Okay, This guy has liked me since 9th grade we started talking right before graduating in 12th grade. I didn't like him at all and was never attracted to him up until 31/2 months after hanging out, I was never really aware of his gf until he asked of my status.He broke up with her and then we started dating but we were only together for a month but then she called saying she was 21/2 months pregnant. So should I leave him alone or work it out? Opinons needed!
2007-05-14 06:32:43 · 45 answers · asked by UGLYASSBITYCH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he 's a man whore
he's never heard of a condom
2007-05-14 06:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Just Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here u need to help urself girl. Nobody knows the character of ur bf or that other girl. Other than that how are things b/w u n ur bf.. Can u really let go of him? Even if u do.. do u think he will live with that other girl n take the responsibility.. these are some ques u need to ask urself
Its sad for the other girl in a way n I'm not asking you to be mean but if d guy didn't cheat on you n don't wanna let go of u n u don't wanna let go of him en this is something to think about. wat good will it bring if u let go of him n he doesn't go back to that other girl n even if he does only for few months.
The only way u can sort out this problem is by being little analytical of the situation. By thinking where do u see urself with ur bf at about 2-3 yrs from now. Is he really dependable or can he do something like that to u too? In anyway jst prepare urself for the worst
Last but not least no matter wat decision u make knowing urself just think about whether u will regret making this decision like maybe 5 years from now or not.
2007-05-14 06:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you find yourself truly caring about this individual then what you would want would be what was best for him. THe choice of his standing by the woman who is pregnant has to be made by him based on his own moral and ethical values. My persoanl opinion is that you should be there for him to listen and if you are capable of giving "solicited" advice separate and apart what your emotions dictate and for the good of everyone involved, then you should but if you can't then you should support him in any way you can find yourself able to without pressure or judgement. It is possible that he may not have the same connection with this person as he does with you and may decide to support the child but wish to be in a relationship with you. Only you can decide what is best for you and your situation. Only you know what it is that you hope for in a future with this person and right now it has become complicated. If you feel that you cannot support him while he is trying to sort out what is in his best interest, then you should step aside but not away. Just let them know you are there if they need you and explain that perhaps anything you may have to say would seem self serving and that may not be in his best interest. TIme will tell if the right choice has been made.
2007-05-14 06:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by kathleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. interesting question.. well i couldnt help but notice there has been no male answers so i will gladly be the first!...
it seems your guy friend has alot of personal problems he needs to get right and some history on his rear end.. i feel that everyone makes mistakes and cannot be faulted for them. but in this case do your really want to be a statistic? and be in a relationship with a man that has a love child? you did the right thing by asking a 3rd party about this because you have to be comfortable with your desision.. my honest opinion is break it off on terms let him figure out what he needs to do to fix his mistake and if he does and comes back to you then u got yourself a changed man.. if not then no reason crying over something u never really had?
hope this helps
good luck, Trey
2007-05-14 06:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Trey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only stay with him if you think you are ready to deal with the fact that he will always have a link to this other woman. Regardless of what you say or do he will always have to see this girl because there is a baby involved. I would say that is you are still very young like in your teens or early twenty's walk away, you have so much to experience still because being with someone that has a baby is a huge responsibility for the both of you. Being the current girlfriend you will have to put up with a lot of uncomfortable situations, and like i said if you are super young that is really hard to deal with.
2007-05-14 06:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by M-26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you - can you handle being like a stepmom to this child when its born? To me, it sounds like you guys are still kinda young (like just graduating high school kinda young). Do you have any plans after high school? College? Getting a full time job? Will you be able to deal with him having a child, and you acting as a parent when his child is visiting? If it were me, I'd say that I was too young to have the responsibility of another child around even if it such on weekends (or whatever they figure out when the child is born) and that you're like what - 19? You have your whole life ahead of you. You should be worried about going to college, making a life for yourself, going out with your friends, and a child (even if it isn't yours, but your boyfriends) is a huge responsibility.
2007-05-14 06:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too dependant on his decision of whether he will stay with you or leave you for her. Remove yourself from that situation and begin to move on. Pregnancy in a situation like this can lead to a lot of stress out of this triangle (or a neat little Jerry Springer episode).
So leave now because it only gets better when this kind of thing is in the past.
2007-05-14 06:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you deal with the fact that your boyfriend is having a baby with someone else? You can leave him and let him deal with his own issues. He will have many new responsibilities and things to think about. This other girl is going to be in his life a lot since they now share a child and he is going to have to focus on how he is going to take care of this baby. I think he needs time. If he still wants to stay with you and you choose to stay with him despite all this then be prepared to incorporate all his problems into your life.
2007-05-14 06:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends on how you both feel. How does he feel about his ex-girlfriend? Do you care enough about this guy to try and work it out? Is he ready to step up and be a father? If he is not man enough to take responsibilty I would dump him now. You two just need to examine your hearts and figure out what you want to do. Also, if you are physical with him, use protection. You don't want to complicate the matter further. Pray hard. That's a tough one.
2007-05-14 06:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by BBEG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure it is your decision to make really...he has to decide if he is going to be with the future mother of his child, or be with you...
if he has chosen you, then I'd probably still give it a chance...there are a lot of couples that work when there is a child bore with someone else...
however you also have to decide if you are going to be okay with having her pretty much in your life, always...there will be a child involved and they are going to be parents, and will have to work together for the next 18+ years. You can't interfere or cause problems so if you feel you might be jealous, then I would walk away.
2007-05-14 06:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question? Didn't you learn ANYTHING in High School?
Tell you what, YOU get pregnant, too and then you can have a competition with the OTHER bimob to see who gets him.
He's worth all that, right?
Geez louise! Go enroll in Community College and keep your PANTS on.
PS You ask:"So should I leave him alone or work it out?".
What? Work WHAT out? HE has something to work out - with HER.. Stop being stupid.
Did I say KEEP YOUR PANTS ON?
2007-05-14 08:05:09 · answer #11 · answered by geeksball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋