So I went on a date with this girl on Friday. She didn't get off work until 7 so she met me downtown for dinner. We had dinner and then went to a concert a couple of blocks away.
I thought it was going well, we were talking easily the whole time and the conversations had gotten more flirtatious as the night went on. About 4 songs in to the featured band's set she leans up and says that she'll be right back. I assumed she was going to the bathroom.
SHE NEVER CAME BACK! After about 15 minutes I started looking for her, and of course never found her. I was afraid something had happened to her, so I went to where she had parked her car and saw that it was gone. To make it worse, her cellphone had gotten shut off the day before and there was no way for anyone to contact her.
1st of all who would do something like that?
2nd this was our 2nd date not our 1st, and she had plenty of opportunities to cancel.
3rd she waited 4 hours and $100 later to leave.
WHY????
2007-05-14 04:57:55 · 44 answers · asked by boredatwork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that she left bothered me, but not telling me she was leaving is what killed me. I would have been upset if she had said she was leaving, but at least I wouldn't have spent an hour trying to find out what happened to her and if she was ok.
2007-05-14 05:07:00 · update #1
That is weird...I mean, if she didn't like you, she didn't have to agree to the second date..Man, that sucks...
One time I was dating a guy who lived two hours away from me...and he was supposed to come over on Valentines Day for dinner (yes, we were eating at my place...we didnt have a lot of money that year)...anyways, I made meatloaf and got my place all pretty and I got all dolled up...and sat there, hour after hour with the meatloaf and a hand made valentine I had crafted for him...he never showed and didnt answer his cell phone...finally around midnight, I shut my lights off and checked my email...lo and behold, there was "a break up email" from him...and it was a lousy email too...filled with senseless chatter and run-on sentences (I wish I still had it because I would have posted it here for you)...I was crushed...
everything is good now though, I'm married to a great man who knows how to handle Valentines Day in a proper way! Just hang in there...
2007-05-14 05:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by j c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...I'd say she changed her mind about you 1/2 way through dinner...or maybe was going out with you as a dare to friends and they dared her to leave after dinner and stick you with the bill? I'm really not sure why a girl would do that...I'd have at least stuck around until after the date.
I might be able to beat this though...
I was on my 3rd date with a guy and he said he wanted me to meet some of his friends and we were going to have a bonfire, roast hot dogs all that stuff so i fiugred, oh, fun. We drive out to the middle of nowhere, down this long road that i didn't even know existed and there is a gate...he insists this is a friend's property and makes me get out and open it. We keep driving and we're in the middle of nowhere on this baby mountain and his friends start to show up and start a fire...only then do I see (it was totally dark before this) that there are the remains of burnt cars all around us...apparently they used to steal cars, scrap what they could, then burn the rest. I'm starting to freak out when suddenly a cop car pulls up and yells for us to all stop and put our hands up...MY DATE RUNS!!!!! He jumped in the car without me (but took some of his friends) and they leave a back way! I had to get taken in to the police station and explain that I didn't even know where I was, give the cops the phone numbers and address of this guy and that was the only info I had...I even let them search my apt!!!! THEN he called me the next day to see if I wanted to go "to dinner or something"
2007-05-14 05:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me i had worse than that way worse. I went on a date with this dude and he was like so ugly but he was nice and kind and we went on a date to the movies and then he drove and he was takin me home after the show and he saw his ex girlfriend and he started to talk to her while me and him was holding hands and he let go and gave her a hug and a kiss but a long french. Thats not usaully for ex gf and bf. So im thinkin well there still close like that. So then we go into the show and she going to the same show and we end up sitting by her and the whole time he was talkin to her and not even speaking to me. Then when the movies was over he left me at the show and went with her he aint even give me a ride home and the fact is everyone was out of town that was in my family so i had to walk all the way home witch we was no where close to my house at all and it was like 50 miles from my house that i had to walk from the show.
2007-05-14 05:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Nati's Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women can't handle a real relationship. Once she found out hey this guy is for real, she split. She got scared. And it sounds like she probably knew it on the first date, but waited until the second and until you spent a lot of money on her before she hit the road. What a user. I'd say good riddance. Find yourself a real woman who isn't afraid of committing. At least long enough for 2 dates!
2007-05-14 05:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some women are just pure cvnts! I had the same happen a couple of years ago right after having sex no less!
My advice is to forget this girl and hope the next girl you meet isn't the same. Life is too short to deal with mental women in a relationship.
2007-05-14 05:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by phatzwave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pure cowardice.....htat's the only explanation I can give you. For whatever reason, she wanted O-U-T and didn't have the balls to say so, so she took off. Honestly, I think that is pathetic. It doesn't make a great deal of sense but it takes only a few seconds to make a call and let someone know if there was an emergency so I think we can rule that out.
Sorry this happened to you - hang in there!
2007-05-14 05:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if she started her monthly and was embarrassed to tell you because it was only your second date????
No she shouldn't have left you, but you never know something serious could have happened. What if she got really sick and drove herself to the hospital???
I'm sorry that happened to you, she should have been more mature about the situation. It just sounds weird that she would do that on a 2nd date. Call around and make sure she wasn'y kidnapped or anything
I hope you find someone who appreciates you!!!
2007-05-14 05:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been able to contact her to make sure she is okay? I don't know I guess something still may have happened.
If she did this just to get out of the date I would say she was a ***** and you deserve much better! I can't imagine doing that to someone, even if the date was going horribly...I would at least have the guts to say it wasn't working out and I was going home.
2007-05-14 05:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seriously sucks! I hope she meets someone, falls deeply in love with him, only to have him do the same thing to her that she did to you! If she wasn't feeling you, she should have said so after the 1st date and she should have not gone out with you for a second date. She's a horrible person!
2007-05-14 05:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by ..... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know. I think that's a bit strange. I mean, I'm sorry if she just left because she wasn't having as much fun as you may have thought but still...if that's the case, she really sucks.
Give her a couple more days to tell you what happened.
2007-05-14 05:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋