she had a past but she lied?

Question

i want to check with medical help that with how many men she had selpt with..

Answer 1

Actually, that's none of your business. Plus, there is no medical test that will tell you how many sexual partners a person has, you dimwit.

Answer 2

I am not going to rant and rave here because that is quind of pointless but this is what I think. So she lied.... you have to think to yourself that obviously there is a reason she has led to you, maybe she is ashamed of herself or maybe she thinks that being truth full in everything that has happened in her past is going to ruin w/e it is you two have. The next thing you need to do is sit down and talk to HER! not her mother or sisters, that is one sure fire way to make her feel 1, unworthy 2, belittled 3, untrusting and 4, downright pissed off. So like I said talk to her. let her know that you have some issues don't scream or fight about anything just a calm conversation and simply ask why she lied about those things. Tell her how it made you feel when you found out the truth and explain to her that if she is 100 percent honest with you everything will be ok. Now for the doctor thing, I can tell you right now there is no test that will prove how many sexual partners she has had but I do suggest that the two of you go and get tested for any STI'S because you never know, and at a time like that there is nothing more important than the person you love to be with you for support.

Answer 3

Is this your wife, a gf, fiancee or what? If not wife simply go get med test yourself to be sure you didn't catch anything bec from the way you are talking you are one she slept with and move on with your life since you obviously do not want to trust and forgive at least at this moment. If wife it is more complicated in that if you want to break the tie you need a divorce but if your attitude is unforgiving and untrusting (whether or not with cause) and you do not wish to build trust with this woman invest in the divorce and again get yourself tested every 6 mo for 18 mo so you can be sure that nothing like AIDS that can develop slowly has infected you fromn this relationshiop. Celibacy for that 18 mo would be good too so you do not pass on anything including HPV which is not preventable with comdom.

There is absolutely no test that will tell how many ppl someone slept with. It can be shown that someone is/is not a virgin tho even then an injury to the hyman is possible without it beong from sex. It can be indicated medically if there was frequent recent intercourse. But there is no count possible.

It may be worth asking yourself why she told you what she did. Is it possible that her past is past and she wanted to get away frrom it? Is it possible that she cared about you and thought you would not care for her if you knew and hoped you would not find out? Has your own past been pure or are you thinking of double standards? Is it possible that her past is not so sexy and she made up a story of many guys in anger thinking you cheated on her or in trying to brag or?? Is it possible that some other guy told you he had been with her and was lying - bragging or trying to hurt? Is it possible that she has changed from the time she did whatever?

The main 2 things are when you get over the anger and insult enough to think
1. Is there enough love and possibility of future trust there to make the relationship worth building.
2. Have you caught or become a transmitter for anything in this relationship?

Spiritually hate and anger can poison you and do you more harm than your anger does her. Jesus forgave us and died to pay the full penalty for our sin so we can be in right relationship with God through Him. None of us is sin-free except by His blood so we all know what it is like to do bad and need forgiveness. Please consider asking Jesus help to get through and over this hurt.

Answer 4

Obviously, her lying and her sexual activity are unacceptable to you. I think you should cut her loose in the interests of both of you.
Doctors can tell whether she has had a baby or an abortion, but unless you get her to go for life insurance and name yourself as the policy owner, it is going to be almost impossible to get any data on this. So far as pregnancy is concerned, even if terminated by abortion, the color of the nipples deepens permanently, as I understand it.
If she has not had men attending to her breasts then they are often unlikely to have a heavily protruding areola, when she is excited.
There are sprays that can detect the presence of semen in underpants, etc., and there are lights that can do so also, but this is not going to tell you how many men she has slept with, but only if she is sleeping with someone now.

Answer 5

Apart from the fact that you can't tell how many partners someone has had with medical tests, they would not give you any information that is private anyway, that's just the way it is. The past is the past, get over it, if she has no diseases then what's the issue?

Answer 6

It doesn't matter how many men she slept with as long as she doesn't have an STD. The only medical thing you can do is verify she doesn't have any diseases. Are you a virgin? How many people have you slept with? People make mistakes dude and sometimes you just need to get laid. Its in the past let it go.

Answer 7

everyone has a past, which is gone and overwith.

if you don't trust the person you are with, then it's probably not a good idea to be with them at all.

it's none of our business to intrude on others about their past, and some things are better left unsaid.

if you are worried about STD's, use protection.

you can't find out how many men someone has slept with by asking a doctor... if this is what you're talking about? i really don't understand this well.

take care.

Answer 8

Most women do not like to discuss their past sexual history because then they are judges or labeled. If her past bothers you then you should have an honest and open conversation with her about it. Then, if you still have concerns then you need to decide if this relationship is what you want. You should also ask yourself why her past bothers you. My husband has never wanted to know about my past sexual experiences, he trusts me and knows that I am faithful. He says that anything that I did before made no difference to how our relationship works now. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 9

grow up already.......... i'm sure you haven't been a saint your entire life.. none of us have... you must be feeling very inadequate in the manhood area if you need to check on the number of men she's been with.... if your that insecure come out and ask her if your bigger or smaller than her past lovers.... just don't get pissed at her answer.. afterall YOU brought this on yourself

Answer 10

There is no accuracy in medical terms for that yet.So now you re making her past present by proving that to her!IFyou feel that was wrong confront her rather than finding options to make her your past now .