My boyfriend & I have been together for almost 2 years. He is working in another state right now. We have been trying to get together to see each other. He needs to buy another car and for the moment he's been commuting to work. I had sent him an email and told him I had been trying to find a way to come up and see him or meet him somewhere halfway. He replied he didn't want me to go through all that trouble. He told me I was very sweet and that he would find a way to come see me.
His birthday is coming up soon. He is trying to save up to replace his car and his phone. Do you think I would hurt his feelings and his pride if I were to give him a prepaid cell phone as a gift for his birthday?
He wants to be "the man" in our relationship and I don't want to do anything to hurt his pride or his feelings in any way.
Guys, would that bother you if your gf gave you a cell phone when you had told her that you were trying to save up for a phone and a car?
Thanks!
2007-05-14 05:25:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. If I were in another state and my girl said she was going to come see me I'd jump at the chance.
2. A gift is accepted with grateful thanks. Any macho bs about "I'm saving my money..." is just that, bs.
3. He wants to be the man? It sounds to me that he has some issues with his masculinity.
4. This guy is sending you not so subtle signals, sweetie. I think you need to find someone more mature.
2007-05-14 05:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by canela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I applaud you for buying a gift based on his feelings, and asking when you were unsure. Most women that I've met would have already bought the guy a phone and pissed him off.
Odds are, it will make him mad, since he will probably see it as you not trusting him to solve his own problems. Instead of buying him a prepaid cell phone, why not buy him a gift card for a place that SELLS prepaid cell phones (Circuit City? Best Buy? Something like that probably), and let him decide if that's what he gets.
In either case, I still think it's a slippery slope. You might be better off just dropping it and buying him something he'll like so that he doesn't have to spend his own money. Hope this helps.
2007-05-14 12:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nick C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by wanting to be "the man" in your relationship. I have seen "the man" type of guys get pretty rough with their women if their fragile egos are challenged in the least bit.
But this may not be your case. You know him better than the rest of us. If he is any kind of true gentleman a gift of a phone to enhance your relationship should not be any problem at all. However, if he blows a gasket or really gets upset, then you need to rethink your choice of "the man".
2007-05-14 12:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Moose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's more then safe to say that most guys would be quite upset if thier woman gave them something like a phone in this case. It's a guy pride thing.
You can help by sending him 'woman things'....stuff that will still help him and save him money, but won't hurt his pride. Food is a good example, no guy would turn down food(and it saves him a bit of money). Clothing also works too.
2007-05-14 12:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT DO IT! ....... Sorry for the caps, but its so that you don't scan past my answer. ;) You should find him something else. If he is that kind of guy (kinda like me) He probably wouldn't accept it. Not because he is being rude or anything. I don't like accepting things from my gf. I have to tell her over and over not to go out of her way and not to buy me things. I don't want her spending her money. And I'm sure that's how your bf feels. Show him other ways that you love him. By him a cd from his favorite artist or get him a video game. I'm sure you will get a more positive reaction.
Good luck
2007-05-14 12:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by BloodLust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, it wouldn't bother me, if me girlfriend bought me a phone after I told her not to worry about it. Sometimes I may telling her not to do something for me, but deepdown, thinking to myself I would really love it if she helped me in some sort of way. On the outside, it's just me showing my macho-side. In situations when she actually goes out and do something that I really didn't want her to do, we may argue for a brief moment, but in the end I remember all she was doing is trying to help. But remember, that's just me...... your boyfriend and me are two different people. So because I would be okay with it doesn't mean he would be okay.
All I can really say is go with your feelings. Good luck with your decision.
2007-05-14 12:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Woody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good idea. Making it a birthday present is great. If he's in any way rational about that sort of thing it takes his pride off the hook.
If it still bothers him he has pride issues that might cause you problems later.
2007-05-14 12:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the type of guy he is. If my wife gave me a cell phone, no I would get mad or my pride hurt. I would be able to communicate with her with that cell.
2007-05-14 12:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by hot_rican_4_ju 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope that wouldn't bother me at all, but then again I am not the one who is cheating on you. Put it together, you want to come and see him and he tells you not to go through the trouble? Sorry if I had been without my girlfriend for any length of time I would do anything to see her. Including letting her come to me.
2007-05-14 12:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm no, I'd be quite happily actually seeing as my phone is broken. But then again I am a poor deprived student.
Anyway, it seems like a good idea and I can't see why it'd upset him?!? Is he easily upset by things? Plust it'd mean he has more money for a car! Perhaps he will wing his way to you in a ferrari xD
hope this helps!!"!%$!"%^!
2007-05-14 12:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by classicdisposablegaslighter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋