Well i've been going out with an 21year old for about a month now but my parents don't know about this but i'm only 17 years old and when I call him he always says that he has to do something or he's about to leave to go to a meeting and that i should call him later and i've only seen him twice i need to know what is going on can anyone HELP ME thanx?
2007-05-14 09:01:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone your own age
2007-05-14 09:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*First of all you two have a pretty big gap in your age difference, and you must remember that you are a lot younger than he is.*
.Therefore you hold him back from doing "adult" things, such as going to bars...(you are too young to go.) basically when he's with you it's harder for him to do the things he enjoys doing, b/c you are too young to tag along and join in with him.
.So he's probably saying he's "busy" all the time b/c he has found other things to do and he's busy with other people who are his age. To him, (no offense intended!) but you are immature...and he probably doesn't want to deal with any dramatics or anything...so he's basically attempting to avoid you.
**Please don't think I'm being a jerk ok, I've had this happen to me before too...so I'm only speaking from experience...and just my own thoughts about why the older guy I was seeing did the same things to me.**
.Anyways I think it's just because he's older and usually (NOT ALL guys) but for the most part they are only looking for one thing from younger girls...yes...sex.
.And if he's already gotten that from you, then you can bet 9 times out of 10 he'll be on his way to the exit w/o so much as a goodbye and a thank you.
.So I think that you should just go ahead and accept the situation for what it is, and you can try to talk to him maybe once more..but if you get no response, then I think it's time you call it a loss. Not yours but his.
.You do not need to waste your time on a guy who is only making you an option when you make him a priority. You're better than that...so show him.
.....good luck.
2007-05-14 16:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems that in his eyes you are not dating. Not sure what level your relationship is to, but it seems he may be looking at this as a friend with benifits things. In my opinion (which isn't much) I would suggest you find someone that you would have more in common with. you being 17 and him 21, I would think he would be going out to bars where you can not go and trust me, "when the cats away the mice will play".
Best find a guy you can hang out with and will call you and want to hang out with you. A rule of thumb if you havn't meet his friends, he doesn't look at you as a possible girlfriend. Sorry if this is rough but better only a month into it then later on.
2007-05-14 16:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by I got 2 points for this answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young for this guy right now. You have to remember his mind is most likely somewhere else. I too dated a 21 yeard old at the age of 17th. I can honestly tell you that breaking up with him was the best decision ever. If i guy cares for you he will make the time for you even if he is busy. Go with your Instict. You know when a man is really interested in you, they will give you 100% attention. He is older..... of course age doesn't matter in love. But you are smarter than that. He is avoiding you. Walk away before he hurts you. Enjoy your youth right now. Focus in school and making a future for yourself, you will meet the right man.
2007-05-14 16:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but it sounds like he isn't that interested. Once you are older, I don't think an age difference of 4 years is that much. However, a 21 year old and a 17 year old are vastly different. I would look for someone your own age.
2007-05-14 16:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by starbagoz19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun you should go out with some one your own age because you only seen him twice start hanging out with your friends and hanging out with boys your age . You should also confront this 21 year old and tell him you wanna know whats going on
2007-05-14 16:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by spud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's gotten smart and figured out that getting caught with YOU will ruin his life and get his *** on the sex offender registry for the rest of his life.
Do this guy a favor and stop calling him..and do yourself a favor and stop sneaking and lying to your parents they have rules for a reason.
Remember, it's nothing personal, it's THE LAW. 16 will get you 20..and smart men know this mantra like they know their johnson. Keep away from minor wimins or go to jail.
2007-05-14 16:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Garrison G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not that interested in you for a serious relationship. Find a guy your own age. One you don't have to hide from your parents like a rebellious 13 year old.
2007-05-14 16:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how well your parents will take it, but if he keeps going out on you, maybe you should have second decisions on if you really should still be going out with him or not.
2007-05-14 16:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by colleenicole! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have enough time for you, and doesn't even give you an explanation/apology, I would recommend you to just stop calling him and find someone who shows he cares.
Good luck!
2007-05-14 16:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Eduardo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋