Do I start calling them?
2007-05-14 09:34:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
The whole point of these cards is that one does not have to converse with people - this works on two levels - they do not have to TELL you WHY they are not coming - and you do not have to re-iterate.
If they have not replied ASSUME that they are not coming.
If you are worried that they may turn up and that would be awkward - send a note telling them that you are sorry that they could not attend but that you look forward to seeing them in the near future/next function.
Arn't people rude?
Enjoy your day anyway!
2007-05-14 10:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by isobellistowel 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you thought those guests were more likely to come than not, call them the two days past RSVP day.(you should ask to RSVP at least 5 days before a party) but if you barely know them, forget about it. (however it never hurts to be expecting like 2 extra people for every 20 that come. in a case like this. some people wanna be cool and not RSVP. some just forget.
2007-05-14 16:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by k2koolbchgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is something that is catered for you should call them and say I have to know now not later as i am ringing the caterer.
Then if they just turn up you can say well I rang you and you didn't give me an answer so I just assumed you were not coming. It is very ill mannered not to call even if you cannot make it to an event, a lot of people are afraid to ring if they don't want to go but even so they should still ring and inform you even if they are not coming.Once i was planning an event and i was waiting on quite a few people to call when they didn't and food had to be pre cooked, I cancelled it altogether and planned for ti to be close Friends and family only, when i started to get calls at the last minute, i had the pleasure of saying , the party has been cancelled we are going out with family. then they had to audacity to complain, so I said the party would have been quite expensive and if you cant be bothered to call, your loss. We went to a restaurant and used the leftover money for extra things for the kids.
2007-05-15 03:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by kymm r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need a head count (like for a wedding reception) and it will cost you money to have people show up unexpectedly or not show up at all, then it's okay to call them a few days (or weeks, depending) before the event and say you just wanted to make sure they got the invite and hope they can make it.
If it's for just an open house party type of event, then don't worry about it. No RSVP usually means they won't be able to make it.
2007-05-14 17:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a common thing among guests that don't know for sure. If they don't respond, call and ask if they are coming so that you can order the right amount of food and drink. If they are waiting for a work schedule, it may be hard to decide. Ask them to please call when they are sure if they can make it so that you will have enough food for everyone. If they are reluctant or unsure, let them know that you really want them to come to your party.
Remember, the sooner that you call them, the sooner you will know if they are coming.
2007-05-14 18:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, wait about 48 hours to see if anyone just so happened to forget. Then, if not enough RSVP-ed then, you can start calling.
2007-05-14 16:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by 4evaluvmuzic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ring them and say the day for RSVP has passed, can you please tell me if you are coming. They may have forgot to send it, or it has got lost in the post or they never got your invite. There is nothing wrong with opening your mouth and verbally asking them.
2007-05-14 17:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO sent them another card saying they are off the guest list.
2007-05-15 03:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the important family members you expect to show; figure about 10% of the others will show anyway.
2007-05-14 16:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by wizjp 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't call them. Wait another couple of days just in case they forgot.
2007-05-14 16:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by a_k 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋