I'm a black girl and i like white guys. I was wondering is the process of marring out of race is harder. Like if your family and friends don't agree on the wedding. I was wondering if you can tell your experience like what you had to go through?
2007-05-14 05:11:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I married a black woman. (I'm divorced now) No problems. There are only problems if you're immature and a drama queen. For instance, people don't approve? They don't need to be there. Problem solved, unless you want to make an issue out of it. I had family 'disown' me, like I cared. Glad to see you like white guys. You know what they say, "White is right". (6 million Klan members can't be wrong, can they?)
2007-05-14 05:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Angel G 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I married a white guy and he is the love of my life. We have a great time together, and luckily both families are accepting (I'm mixed, so of course my family isn't going to say anything).
The biggest issue is the public at large. We don't have a problem and we think its perfectly normal, but there are millions of people in the US that don't believe in interracial relationships and they'll let you know. Mainly its staring - staring like an elephant just walked in front of them...sheer disbelief. I think its funny at this point, you can't change people you know? So be prepared for the stares, and be sure to make friends with other interracial couples...then you can REALLY confuse people.
2007-05-14 18:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. But not impossible.
I say, follow your heart - but let your brain have the final say-so. Just be very, very careful about the boy you finally say "yes" to - make sure he's worthy - good education, good job, good family, well grounded in faith, etc.
There's the family thing. Make sure both sets of parents are OK even if not excited about the idea. Believe me, subjecting someone you deeply love to either family's "you're not our kind" for the next 50 years is plain wrong.
Then there's the friends. Well, you can build new friendships.
What about different religions? Sometimes that causes more friction than different races. Make sure you're on the same chapter and verse when it comes to religion.
It won't be easy. Marriage to anyone - of any race isn't easy.
2007-05-14 14:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its harder because of conflict and the cultural differences. Mostly, African Americans will become more accepting of the relationship before a lot of Caucsians will and you will get those stares, and those looks, and you will have to think about your children and how they will be raised. Otherwise if you two are dedicated, in love and can work as a cohesive unit despite the racial stares, glares and what people have to say, you will be fine. It isn't impossible and now-a-days, there are more mixed cultures couples than there has been in the past ten or fifteen years. If you have patience, endurance and a hard shell you will survive it all.
2007-05-14 12:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not think it is harder. I'm asian and I'm marrying a girl with blonde hair and green eyes. My family is very accepting of her. A lot of my family has inter-racial couples. My cousin married a black man, my sister married a mixed guy, so to my family it is not a big deal. It will totally depend on your family. My buddy married a girl, he is 100% Filipino and she was half. His father didn't even come to the wedding because she wasn't 100%. That to me is stupid, but if you love each other anything is possible. If people don't approve it shouldn't be your problem. Do what makes you happy!
2007-05-14 12:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lets get Denarded in here! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wasnt that bad for me I am marrying a guy who is hispanic. We had are ups and downs in the begining because of the way we were raised I was raised christian and he was raised jehova witness. I also am not into being subservient the way his family was raised. But he didnt care he loved me for me. So I say g for it.
2007-05-14 15:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by nichole e 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every relationships has obstacles to over come like me i am marrying a jamaican man and i am african american, his family came to the states when he was 17 he has 13 brothers and siters and a very strict mom. his mom wanted him to marrying a jamaican girl who was also catholic. but that didn't work out because he was in love with me. now they love me because he told them that if i was around he wouldn't be around and they couldn't see our daughter she is about to be 1 on saturday the 19 of may.
2007-05-14 12:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know i was in a interriacial relationship for 3yrs i never met her father but her mom and bro&sisters were fine but it was her that change im south american indian and she's african american, so i think from my experience it is up to you and him,good luck and best wishes.
2007-05-14 12:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by bxriffraff4731 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, ofcourse your are going to have obsticles every relationship does. I married outside my race, however my feelings on the matter are if they love me the will support me in my decision and should I fall they will be there for me just like I would them. We can't make decisions for others, we can just offer our love and support. : )
2007-05-14 12:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by sissy k 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your families don't approve of your choice of mate, there are going to be problems, and this isn't limited to their dislike of "racial issues". Other than that, it's just like marrying anyone else...
2007-05-14 12:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋