how do u explian sex to a eleven yr.old girl?

Answer 1

I am the mother of an eleven year old girl and against every ones advice I have been completely honest with her about ANY question that she has asked me. After she asked me a question I would get fairly graphic. I told her that I wanted her to know the truth not just what girls and boys at school or the movies said. There is a positive and negative to every side and the responsibility was ultimately up to her since it was her body.
Now, having said that I must have done something right because she has come to me a couple of times after our talk and asked a few more questions. Again, I answered as honestly as could and I am proud to say that as of right now she want as to wait and make it special with someone that she loves and plans to spend the rest of her life with.
The most important thing that I told her is that you can only loose your virginity once and along with sex comes a lifetime of responsibility and possibilities of disease.
Good luck with your daughter and I hope that the two of you will develop a great honest relationship.

Answer 2

You start with proper body part names, the difference between girls and boys, the reason for the differences (having babies), how you actually get pregnant, the reason for abstinence (diseases, emotional readiness, etc.), the fact that girls and boys have urges but you do not act upon them. We also went into some ways her peers may try to pressure her into things that she isn't ready for and what she can do in those situations. Ask after each part if she has questions, then let her know that she can always come to you with any questions. Let her know that kids at school will always talk and say things like they know everything so if she hears something that sounds scary chances are it's not correct and she should ask you about it. Remember that when they go over it in school, they will use words like erection, ejaculation, and wet dream. I made sure to incorporate this when I talked to my daughter explaing each thing in technical but as plain as possible terms. I could have chosen not to have her hear this from her teachers, but she would have heard it from her friends second hand after they all heard it from the teachers and who knows how THEY would describe what they heard! So I prepared her as best I could. In the end she seemed comfortable with our discussion and prepared for the information heading her way at school this week... Good luck!

Answer 3

Just tell her what it is and what will happen if when someone does have sex. I know many eleven year old, and they are not too young anymore to know the truth. Besides do you want her finding out from someone else?

Answer 4

Talking About Sex to Preteens: What do you say?
It is never too early to start talking to your child about their body and their sexuality. However, these talks need to change as your child gets older and moves towards adolescents. Here are five tips on talking about sex to preteens:

Make sure your teen knows the basics.
If you haven’t already explained to your preteen where babies come from, now is the time, as they most likely have heard it from their peers. You may need to see what information they have and then, give them the truth. Preteens are notorious for misinformation on sex.

Answer 5

Check out some of these books, etc.



Ages 9 to 12

Changes In You and Me: A Book About Puberty Mostly for Boys; by Paulette Bourgeois; Andrews and McMeel, 1994
Growing and Changing; by Kathy McCoy and Charles Wibbelsman; Perigee Books, 2003
It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing up, Sex, and Sexual Health; by Robie Harris; Candlewick, 1996
It's So Amazing!: A Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families; by Robie Harris; Candlewick Press, 1999
Just for Girls: Understanding Your Body and the Changes You're Going Through; by Elizabeth Hoekstra; Crossway Books, 1999
My Body, My Self for Boys; by Lynda Madaras; New market Press, 1995
No B.O.! The Head-to-Toe Book of Hygiene for Preteens; by Marguerite Crump; Free Spirit Publ, 2005
The Preteen's First Book About Love, Sex, and Aids; by Michelle Harrison; American Psychiatric Press, 1995
Ready, Set, Grow! A What's Happening To My Body Book For Younger Girls; by Lynda Madaras ; Newmarket Press, 2003
Personal Hygiene? What's That Got To Do With Me?; by Pat Crissey and Noah Crissey ; Jessica Kinsley Publ, 2005
Puberty's Wild Ride; by Marta McCave; Family Planning Council, 2001
Sex Explained: Honest Answers to your Questions About Guys and Girls, Your Changing Body, and What Really Happens During Sex; by Magali Clausener-Petit; Amulet Books, 2004
Sex Stuff for Kids 7-17: A Book of Practical Information & Ideas for Kids, Parents & Teachers; by Carole Marsh; Gallopade Pub. Group, 1998
My Body, My Self for Girls; by Lynda Madaras; New Market Press, 2000
What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: the New Growing-Up Guide for Parents and Sons; 3rd ed.; by Lynda Madaras; Newmarket Press, 2001

Answer 6

If she goes to public school, she probably already knows from her health classes in gr. 5 and 6, or from a friend, classmate, etc.. Don't force the subject on her, let her learn slowly (it's a lot to digest). Try books at your local library or websites or websites like http://www.coolnurse.com/puberty.htm

Answer 7

I wouldn't be too open about it with her. After all you don't want phone calls from other parents complaining that your daughter has been explaining sex to her friends. I would just tell her that when two people love eachother and feel comfortable with eachother.... and so on.

Answer 8

SET HER DOWN AND TELL HER OPENLY BUT NOT TO OPEN.START OUT WITH WIN A MAN AND WOMAN LOVE EACH OTHER AND IS MERED THEY BECOME VERY INTERMENT WITH EACH OTHER THIN THAT'S WIN YOU START TALKING ABOUT THE BIRDS AND THE BEES

Answer 9

tell her the truth

Answer 10

as truthfully as possible