when you have a piece of paper backing it up?
2007-05-14 08:53:18 · 18 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not me! My fiance and I will have our baby in 3 more weeks and have no plans of marrying anytime soon. We've been together 7 years and plan on marrying eventually. However, things are great the way t hey are now, and our baby will not lose any love from the fact that we dont' have a paper backing us up. We are saving all of our finances for our son and not some crazy wedding. And if we do marry, we're happy just going to city hall! And no, I'm not some ignorant teenager...I have my BA and a full time job.
2007-05-14 08:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by keonli 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I assume you mean a marriage license? I think it is optimal is there are two parents raising a child. It really takes a couple of people to do it. All that pressure on one person is not fair. I have two kids under three and I am tired. My husband is very supportive and shoulders half the load when he is home. But I still feel really maxed out sometimes.
They make single parenthood look too easy on T.V. My mother was a single parent and she mentioned to me yesterday that she wasn't allowed to catch a cold or have a headache for over ten years because there was no one else to care for us. That must have been grueling.
Is you are asking gay couples should be allowed to raise children - sure why not? Some of the most loving couples and best parents I know are lesbians.
To me my marriage license is not just apiece of paper, it is a promise we have made to each other, to God and legalized with the government. But knowing that some people do not have marriage as an option yet...No I don't think you should have to be married to provide and loving home. Just provide a loving home!
2007-05-14 16:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It can be achieved when two people are committed to making it work. A piece of paper do not guarantee nothing. If both parties are in it together for the long haul it can be acheived
2007-05-14 16:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by kayanna123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 part answer
For me~ In order for ME to have a stable loving home environment, I HAD to have a piece of paper backing it up.
As for everyone else~ No~ there are all types of stable loving home environments in the world w/o a piece of paper backing it up. Also, there are many unstable homes w/ parents who are married..
2007-05-14 16:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Proud mother! 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of lots of people who had that piece of paper, the kids are now dead at the hands of their father who then went on to kill himself, happens all the time if you watch the news. marriage does not equal stability it is the heart and mind of the person raising the child that must be stable. your belief system is fine for you and it works for many but this is a subject where you cannot generalise not every marriage is stable and loving and not every single parent is unstable and irresponsible.
if you believe the contrary then where did you get those rose coloured glasses because I'd love a pair
2007-05-14 17:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by cathc 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
unfortunatly kids in todays generation are more rebelious than ever before. so having a stable enviroment may be hard since kids are into just about everything now adays. the only suggestion would be to shield them of sorts from the outside world limit playtime, limit friendship, provie transportation to and from school, reach a full understanding with the teacher and principal. That should set off a chain or events in your favor
2007-05-14 16:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by 1chance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters whether you're married or not, unless your religious beliefs need to be factored in. I feel that as long as both parents get along and show the kids that they love them regardless of the parents' legal status, then the kids will feel complete and whole. Even if the parents aren't together, you both need to be a team when it comes to the kids so they don't have to take sides or feel confused b/c the rules are different. I think consistancy is more important.
2007-05-14 16:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that at all! I think it's more acceptable in society to have that piece of paper but is the determining factor of a stable home? Heck no.
2007-05-14 15:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As long as you provide nurturing as a mother and the father provides the same as a father... I think it's perfectly fine. If your child has a parenting figure in there life and the two of you act as if things are the way that married people act, there is no need for that pc. of paper. More power to ya!
2007-05-14 16:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by faetyn 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you mean by getting married?
No, it didn't get married to provide a stable, loving home environment. I got married because I loved the man I was with, and I knew that we were already in a stable, loving environment.
2007-05-14 16:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋