeping with him (hopefully not) be careful, ok? Bad boys/thugs have been known to go from chick to chick without thinking about the consequences...

Answer 2

Honestly, no matter what walk of life you're from, this is just apart of the dating experience for women.

I'm engaged at 24, but from 16-23 I dated every 'bad boy' type out there; the 32 year old (I was 18), the umemployed artiste, the bartender/womanizer, the dj/drug addict, the child of a mobster, the drug dealer, the fetishist... the list, unfortunately, goes on. :-)

My point is... it's okay to fall for the bad boy. Hell, it's FUN to fall for the bad boy, especially when he falls a bit for you! The important thing is to take care of yourself, be honest with what he's in it for and don't have unrealistic expectations.

I ended up engaged to the womanizing bartender 5 years after our first relationship. :-) When it's meant to be, everything will just fall into place for you. Love is bizarre like that.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You have to determine what is more important to you in a relationship. If he has other chicks, in my opinion you are selling yourself short. If you are going to allow him to have other women, in my opinion you have some self esteem issues although I could be wrong. Anyway, not many women in my opinion appreciate the upfront and to the point kind of guy and I respect that about him. A lot of women like "bad boys" so to speak, trust me I know. Just remember he may not be the type that you want to be bringing to the family barb a que. You may learn something from the experience but be careful and protect yourself sexually because if he has other women you know what he is doing with them... Trust me I know...

Answer 4

If you don't put a stop to this boringly common, narrow minded "poor me" behavior right now. Plan on a life of fatherless children and cart pushing jobs. Its 2007 and the only thugs making a living are Bacardi spokespeople. If your at least over 18. Do yourself a favor and date people in who are around there second year of college... or as a very low-end perquisite demand all your current love affairs have at least acquired a GED

Answer 5

here is the only thing I can tell you. They are cute. Keep them on the side. Don't get involved with them. I too always dated the thug type. You know what it got me? Beat up and in jail. You will end up letting them bring you down. They are cute, but they aint no good. One day you will get tired and they won't be so cute anymore. Sure they are cute in your bed, but how cute is it when they ask you for money and have to walk and ride the bus to your house until they finally work their way in and get your car? Once a thug always a thug. Don't get attached. Do what you do with him, but don't even think for a minute he could be your man.

Answer 6

4 reasons:
1. You live in constant fear and you think his shoot first-ask questions later disposition will keep you safe.
2. You lack self-esteem and good common sense.
3. You're trying to pay back your family by knowingly associating yourself with someone they disapprove.
4. You fell out of your crib and and no one noticed that a few marbles rolled out of your head.

2 things-Learn to write and spell-you're embarrassing yourself and others. Dispense with the ghetto jargon so that people who might truly be able to assist you will take you serious and not dismiss you as an idiot. Do we care? Yes we do, because it will be the collective society who will have to support your illegitimate child should you get pregnant by this thug and he ends up in the penitentiary or worse yet extinguished by rival gang gunfire.

'Represent' yourself, your gender, your family, and your race with dignity and respect. You're doing all 4 a disservice by tiptoeing down this path.

Answer 7

aslong as u like him then thats all that matters. if ur worried about wht ur friends might say then just keep it on the low for a cuple off weeks untill u've got to no him better then maybe tell ur friends after a cuple ov weeks im sure they would understand aslong as he treats u well. im the exzact same i always seem to be more attracted to the "thuggish" guys lol.

Answer 8

All women go through their bad boy phase. Just don't be surprised when the bad boy does you bad. As long as you imagine and expect the worse it's okay. Keep in mind it's okay as long as he's not selling drugs, stealing, or harming someone. It would be a shame if you get thrown in jail or end up hurt because you love thugs.

Answer 9

hi sweetie. LET ME TELL YOU EXACTLY HOW IT IS. THERE ONCE WAS THIS GIRL W/THE MOST BEAUTIFUL VOICE IN THE WORLD. SHE BECAME A FAMOUS SINGER AND SHE ALSO CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY. SHE STARTED DRINKING A LITTLE, THEN SHE STARTED SMOKING POT, AND THEN SHE DID A LITTLE COCAINE ONCE IN A WHILE. SHE THEN MET THIS WASHED UP SINGER WHO WAS DOPED UP, CRACKED OUT ,AND AN ALCOHOLIC. THEY GOT MARRIED AND IN NO TIME SHE BECAME A DOPE FIEN, CRACK HEAD , AND AN ALCOHOLIC. THIS GIRL I'M TALKING ABOUT IS WHITNEY HOUSTON AND THE BUM SHE MARRIED IS BOBBY BROWN. SHE'S TRYING TO MAKE A COME BACK. GOD BLESS HER. RULE OF THUMB. YOU NEVER GO OUT W/SOMEONE WHO'S MORE MESSED UP THAN YOU, NO MATTER WHAT AREA IT'S IN. IT'S QUICK SAND. THE MORE YOU PUSH AND MOVE AROUND THE MORE YOU SINK. ALSO TRY YOUR BEST TO LEARN FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S MISTAKES SO YOU WON'T HAVE TO MAKE THEM. DON'T GET TOO OLD TOO YOUNG AND TOO WISE TOO OLD. LIKE THE ITALIANS SAY,"SMARTEN UP!"

Answer 10

Many girls/women like thugs. As I call them, the bad boys. The truth is they are more fun. It's the way it is. I was the same way many years ago.

Do try to get over it and find a decent guy. They are out there.