I've been dating this guy every weekend for a month. About 3 dates in, he tells me he can see this getting serious. We both agree that we want to see where this goes and should continue to date... well last weekend, I blurted out the words "I think I'm falling for you"... we were about to fall asleep, so he smiled and put his arm around me... and that was it. He's been a bit more distant this past week, and even cancelled plans claiming to forgot something that he had to do. He keeps returning my phone calls, so he's not totally blowing me off... what do I do now? Should I end it? Cause I really dont' want to, he's THAT amazing. Should I ignore how I'm feeling to see "what happens"?
2007-05-14 06:45:21 · 13 answers · asked by Hungover@thePub 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've def. already slept with each other.
And I'm just scared of getting hurt, that's why I'm feeling the urge to "run" away from it all and end it. But deep down, ending it is the LAST thing I want to do. He treated me SO well over the last month. I don't want him to bail either.
2007-05-14 07:10:15 · update #1
Well consider this. First when you told him you think you are falling for him. He smiled and put his arm around you. He could have been showing you he cared by pulling you close to him. Maybe he just was not ready to voice his feelings yet.
Also he may be telling the truth when he said he forgot something and it came up. Obviously by returning all your phone calls he is not blowing you off.
So my suggestion is to relax a little and give it a while longer before making assumptions about things.
I know it is hard to believe but not all men are liars and we might not be able to express ourselves as fast.
Good luck and hang in there.
2007-05-14 06:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he really did have something he forgot, it doesn happen to all of us. It's still pretty early and the two of you are still learning about each other. It is called dating for a reason. Cool your jets a bit and let things happen naturally. Men work better when not pushed and crowded. You didn't really say anything bad, but it could have waited a little while longer too.
Don't worry, however the fact that you are ready to pull the plug isn't a good sign...for him. He probably needs to think long and hard about a girl this quick to pull the plug. He might be better off without you, no one wants an immature girlfriend.
2007-05-14 06:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting serious in a relationship is hard for a lot of people i would wait around he still wants to be in your life or you would not get a phone call but maybe he dont know how to tell you that he feels the same way the best thing is keep a open mind and keep the lines of communication open talk to him you might just be amazed at what he has to say
2007-05-14 06:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 21:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by hinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy..maybe just take a step back and a deep breath...give him some space and yourself some too. He may just be a bit scared if it does seem to be moving too fast...if he's not blowing you off completely chances are he's just needs some time..if it's meant to be it will be....
2007-05-14 06:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by noonesfool71 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might wish he hadn't yet said what he said, and now he's a little nervous. So give him some space and make plans for next weekend. Ending it now is too soon. Sounds more like nerves to me.
2007-05-14 06:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by M S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say stay with him, but just go forward with caution. I do agree it is weird that he is acting nicer, I just don't hope he is thinking he's close enough with you to push it to the extreme. Just, try to slow down and, whatever you do, DO NOT get into a bed with him if there is a risk of sex. Please, be careful and tell me how everything is going. If you need more help, please send me an instant message. My s/n is the same as you see.
2007-05-14 06:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Perrian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that's the way you feel and you're not going to pressure him to make him feel the same. You both will take things slow but you can't change how you feel.
You'll drive yourself crazy if you do ignore your feelings. Just make sure you tell him that he doesn't have to feel the same way...right now. :)
2007-05-14 06:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by A. Tarayana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if thats what you want then go for it but maybe he could be putting on an act to get in your pants and not want anything serious but i say go with your heart and if its meant to be then it will happen i wish you athe best of luck
2007-05-14 06:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by a7x_6661_4_life_a7x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what happens. Maybe he really did have something going on.
2007-05-14 06:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋