A while back when my boyfriend and I started dating, I found out that he looked at porn. (Not that he was addicted, just that he did it occasionally). I got really upset when I found out, and I'm still not over it almost a year and a half later. If he isn't hard when I do the smallest thing like touch his leg or give him a hug, I get really offended. I just feel like if he can easily get off looking at some nasty girls, than he should get off just as easily looking at me who he "loves" and "thinks is the prettiest girl in the world". What is my problem? We've talked the issue over multiple times, but I can't help but get angry at him sometimes. Please help, I really don't want this to ruin my relationship! (Also, he touched some girl's boobs when we first started going out...which I consider cheating..and now I can't stand seeing any movies with adultery or hearing about adultery easier) What's up with me?
2007-05-14 08:35:48 · 9 answers · asked by weezerlvr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let your insecurities get the best of you. Explain to him his behavior is not appropriate and that it hurt you.. Also, maybe you feel he will cheat on you and that he had broken your trust. Porn is very bad it creates an opening for people to behave as we should not... I think they should ban porn ..
update: not all men like or watch porn some think it is degrading to women....and it seems like in the USA we make it ok and men disrespect women all the time
2007-05-14 08:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by je 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like having a little confidence in yourself would help alot. If the only way you'll feel beautiful is if he gets turned on looking at you, then that doesn't say much for how you value yourself.
Honestly, ALOT of people look at porn. And for alot of people, it's easier to get off that way, because there's not somebody right there, up in your face, expecting something. It's easier to be turned on when your alone, because you don't have to worry about embarassment, or not knowing what to do, or somebody watching you or making a comment.
2007-05-14 15:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Luna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please. GROW UP. All boys have looked or do look at dirty pictures. SOME men are addicted and THAT is a problem.
You are just insecure in your relationship. My girl points out a pretty chick if she thinks I missed her..she knows I am going home with her and her confidence is a total turn on for me.
If you don't give up the attitude you are going to end up a whining needy bratty woman who can only attract a man who is going to abuse her because it's what you expect.
There is nothing sexier in the world than a woman so secure in her own "gifts" and beauty that she tells me to "look at that rack". Secure self-assured women are a total turn on and those are the gals that do not get cheated on.
2007-05-14 15:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Garrison G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are possesive about your boy frined and its common. Watching porn movies is not that much bad as its very common. But touching boobs of other girls means its little bit further and who knows later you might know that he has touched other things or might have shared his bed also. touching other girls boobs is a cheating and watching porn movies is not a cheating. Think and judge yourself.
2007-05-14 15:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your insecure.
I found out my bf was looking at porn a while back and i was really irrational about it and broke his porno.
a little after i did it i realized that wiether a guy loves his girl and is in a relationship or not hes still gunna watch porn, its normal. but if he does it constantly and cant get off when you two have sex then it becomes a problem.
2007-05-14 15:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by whineyviney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your a little over the top here. most guys look at porn it doesnt mean there cheating. It sounds like you get mad because your afraid he would leave you so you go overboard and consider his acts cheating..touching anothers boobs...yeah stupidity, thoughtless, and just plain dumb cheating though i dont think so.
Trust honesty respect communication foundation of any relationship try it
2007-05-14 15:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys like porn. End of story. You can't change it. Get over it.
You cannot expect your boyfriend to react to every single little thing. Get over it.
Perhaps going to therapy will help you overcome your self-esteem issues and obsessive tendencies over this issue.
2007-05-14 15:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that you don't do all the things that the girls in the movie do...Either start doing that or stop being jealous.
2007-05-14 15:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you got against porn??? you really need to grow up and wait until you can handle a mature adult relationship!!! :D
2007-05-14 15:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋