ex now lives abroad, I think he maybe married now, I have emailed him but no reply, Should I give up, or carry on, What do you think I should do next. Don't wanna seem desperate!
2007-05-14 08:50:50 · 26 answers · asked by thumperj317 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Was he your first, and if so thats the way love goes.
I still love my ex from 10 years ago and I just had to let her go and be happy.
2007-05-14 08:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by jetski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need is love! The Beatles are right! I see you have a tender heart that longs for love. Pretty normal, and as you are planning for marriage it seems as though the love you got ain't enough! Seriously look at your present situation and make a check list for yourself and compare it with the one you could imagine having, should your ex be here now. Then make a choice! But wait! The one that you can imagine is not real! It's imagined! and besides....it's gone and over with!...I was with someone who was still hooked on someone from their past even though it was clearly over with....or was it....Part of moving on is letting go...Without that you can't move on and I think, you, as a woman knows that. I can see this is your struggle and you need to match your thoughts with your feelings or I see trouble ahead hon!..ya I know it's hard to let go of some special moments (especially where the passion is concerned), but usually if you can play the tape right through you can see that letting go is usually the easier thing to do considering your options....Follow your heart and if it's not quite with you now...hmm...Sure you wanna get married yet?...good luck!
2007-05-14 09:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go for heaven's sake. He didn't want you. Let go.
AND
Be fair to your fiance. Level with him about these feelings of yours - You owe him that much. Yeah. He may leave you - but at least you were honest. He'll thank you for it.
If, for some reason he doesn't leave you, then go a lot slower. Postpone ANY kind of weddiing - even if it means giving up deposits. You're not ready. Don't give in to pressure. You're not ready.
If fiance leaves and you're "all alone!" well, that's actually a good thing. You need to work on yourself before trying to make a marriage work.
2007-05-14 08:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't marry your poor fiance that would not be fair to him. Being engaged and facing marriage he should have every expectation that your hope, thoughts, and dreams are all about a future with him. Clearly this is not the case.
You are not ready to be married to him. You are desperate...desperate to be told it's OK to not be married and to get out of a relationship with someone whom you are only going to hurt and make miserable.
2007-05-14 08:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Garrison G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married if you are in love with another man. That is not fair at all to your fiance. I think that you need to wait until you know for sure what you want! The ex... it was 10 years ago you need to move on.
2007-05-14 08:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like if you do not get in touch with the ex you are just going to "settle" for your fiance'. That's just not right. As someone who got married to a girl who just wanted to be married and wasn't in love with me let me tell you that is just low down.
You need to tell him what is going on. If you marry him that is wrong on so many different levels. Don't hurt this guy because you couldn't find you true love.
2007-05-14 09:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are making excuses for yourself because you really don't want to marry your fiance. You may have strong feelings for your fiance but deep down you know that he is not the one for you. Your ex isn't the one for you either. You two did break up for a reason and he has obviously moved on with his life. I would look deeply and search your sould for the answer of whether or not you want to marry your fiance. Then you need to have a talk with him. You might have a case of cold feet or you may just not want to be with him. I wish you luck!
2007-05-14 08:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I he won't reply there is nothing u can do about it. If he does reply then u could find out if he's married. But in the meantime don't get married yourself if your not in love. If you do you will not be happy. ALso it's not nice to lead on your current man. Would u like it if he was doing it to u?
2007-05-14 08:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell your spouse about how you feel. But of course tell her you love them more (why would you be engaged!) Talk to your ex and just be friends! after all it was 10 years ago. if they wanted you beck then they would come to you. That is what I would do! I should know I have many ex's. well good luck
2007-05-14 13:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by silver r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years is a long time to be pining over someone. If you love your fiance then you must move on before you ever get married because it wouldn't be fair to him if your still thinking of your ex...Do the right thing...
2007-05-14 09:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Soccer Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋