2007-05-14 05:41:09 · 20 answers · asked by nots 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are so many questions being asked right now that when I accidentally clicked off this question, I had to go 14 screens into the new questions before I could find it again!!!
No you are not obligated. But I would ask this friend to do something significant in the wedding party, if he's not going to be the best man. You might want to tell him thanks for helping and tell him you asked him to go because he has excellent insight into selecting the best ring.
However, I'm more concerned about something I'm reading between the lines here. It sounds like you are trying to make plans based on what everyone else will approve of.
This is one of the biggest reasons why wedding preparations become so highly stressful. Brides and grooms get so caught up in the pressure of having the PERFECT day, and also worry that if someone is unhappy with their decision, it won't be perfect.
Please keep this into perspective as you begin a new life with a woman you want to be with.
The wedding is only one day of your life. It is a big day and deserves to be special. But it is the rest of your life that comes after the wedding that is important.
Don't worry whether the wedding is perfect, and ask your bride to be to do the same thing. Allow for mistakes to happen on that day.
Put things into perspective here for a minute. After the wedding, what do you want people to remember from that day? Do you want it to be a day that was memorable yes and special for the two of you? Or do you want it to be a day that everyone remembers as one that you and your bride were trying to please everyone else.
While it's important to have a special day, make sure that the specialness is not about being lavish or costly. The bills are killer afterwards and can create a lot of stress in paying off the bills.
So, please enjoy the day and make it special. But to go deeply into debt trying to make it the ultimate day in terms of expense and lavishness is not worth it. Instead, keep the day a special one. And remember that what the two of you are celebrating is a profession of your commitment to one another.
2007-05-14 05:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
definitely not. My husband's best man lived far away and he had to rely on other friends for stuff like this. If you have already picked a best man, maybe you should let this guy know, just so he doesn't start expecting to be asked. He wouldn't be much of a friend if he became angry that he wasn't the best man. Good luck with the wedding.
2007-05-14 05:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Amsiar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ring shopping with someone does not automatically mean he is your best man. This is something, however, that would typically be done with someone who you want to be your best man; say a best friend, or brother.
I went wedding dress shopping with a friend and I know that she is going to chose her sister as her maid of honor. So I say ask who you want and don't feel bad about your choice.
2007-05-14 06:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are obligated to ask him. However, if you weren't thinking of asking him to be in the wedding why is he doing something so important like ring shopping with you? That kind of stuff is usually reserved for the special people in your life.
2007-05-14 05:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I helped my friend go pick out her wedding dress and I wasn't even in the wedding. She has a gang load of cousins and sisters and they were the bridesmaids...I was actually more honored that she wanted my help in picking out her dress! Oh so the answer would be absolutely not!
2007-05-14 05:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by brownidgurl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no. but why would you take a guy engagement ring shopping? personally i would have taken my mother or sister or a female friend
2007-05-14 05:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by YWWE>BVW>mwwe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yuor best men should be selected by two criteria and two criteria only: can he put together a kick-*** bachelor party, and can he be relied on to make a decent speech at the wedding. Nothing else matters.
2007-05-14 05:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by SvetlanaFunGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. You only get one wedding... have your best man be the person who deserves the spot - the person you would choose for it. Any friend would be understanding.
Good luck! :)
2007-05-14 05:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by mlcjlrich 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessarily. It would be a nice gesture, though. If anything you should ask him to be a groomsman.
Congrats!
2007-05-14 05:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Winette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You just have him along shopping with you.
2007-05-14 05:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋