I've been seeing a guy for over 3 years on and off but thing is, he said he doesn't want a gf! He had a gf when I met him but I didn't find out until like a year later, after I had fallen for him big time. But I carried on seeing him, then his girl found out and it all went **** up! We stopped talking for about 4months, I had finally gotten over him, it was hard and I still had feelings for him but things go easier for me. Then after about 4 months we started chatting again as him and his girl broke up and then him and me started seeing each other again... Not only did I know, he was still seeing his ex ASWEL! Then, that really broke my heart, I just felt like I wasn't good enough for him, he always has an excuse not to be with me but he will still sleep with me and stay at my house every other weekend! And then, to my horror, his ex calls me up to tell me she's pregnant, suprise suprise, we could all see that happening! So yeah, that's another thing I have to deal with! It really hurts. I've never been hurt so much in all my life.. its all take take take... the amount of money he's borrowed from me and not paid me back, and now I'm struggling.. I put myself out for other people and dont get any thanks for it. Even though he doesn't treat me with any respect, I still have feelings for him! And for these 3 years I haven't actually met anyone I like other than him. I've been so depressed and I feel like I'm stuck in a rut I cant get out of, a hell hole! I find it takes the pain away a bit when I cause physical pain up on my self, or cut myself sometimes.
2007-05-14 04:19:27 · 14 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then this weekend, I went to stay with a friend down south. We only live about an hour away from each other. I've known him for a few months and I always liked him but this weekend we got it together and it was amazing, I cant remember the last time I felt that close to someone and it totally took my mind off this other guy. I didn't think i'd ever feel anything for anyone like again. And we spent the whole weekend together, thinking it was all good and then he told me... He didn't think anything would happend between, and he cant offer me anything serious. He wouldn't want to hurt me or ruin a friendship. Then this weekend, I went to stay with a friend down south. We only live about an hour away from each other. I've known him for a few months and I always liked him but this weekend we got it together and it was amazing, I cant remember the last time I felt that close to someone and it totally took my mind off this other guy.
2007-05-14 04:20:03 · update #1
I didn't think i'd ever feel anything for anyone like again. And we spent the whole weekend together, thinking it was all good and then he told me... He didn't think anything would happend between, and he cant offer me anything serious. He wouldn't want to hurt me or ruin a friendship. Thats fair enough but I feel devistated, I feel like I've lost something good. He totoally changed the way I feel about things and it felt like he brought that spark or happiness back into my life. I told him how I felt and that I liked him a lot and how he's taken my mind off this other guy but he only wants to be friends.
2007-05-14 04:20:44 · update #2
I feel so rubbish today and all I want to do is cry. I had a rubbish nights sleep and I just feel ill.
What am I going to do? Am I ever going to find happiness? I'm 25 and feel I'm going on 40. I should be enjoying myself but I feel like I'm just tearing apart, my life, my heart, everything. I will never be good enough for anyone.
I'm sorry if you all found that stupid and boring but I had to tell someone, there is no one else to talk to.
2007-05-14 04:21:08 · update #3
It often helps to write things out, which you have just done! However, after doing so, one must begin taking positive actions on one's own behalf. If you are unable to do that on your own, then PLEASE seek the advise of a professional. There is absolutely no reason to ALLOW anyone to take advantage of you in ANY way.
He is playing with your emotions. Do NOT allow him to use you any longer. Start looking at all YOUR good qualities, as well as your good fortune. Please invest time, thoughts and all your energy in YOURSELF. He does NOT deserve the time of day. Let him go back to this other girl who will soon make him a father. BE VERY VERY thankful that you are not in HER position!!! SHE is the one who deserves your sympathy. Certainly NOT yourself. You are strong. You are a WINNER! BELIEVE IT!
2007-05-14 04:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! don't be too hard on yourself coz you are not the only one facing this kind of problem, you sound like a very nice person and I know you are. i feel you gave in for the wrong guy, which is no fault of yours at all. For the first guy, forget him, he is not the one for you. The second guy, give him time, do not make him see that you are desperate or he will take advantage of you as well ( am a guy and i know this). Just give yourself a break for now, take a vacation to meet your family or girl friends and try to be happy with them, share your problem with ( a problem shared is half solved remember?), these are the people that will never forget you no matter what happens. Then, if you believe in God, pray. I believe in this. Do not feel inferior at all, there is a guy out there dying to meet you. Co'on, be happy its not the end of the world............ I feel for you to. All the best my friend!
2007-05-14 05:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by kokomasta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 22:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should shut up and learn to respect your body. stop sleeping with those men of yours. you obviously like creating a drama..you know you should stop with the first guy and clean up your life. forget him and move on..and try to find a guy who will last. GROW UP. 25 is an age where you can have complete control of your life..so take control and stop complaining!! I am not trying to be severe with you, but you sound like a little child...you KNOW what you have to do..so stop mopping around and do what you have to do.
Good Luck.
2007-05-14 04:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all ... DAMN this is long.
Second of all, hunny you shouldn't have had gotten in between him and his girlfriend. Never get with someone who is already involved with someone else because they will just give you a broken heart and a headache. so in a way this is your fault for not being a bit sharper with your decisions.
2007-05-14 04:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by destiney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh honey i'm sorry you have to go through this your not a looser i once went through something similar. i was in love with this guy but he didn't want me to be his girlfriend and he always cheated on me and lied about having a girlfriend. its been two years since i've seen him and i still think about him so it will take awhile for you to get over him but you will find someone who will not take advantage of you. i used to cut but i haven't in years just realize the cuts will leave permanent scars so please try to find another way to deal with the pain.
2007-05-14 04:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by alina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal ALL your wounds -> proven fact
But only if you give yourself that time
You lived perfectly well the past 22 years before you met him, you'll do just fine from now on too ^^
2007-05-14 04:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by kiwiera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're realy depressed. Go see a professional on this matter to halp you out.. Or become very religious and ask GOd what you should do/
2007-05-14 04:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Honey, Bee Positive! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe later down the road he will try to take it farther. & Forget about the guy that only seems to use you.Don'tlet him stay with you,don't let him barrow anymore money etc
2007-05-14 04:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt feel like a loser your just going through hard times your in what your early to mid 20's you still have plenty of time to find a guy that loves you for you just dont worry .
2007-05-14 04:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by somebodyssexygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋