I need some guidance?

Question

hi my name is david,
i found out that my stepdad tried to kill himself a couple days ago and my little sister just got into a car accident and might not be able to walk normal im just asking for some feed back anything you can give me thanks

Answer 1

whats up david, im not sure if i can give u waht your looking for without sounding like a holy roller or bible thumper but dude the lord helps man.. i have my troubles as well my father killed my stepmom over an affair and killed himself and its been the hardest thing ive ever dealt with in my life and the only way ive been able to deal with it is through prayer and god. i go out everynight and look up in the sky and just speak my mind silently and ask for help to deal with it .. regardless david things are gonna happen for better or worse man u just have to be who you are and be strong .. thats my thing when all this happened i was looked up to because everyone expected me to crash and i didnt. talk to your stepfather and let him know theres alot to live for and if not for him he needs to look foward to your future and as for your sister its a terrible thing and all u can do is put faith in god and the doctors that they can fix her and she can live a healthy life

Answer 2

Help your stepfather out...Give him a whwole big list on why he shouldent kill himself..

jus write him something like dis

Sai Ram. Pronounced as Saayee Raam, it is a greeting, a mantra and also a blessing to you.U show the intellectual aspect of your psyche and your real need to know. Happiness is the only purpose of life,.I feel as if you are tired of life so i guess your question is how to get happiness? Search deep within and try to know who you are. Who is seeking the answer to the question? Who is that you? Find that real you behind all the layers that are heaped upon by society and its conditioning.




Believe in yourself


Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes


Study hard


Give lots of kisses


Laugh often


Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number


Always try to see the glass half full


Meet new people, even if they look different to you


Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless


Take lots of naps..


Be weird whenever you have the chance


Love your friends, no matter who they are


Don't waste food


RELAX


Take an occasional risk


Try to have a little fun each day.
...it's important


Work together as a team


Share a joke with friends


Fall in love with someone..


...and say "I love you" often


Express yourself creatively


Be conscious of your appearance


Always be up for surprises


Love someone with all of your heart


Share with friends


Watch your step


It will get better


There is always someone who loves you more than you know


Exercise to keep fit


Live up to your name


Seize the Moment


Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between


Indulge in the things you truly love


Cherish every Sunday


At the end of the day... PRAY


....... and close your eyes

And smile at least once a day!

These are the same principles I go by for my own, and the same I am teaching everybody. Always look to the positive. There is a positive in every situation, even the bad ones. They are learning experiences. Look to how you handle a bad situation, and learn from how you acted, and see how you can turn the negative into a positive next time. Every situation helps us to evolve, so every situation is good. Life is not worth wasting any moment on depression. I did for far too long, and I'll never do it again! But I don't regret my past, it has made me who I am, and I have learned a great deal about life from the way
I used to be. You can overcome anything. Nothing can stop you from enjoying life.



help your sister everyday...make her feel happy..

Answer 3

David:

You have to understand that things happen in life over which you have NO control. If you cannot control a problem, do not make it YOUR problem.

Therefore, while you can be supportive of others in their time of need - you cannot, should not, accept 'ownership' of the problems.

I hope you understand the difference.

You are bright enough to ask advice, so I assume you are a member of your family who has leadership responsibilities. Therefore, it is very important that YOU stay balanced and calm in order to provide support for those around you who perhaps do not handle stress as well as you do.

Get plenty of sleep, eat right, and take time for exercise, and to think - actively think - about what needs to be done.

Think of the competence of the Fireman or the Policeman during a disaster. Their spirit, presence of mind,and clear-thinking is all that lies between us and ruination.

Be like that. Right now - you are an Army of One.

Be strong, be sensitive and look for positives in this situation. Find the good, and share that with your family. YOU inspire them to get beyond this bad time - there are good times ahead.

Also - please go to the local library and check out any books, DVDs, etc on "positive thinking' and 'motivational training'.

Tell the Librarian exactly what you told us - she (he) will help you. Study up on this now - it will guide you all your life.

Do it today.

PS. After seeing all the comments about "God-this" and "God-that", I had to EDIT and add this. Dave - you are entering into a battlefied, and God never carried a rifle or drove a tank. YOU have to do what needs to be done. "God" does not help you (if you believe he's there) - he's watching to see what YOU do with yourself.

God helps those that help themselves. Get moving, soldier.

Answer 4

For yr stepdad, he definitely needs to see a doctor - psychiatrist, even more now that yr little sister ( I assume his daughter) has this delicate health problem. He is ill, needs attention so he can face this new challenge.
For yr little sister I am sure she should be in the care of an orthopedist doctor. Always try to get a second opinion. Sometimes when the inflamation goes down, she might recoup her walking capabilities.
But above all this pray with faith - ask God to help you, He will. Ask Him to guide you to be able to help your family the best you can.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Wow. I'm sorry to hear about your little sister, I hope all will be alright.

First, your stepdad needs psychological therapy. He needs to find a shrink that can help him out. A simple look through a phone book will help you out, or you can look it up on the web.

As for your little sister, I'm so sorry. It would pain me if anything were to happen to mine. Medical science has advanced so much, so I hope there is something they can do to help your sister. Just remember, that this will effect her much more than it does you, so she will need all of the support that she can. Assure her that you are there for her, and keep her in your thoughts and prayers.

I hope all turns out alright.

Answer 6

Whats up David, sometimes people feel they've reached the end of their rope and suicide is the only way out. Have you talked to him about it? You probably should bro tell him your concerned and you care. Maybe there is something you could do.? And wow man sorry about your little sister I have one to man I worry about her all the time and for something that to happen, what a shame. But you know what bro, you still have both of them their both alive and that's all that matters. Take Care David

Answer 7

Hello, David

My heart goes out to you and your family. My only advice is to remember we all are here to learn life lessons. Our greatest growth spiitually comes from the hardest lessons such as your family is now experiencing. One can learn more about their inner strength and endurance from painful stimuli. For example, if a child reaches out to touch a hot stove and his mother says "don't touch that", the child may not touch it, but it also out or curiosity touch it anyway. The painful stimuli (the burn from the stove), teaches the child not to do it again.

If you feel comfortable enough to talk with your stepdad about his pain that led him to attempt suicide, let him know you are their for him and how much he is a part of your life. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Hopefully he will realize this and seek counseling.

As an older sibling, your little sister may need more emotional and physical support from you than you serving as a role model. Wait to see what the doctors say about her prognosis, then be prepared to help out as much as you can. Let her know how much you care about her. It may be too soon for the doctors to tell so don't worry about what has not happened yet.

Of course, prayer for both situations always is a good thing too, as well as asking them both what they need from you so you can be effective in meeting their needs.

Answer 8

Hey, David. I'm sorry, this is a lot for you to go through right now, to say the least. You might find it very helpful to seek therapy; a trained therapist can help you make sense of all this, which is too much for one person to deal with. Please explore some low-cost options in your area. If you are a student, you can start with your school's counselor.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are going through a very big crisis.
I would suggest you look to Christ for the answer. Find a Bible and read book of Psalms - it is very comforting to know that God is near. Read the book of Romans to understand how deep His love is for you....It will change your life. Lastly, pray....

Ask God to give you an open heart. You can talk to him like you talk to a friend on the phone. He knows your thaughts.
When you feel this, it is the Holy Spirit stirring in you heart.

Confess the wrong things that you have done and tell Him you are sorry. Tell Christ you want to live for Him and Thank Him for dying on the cross to take away all of the wrong. Find a church near you that preaches that Christ is the only way of salvation. If you believe this, you will go to heaven if you die.
Share this news with your family and tell them what it has done for you and tell them you are praying for them.
God doesn't care how you pray, you don't have to have all of the words. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say when you are hurting....Christ knows your needs before you ask Him...Read Joshua 1 :9

Answer 10

yahoo has many groups dedicated to the issue of suicide. THis one is just one of many dedicated to support and healing. It may be of use to discuss what emotions you are going through with others dealing with the same thing....http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/suicide4/

I personally joined on of yahoos widow groups and though i admit that I did not become actively engaged in corressponding with individuals, i did frequent the sight and read a lot of postings ecause I alwys tried to deal with things on my own but did find some comfort in knowing that I was not isolated in my emotions. If you were to go to the yahoo home page and click on groups you can enter search criteria for many subjects. There may also be something available for family crisis or something of that nature where you can find something for support.