So I almost got raped Saturday. Just looking for some comfort.?

Question

I am only writing this because I really don't want it on my blog page. But I now understand why women don't report rapes as much at they are supposed to. I, fortunately reported mine,but I am scared. Like, I didn't actually get raped, because I stabbed him, but it was close. I have never been overpowered by a man like before. I used to say things like ' i wish someone would try to rape me I would kick his ***" and its not that easy. I would never wish that to happen on my worst enemy. But what I am asking is, should I still be this frightened? It happened like 4-5 am Sunday after being out all night. I mean I cut the S.H.I.T out of him but I think I would have had to kill him if he had raped me. I am so confused lm a complete wreck and I don't even want anyone coming in my space at all. Is this normal? Should I consult anyone?

Answer 1

Welcome to the wonderful world of Post Traumatic Stress syndrome. You WILL need counseling.
But now and later in life you will KNOW something every one else wonders about.
When you face an event and win out over it... It always changes you deeply, at the very least, I'll bet your definition of just what makes a 'bad day' has gone through a serious over-haul.
In the short term, contact your police department about victims counseling...and GO (It's usually free or low cost.)
Know that the fear you feel and anything else for that matter is absolutely normal to the human condition. (Ask a soldier.)
Not that a strangers opinion counts, but you did good!
1.) Get Counseling.
2.) Make sure you testify against this slime ball. It'll be harder than you think, but, you can do it.
3) Share your experience. You can make a difference in the lives of others.

Answer 2

I'm sure you were terrified and it's perfectly normal to still be afraid. You should get some counseling from a rape center. That will help you deal with all the negative feelings you're having and eventually you will feel more at ease. Another thing you can do that will empower you is to take your story to other victims and to women of all ages. Rape is not about sex; it's about anger and rage. Women need to understand that; they need to learn ways to defend themselves as well as how to recover their lives if the worst happens. God bless!

I am amazed at the ignorance of the answerers who suggest you might have asked for it by being out till morning. Rape can happen at any hour at any place to a woman of any age. It is a crime of violence. You are a victim; the rapist is a criminal.

Answer 3

Well I'm in a mixed ordeal here because I agree with the first girl but at the same time it'd suck to even have gotten that far to say I almost got raped. What in the world were you doing out at 4-5AM...Most normal people who haven't been raped were at home. You don't need to be out at 4-5 AM what is open at that hour besides Denny's ?? I can see 2 even 3 but anything after that your insane. But your reaction is normal, you just have to make sure your okay, don't worry about being frightened or scared.

Answer 4

You are lucky you got the chance to cut him. I wasnt that fortunate. I am glad you reported it too. It is normal to feel that way. Because when you think about it someone just invaded your space and you are putting up your guard... not letting it happen again. I was in that state for 2 years until finally I told my mom. She took me to get tested for stds. Though she told everyone I was lying, and there was no way I was raped. We just stopped talking about it after she accused me of lying. I found my own way to cope with it though. I started doing drugs and getting in trouble. I didn't care. I would cuss my mom out for the smallest things. My mom eventually sent me to a Catholic school and I lightened up. I am now a happy person. But I still have problems trusting people and I have major problems when it comes to relationships. Is there anything else you are doing besides not letting people in your space? It may have a serious impact on your life, even if it didn't happen... it could have.

Answer 5

Yes, talk to a counselor. What you went through is the fright of your life. You had a traumatic experience. I hope they catch the B------d. Please don't be so afraid to go out, but be aware, very aware of your surroundings, who is around, little things that seem out of the norm. You were a very luck person, and need to speak to somebody. DARES is a great program and can probably help with a counselor. You are still in shock from the experience, and I am sure you are still afraid, you need to call a friend, a close friend, and one that is going to listen. You were a very wise woman for reporting it. He should not be out on the streets, women that don't report it, leave the guy out there to create another victim of his crime, and it is a crime. If you don't talk to somebody soon, it will be in your mind forever, and will make an impact on relationships down the road. Good luck to you, I really hope you take my advice. My sympathy goes out to you, you have had a terrible and traumatic experience, and need a friend you can trust to speak with, maybe a church nearby? Don't put it off, it will only make it harder for you to move forward. If you were my daughter, I wouldn't be able to quit hugging you, as I was taking you to a counselor. Please do your mind and body some good.

Answer 6

Yeah, you should consult someone. And yes it is normal to be frightened, now that you have found out you ain't Cat Woman. Out all night and running the streets at 4-5 am hmmm? Gotta say, you put yourself in the situation. Maybe you should stop that. It is one thing to occasionally party, with a bunch of friends "together", but entirely another to run the streets alone, male or female.

Now for the other side of the q. What were you thinkin' girl? Were you lookin' to find somebody to cut? Was this a set up for some poor sucka? Did you know this guy? Are you some kinda nut? All of the foregoing are questions whereby you can examine your behaviour in this. They are not accusations. They are meant to bring quickly to your attention your part in this. If you think running at 4-5 am shows and proves how tough you are, then you found out now didn't you? If that ain't it, then what up wit dat?

Answer 7

Yes it’s normal to be afraid and on edge. You had a horrific experience and it is something that you will carry with you and never forget. It’s not something that is easy to forget and you have every right to feel the way you do. It may be hard for you to regain the trust that you had in men and let them get close to you because of hear of what may happen if you do. What happened was not your fault; it was his so don’t blame yourself. Take all the time you need to come to terms with that happened to you. Most women who are attacked can not flee from their attacker like you did, so think of yourself as a strong woman who faced the odds and won! You will be okay eventually, good luck!

Answer 8

You need to talk to a rape counselor or psychiatrist. Who in their right mind would even think about wanting to be raped? If this really happened then it would be perfectly normal to feel frightened and I would think that you'd also need to deal with the fact that you stabbed the sh**out of him. Sounds like a really scary and ugly situation that needs to be dealt with so you can move on. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

Oh God, sweetheart, it's fine to feel like this. Right now you should be crying, shaking, looking for support anywhere you can. It's okay. Honestly, just let it all out, right now you'll think "God! What a wreck?" But in the future you'll realise how horrifying it was and how it was right to let it all out. But if you continue feeling scared and upset maybe try a rape counsellor, psychiatrist or even a doctor just to help.

Answer 10

i'm in simple terms variety of very much shocked you passively allowed him to have intercourse with you.. If out of self secure practices and worry that's comprehensible, yet having such an undemanding option is fairly much a assure you've got been helped. i think of that's extra humiliating and degrading to have it ensue the way it did than having a neighbor see what became into happening. particular, you maximum in all probability could have been raped in case you weren't going to do something besides.. Whats the version however, it ended up being undesirable intercourse with an undesirable and unfamiliar guy.. you're fortunate you probably did no longer get HIV or an STD.