So many differences, any solutions?

Question

I've been in a relationship for almost a year. He's been extremely stressed with his family and work not doing well. Things were fine until recently when he's began pulling away from me. It feels as if we took a step back and now dating not in a relationship. We want to work things out but we don't know where to start. We live an hour away from each other and he's so busy with with work and family I only see him after he gets out of work during the week. Our backgrounds are so different, and with everything else we found ourselves at a standstill. He says he's confused and doesn't know what he wants, but he doesn't want to lose me. He's looking to me for answers that I can't give him cause I'm just as confused as he is. CAn we make it work and if we can how?

Answer 1

i believe i understand what u are going through,D.i think it really depends on the extent of his problems,and how far he is able to make amends so as to make things work for both of u.being in a relationship entails making concessions and sacrifices;if both of u intend to really keep it going,then u 2 should discuss what things could be done to remedy the situation.discuss with him how much u are concerned about him and his problems,as well as how much u are about ur relationship,and ask whether there could be anything u could do to help him.
being in a relationship also entails understanding and patience;the fact that u 2 are living apart would surely makes things a little difficult for both of u,and u should be prepared to deal with that,without giving up what brings u together.
u shouldn't despair;nothing is beyond ur ability as long as u both love and care for each other,and desire to make things work for each other.communication,i believe,is the key to a healthy relationship.

Answer 2

If he is pulling away from you, he has so much on his mind, he feels like he has to take care of other business before you and him can be back in a relationship, just give him time.

Honey, just give him time you will not lose him if he says so he still loves you he needs space and time to work things out with his family.

You can make it work! Do not give up, he will call you when he will, he is dealing with so much now, just be there for him, and reassure him when he calls you that you love him and will always be there for him to talk to.

Just be there for him, and let him work out things in his life by himself, the best thing you can do right now, is be there for him. He knows that, so just relax and keep telling him how special he is and how very much you need him in your life and that you will always be there for him!

Answer 3

perhaps giving each other some time and space would help don't push him for answers let things come natural and fall in place pushing or rushing for answers he or you don't have will only make things worse I'm not saying start seeing other people just try to make the most of things when you have them make those moments memoriable seeing looking for answers from each other is only making each of you pull away more stop playing tug of war and work together to make it work, breathe, and just let things happen

Answer 4

Hon, Are you sure you want to make it work ? I say let your heart lead the way. A love needs to be open and honest to last !People need to look into thier own hearts for awnsers.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

If its meant to work, and if you want it bad enough it will. One of you needs to commit and move in with the other, or else it will be very hard.

Answer 7

just give him som space and make him work it out the way he can

Answer 8

I don't think so love, but try your best anyway. It's just a distance thing

Answer 9

he's married