How do you know when to approach someone?

Question

Okay, I am newly single and am floundering in the dating world. A few questions that sorely need answers: 1) How do I know when a guy is interested, and how do I approach him? 2) Why don't people hit on me? I've had plenty of people tell me I'm hot so what's the deal? 3) I don't wish to just "sleep with people", so how can you tell if that's all someone else wants?

Answer 1

1) The best time is when someone is smiling or laughing. If you are unsure, keep in mind that most guys will not be offended if you just walk over and say "hi", irregardless of the circumstances, unless he is really busy. Most guys will find it to be a pleasant surprise that a girl took the initiative for once.

2) Most girls are offended if a guy "hits" on them, so most guys quit doing it, because they are tired of being rejected. Why can't you hit on them? You don't have to be a passive person who waits for someone else to make the first move.

3) This is easy -- don't sleep with them! Duh! If he just wants sex, then you will figure that out when he leaves to go find someone else. it shouldn't take long. Of course, you could casually bring up the subject yourself during the course of the initial conversation -- I'm assuming that you are an adult, and that discussing an adult subject shouldn't cause you any problems.

Answer 2

Hi, Ok had to answer this one been there myself! Get an introduction through a friend a work colleague a dating agency/site. Get out there dating for fun again. Don't see every guy as 'the one' believe me they're not. As the saying goes...lots of frogs/toads and kisses before Prince Charming comes along. Be true to yourself. Don't put up with second best there is another Mr Perfect out there. The more time you spend around guys the more you'll get back into the swing of working out the creeps from the good guys. And don't forget it is you who does the selecting. Any guy who lets you down is not seeing how wonderful you are. And do you really want someone who doesn't think you're wonderful? NO! So enjoy. It's scary at first but then it becomes fun. Mature guys are so much more than when they were spotty teenagers, more intellectual, more well mannered. Take care.

Answer 3

If you're hot than just approach a guy. Listen 95% of all men are spineless wimps.

Ok here we go read this carefully.

What gives a woman value? Her looks. When a woman has value, she is more desirable. Therefore a man will seek to win her approval. So having high value will allow you to be "desirable to a man". Now chances are if you're hot just walk by him and say that shirt is cute. 95% of the time the guy will try to talk to you, and then after 5 minuets he'll lose the conversation because he is not socially savy. And therefore you won't be attracted to him.

Good luck finding a guy who is actually socially competent.

Answer 4

I am in the same situation and it's hard to know what guys are feeling. The best advice is to go up to the guy and just start a conversation and go from there. It's a little nerve wrecking, but you will feel so good once you do it. I don't think there is really a sign to know if that is what a guy wants. Also guys sometimes don't hit on girls because they think they aren't available or they wouldn't go out with them. We intimidate them. Good Luck!!