I'm thinking about it, quite like the idea of sex with no strings. Opinions please?
2007-05-14 07:35:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex with strings would probably be awkward and uncomfortable. Stick with no strings.
2007-05-14 07:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So funny that you've posted this question. My ex, whom I still live with made a brief comment on this today. I said no immediately! How can you just have sex with someone you used to (or maybe still) have feelings for? You might not have them now but sex will bring out feelings you once had. I'm sure people would love to believe there are "no strings attatched," but eventually a string or two will form...there's just no way around that. If I were you I would say NO WAY! There's just no point in getting involved with something that could eventually hurt you or affect you in a negative way.
2007-05-14 07:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by dvlbeneathwings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea is great, the practice fun, but the reallity is things do change.
It's one thing to be a good friend, and a completely different one with benefits.
Sex with no-strings is good, it's just that for some reason these strings appear without either of u realising, then it's too late one of u is gonna get hurt.
It doesn't take much to change how u feel for sum1, especially if u r already good friends.
If u'r best m8 is of the opposite sex, then they meet some1, how do u feel? Imagine that feeling 100 times worse...and then some.
If u can keep it purely sexual, then go for it, just be careful...
2007-05-14 08:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by soulessjam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a good friend with benefits a few years ago. It was great for a while, but he started dating someone, and then we pretty much stopped being friends... we had this friendship that had evolved into a sexual relationship, and as soon as that part of our friendship was off limits, we had just this awkward, weird, strained "thing" that was just really uncomfortable.
It's like we forgot how to be friends with our clothes on. We had continued to be good friends, going to movies and bars and stuff, and we had been each others wing-men, and that was no problem. We'd end up in bed together once or twice a month at first, but after about 5 months it was once or twice a week. Then it ended abruptly.
It's great while it lasts, but it's harder when its over than a normal breakup. I'd recommend against it.
2007-05-14 07:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by Becka Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure - the FWB thing can definitely work in the right situation. You should establish some ground rules initially though. One big rule I have suggested in the past is to not allow emotions to become involved. Once that happens, one or both may be uncomfortable with the idea of continuing. Also, a mutual respect for each other should exist, and willingness to step aside if the other becomes romantically involved in a relationship with someone else. Good luck and have fun!
2007-05-14 07:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i heard of it but really dont understand the thinking. Sex shouldnt be that casual. Why dont you just call an escort company or a prostitiute.
If thats all your looking for.... usually emotions will end up taking over one way or the other.
2007-05-14 07:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm doing that right now. It's really hard. He has a gf now and he's cheating on her with me. I want to stop but I don't have anyone right now or dating so I don't see the harm in it. It's enjoyable but if you let your feelings get into it you will get hurt. It's a very big decision to make and no one can do it for you. I like being single but I also have needs that need to be met sexually and he's clean so I keep doing it.
2007-05-14 07:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Ann 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, i did, it wasnt worded like that but it definatly was. it suited me fine. my ex and i were gr8 friends but not good in a relationship, we fought like cat and dog then!! . , when we were just friends havin sex when nothing better to do or feeling abit horny, what more can you ask for.' friend with benefits' is an excellent desciption. go for it girl, have some fun. mine lasted for about 2 years til we both fell in love with different people, but we're still friends to this day.
2007-05-14 07:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ulster roots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that. in my experience including my friends who've done the same, feelings always end up getting in the way, if not yours then his. and an ex is a really bad choice to do something like that as you once had feelings. it wouldnt take much to make them rekindle and it could lead to heartache if the other doesnt feel the same. i'd steer clear.
2007-05-14 07:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive done the whole "friend with benefits" thing and to be totally honest in my case it has worked out.........the key is to let ur "friend" know right from the start that u dont want anything other than a casual relationship... my advise is make sure that u have no feelings for ur "friend" other than a sexual tension or it can bite u in the a**......
have fun.......god knows i have ;)
2007-05-14 07:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by mayra r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋