My partner and I are ready to have a baby. I have one more year in school. And I have a very good job, and mon

Question

My partner and I have been breaking up, and making up. And we left each other a long while, and now we are back together. Everyone says that its meant to be because my partner had moved out of state, and changed the number. But... I'm notsure. All I know is that we are together now, and happier than ever. And in 2 yrs. I'm going to buy this 3 million dollar house and that'll be my gift to myself. I would be a good mother. I just want to hear other people's opinion on this matter though.

Answer 1

What ever happened to getting married, getting settled in a career and making sure the relationship will work before you start having kids?

You're not ready to have a child, because by the tone of your question, you're pretty childish yourself.

p.s. A 3 million dollar house does NOT make you good mother material.

Answer 2

A baby is a serious decision to make. I have no doubt that you'd be a good mom but what about the dad? People used to say my ex of 5 years and I were meant to be but we broke up, i'm engaged and pregnant with someone that really loves me. i know that you may really love this guy but really think about why you've been breaking up. Who's the one doing the breaking up. If it's because of cheating forget the baby, at least with him. If it's minor issues then take some time to fix those things until you are both confident that ya'll are happy being together. A baby deserves to have a mother and father that love each other just as much as they love baby. Don't think because you've been together two years or because you break up and get back together that it's time for a baby. That's called denial. A baby doesn't fix problems, but it sure can create some being born to the wrong people. I wish you the best and hope that you do get the baby you want so badly.

Answer 3

This just sounds so fake.

First off what is this partner stuff? Are you a lesbian? Not like it matters but you she be clear when asking for advice instead of dancing around things.

Secondly, saying your going to buy a 3 million dollar home makes it look like your lying and just messing around with people. If your not lying looks like you mainly care about what people think of you and showing off for attention so having a child when your that selfish wouldn't be a good idea. Children require a lot of things and from the sounds of it you don't have it. Why do you need to "gift" yourself anyway?

Children also need stability and you really don't have that. Just because your happy now doesn't mean you will be in 3 years.

Just because you think you would be a good mother doesn't mean you would be. But instead of buying a "3 million dollar home" you should buy an inexpensive home and put those millions in the bank for your child's future. However I doubt you have that kind of money because you ran on a paragraph, started a sentance with And and just sound stupid and fake so I doubt you have $3 let alone $3,000,000.

Answer 4

I still think you and your partner needs more time before you decide to have a baby. Remember, security first. Don't make the same mistake I did. When you have a baby that don't neccessarily mean that everything will fall into place it just mean more responsibility. When you are just beginning to pick up the pieces to your relationship again you still need time to heal. And to add a major responsibility on top of that can strain the relationship. Spend time together, grow together, be sure this relationship together is what you want. I still know people who gave it a second chance and still split. Finish school, and buy that house in 2 years and see if this is still what you want with this person.

Answer 5

Although raising children is very rewarding and good fun, it is hard work. No amount of money can change that. Your decision to have a baby should not be based solely on your financial status. A baby can put a tremendous strain on any relationship, you need to be sure that your relationship with your partner is rock steady and that you are both ready for such a commitment. You should also make sure that you are willing to put any goals that are for your own development or pleasure on the back burner for a while as a baby completely takes over your life. You sound as though you are quite young and have a lot of living to do first. Its up to you though at the end of the day.

Answer 6

When you say "school" do you mean school or university? Because if you're still in school, it's probably not a good idea to have a baby yet, particuarly if your relationship has been unstable in the past. And are you sure you're able to afford the 3 million dollar house? And would you be able to look after a baby, realistically? Do you both work? Who would look after the baby or would you hire a nanny? Make sure you think of and discuss everything before even going there.

Answer 7

Why not wait 2 years than to have the baby and see how the relationship goes. Moving with a baby would be a pain. Plus getting them to sleep in a new enviroment no matter how much the house costs.

Answer 8

If you keep splitting with your partner, why do you think now is the time to have a baby? To keep him with you? It doesn't work like that unfortunately. If he's not staying with you now, a baby won't make him either.

Why not give the relationship a go until you're done with school? Then you can see how things are going and make a more rational decision.

Answer 9

I saw in one of your previous questions that your are 16 or 17. You must have one heck of a job to be able to afford a 3 million dollar house as a gift to yourself. Anyhow, if you want my opinion you don't sound ready to have a baby, you should be a bit more settled first.

Answer 10

If you keep breaking up, there is obviously something not right in your relationship. Either find out what the problem is and resolve it, or break up permanently.