he wont let me breath... i have to call him every day or he gets moody... i need room to roam but hes got me in a cage!! all my friends say that i should let him go but i love him! wat do i do?
2007-05-14 07:10:39 · 30 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can try talking to him and telling him how you feel, but this is probably the way he has always been in relationships and he may not be able to change. If he can't give you the space and freedom you need and deserve, he doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend, let alone have you.
2007-05-14 07:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different and everyone has their personal preferences when it comes to "space."
If your bf is hoping for the type of relationship in which you talk every day and that's not what you want, than it probably won't work out in the long run anyhow.
If you REALLY do love him, though, maybe you can find the time? I know it's a tough decision, but if you can't give him what he needs to be happy (and he can't give you the space you need), it may be best to let him go.
Good luck!
2007-05-14 14:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called control my dear. I don't know him, so I can't judge him, but a good majority of the time, control is nothing but bad. there is nothing good about it, and you need to nip it in the bud now. If he wont' loosen up, it's time to say good bye. You will learn to hate him and yourself if you don't. You will be smothered more adn more, and you will turn into a very mean spirited person.
Deal with the problems now, before it gets worse. Let him get moody, ignore it. What's he going to do about it? See what his reactions are!! Then see what kind of a relationship you have in store going forward.
2007-05-14 14:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Allycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd follow their advice and let him go.He's a controller.If he's that way now,look for big problems later.
Controlling leads to abuse.
Get out while the gettings good or live under his control and end up losing family and friends or having any kind of life for yourself.
You hear horror story after horror story everday about these situations.Too much violence and abuse in this world.
Good Luck.
2007-05-14 14:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I know this tuff for you. I have friend going through something similar. Listen if you love him then the first thing you should do is tell him you feel is good for you all's relationship to have space from time to time. It is true fact this is healthy for any and all relationships. Going out with your girls should be something he would like for you to do. Sometimes guys want us to themselves and don't want to share. This is because they are more than likely really and truly in-love with us. If this is true in your case then tell him if he loves you he will understand he might react crazy at first but you need to re-insure him you love him and that there's no one on earth you would rather be with than him, you just need to have a little bit of a social life out side him and you. And while your at it make sure you guys plan dates together with each of your other friends that way he can meet and greet and maybe feel a little bit more comfortable with whom you choose to hang out with.
Peace
2007-05-14 14:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ava H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I had a similar problem with my roommate. I was honest with him without being mean and he backed off. If you're not honest now, soon you'll explode and the relationship might suffer. If you don't have the heart to tell him, engage yourself with other activities that don't involve him, like the gym or something. Hopefully he'll get the point that you're independent and just need some time to yourself.
2007-05-14 14:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should talk it over with him. Tell him that him that you feel caged up or that he is too controlling. Men do listen when they know the relationship is on the line. But if at anytime you feel like he may do something to hurt you or somebody else, leave him. You don't need that in your life,
2007-05-14 14:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by adrienne r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have put your self in a cage by choosimg to be with someone who Is so possesive .Do you really want to live like that? Set your self free girl .and find some one who will give you space, You might want to see a counciller to help you boost your self esteem .and to find out why you pick these kind of guys. Listen to your friends...you'll be glad you did.....kitkatz06
2007-05-14 14:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to him. explain to him that you love him but you need some alone time. Let him know that his clinging bothers you and that in the long run it can damage your relationship. Also let him know that this alone time is healthy to the relationship, because you both can enjoy time on your own and it gives you time to miss each other. so that the next time you do see each other you'll have more things to catch up on and you'll even cherish each other more. i hope everything goes well for you.
2007-05-14 14:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by slynn8806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off tell him how your feel and lightly let him know that he is making you uncomfortable and also let him know that you love him no matter what but hes pushing you away with the clingyness he might re evauluate the situation and decide to step down a nothc or he may be like me and have a over anxiety disorder lol and keep pushing until u leave him?
2007-05-14 14:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by Trey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋