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it seems now he is neither friend nor boyfriend
have i made a mistake?
what is the best thing to do now?

2007-05-14 05:41:37 · 21 answers · asked by jay dee 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

21 answers

You thought he was your friend , were you sure? and did he think on same lines?

Do not generalize that it is normal male behavior, normal guys really care and would really not leave you in a trance state and ignore especially if it was something like your case.

I think you should email him or if possible meet him and then speak out and ask what is the matter and resolve it gracefully.
You can't just jump to conclusion that he cheated on you and just used you for fun, it may be that he is guilty as he treated you like a friend or may be there is something more, you will never know unless you speak to him.Try figure out possible ways to get in touch asap.

If you then figure out things like he just used you or has nothing to do with you, just put this bad experience in life's bin, just dump it as past and get o'er it and move on.....

If he doesn't respond and refuses to meet you or even talk about it, just leave him, don't bother ever find why he did that or were you wrong and so on....the key is get going, move on.....

2007-05-14 06:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by rhea 4 · 1 1

I think you gave in to his wishes, and i think he made your think you was his friend when all he wanted way the punanny in the first place and once he got it then he was willing to move on ....so if I was you I would do the same and take this as a learning lesson and don't go for the same trick again from the next so call friend. I am sure you heard him talk about him doing that before if he really was a friend and yall talk to each other about everything....so drop it and look for someone that wants your company....good luck hope you got yours like he did

2007-05-14 05:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by beecharmed_2000 2 · 0 0

I did thisonce, he was my childhood friend. I got the same response. I really did like him and the friendship was never the same again.

I feel your pain.Ignore him and acted like it never happened. Do not call him AT ALL.

You didn't make a mistake because he was never a friend and now you know it. Friends do not do that to friends.

Your next step? Start looking real good everyday. Do things to feel good about yourself, he will get jealous and want you back. Pick up a copy of The 28 Laws of Seduction

2007-05-14 05:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Brookyn 4 · 0 0

No, it's not normal male behaviour, if a guy has sex with you, generally, he would like to again.

It may have freaked him out having sex with you.
Although, you can't find that out if he doesn't return your calls.

Chalk it up to a bad experience and move on. If you only 'thought' he was a friend, he probably wasn't.


If he has email, send him a link to this question, that may get the communication going.

2007-05-14 05:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by brettj666 7 · 1 0

Yes, this is normal behaviour. Girl, you don't have sex with friends. You have sex with partners (boyfriends, romanic friends, date friends) but not with "friends". That is just promiscuous. He is not boyfriend, but could be still friend if you don't chase him. He did not put in what you did. Have you made a mistake - absolutely. Best thing to do is give it a rest. It may be all done, but it may not be. Give it time, or forget it totally. Choice be yours.

2007-05-14 05:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why would you have sex with him if you were not sure of his feelings about you? Sorry that this is happening to you. What did you talk about with him right after you had sex? It could be that he was pretending to be your friend just so he could get close to you so that he could have sex with you. Guys are like that you know. Not all but some of them are doggish.

My advice to you is to learn from your mistake and forget about him. If you two were truly good friends he will call you.

2007-05-14 06:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0 0

Ignore him and move on with your life... He was just playing you for action, he got some, and has moved on now that he is done with the conquest. If he calls you, its probably only because he's horny. Don't do it, a mistake (pregnancy) might happen and you don't want this guy as the father.

2007-05-14 05:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by brandonb 2 · 0 0

Don't see it as a mistake.
See it as a lesson learned.
If the guy doesn't have the maturity to at least talk about it, then delete him out of your life.
Granted, he might be feeling a bit bewildered but that's no excuse. I'd say: don't chase his sorry a***. You deserve better.

2007-05-14 06:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Snake Eyes 6 · 0 0

That's what guys do. Sorry sweetie. But rest assured that not all of them do that. Talk to him and find out why he's not calling you. He just may be embarrassed about it. The younger the people are, the more weird it is for them.

2007-05-14 05:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0 1

If he's your real friend he's gonna still be there for you.... If he honestly doesn't want to be your friend anymore, who needs friends like that! Let his *** go on then..... You'll find someone to treat you like you should be treated and forget all about him. Good luck sweetie, don't press about it too much.... Guys are evil!!

2007-05-14 05:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by ~*TiNa*~ 2 · 0 0

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