i have been married for about 5 years now i just recently separated from my wife because she stated that she has lost all love for me. should i have faith the god will help me out in these trouble times or should i just go ahead and get a divorce?
2007-05-14 03:54:58 · 18 answers · asked by colochi79 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I encourage you to read 1 Corinthians 7, the whole chapter deals with this issue.
Prayer is the best way to find out the Lord's will for you. Every situation is different and that's why is so hard to get advise from others. People will tell you what they think; however, God alone knows what His plans are for your life.
I've seen cases where either a woman or a man are married to an unbeliever, or to someone that doesn't want to be with them, and they have been faithfully praying for God's will, and sometimes God has restored their marriage, and sometimes not. So
Proverbs 20:24, "A man's steps are directed by the LORD.
How then can anyone understand his own way?"
Isaiah 48:17
This is what the LORD says— your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: "I am the LORD your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go.
I'll be praying for you. If you need someone to pray and talk to you can contact me at aitak217@hotmail.com
GOD Bless!
2007-05-14 04:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by J7J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God meant marriage to be for eternity. Ask for His help and do the best you can to repair the relationship. Falling out of love is unfortunately fairly common, but by asking for God's help and by putting the daily effort back into the relationship, you can get it back.
Here's a quote from the Proclamation on the Family referenced below:
The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.
2007-05-14 04:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan Kingsford 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this. God will certainly help you through this troubled time but that does not mean divorce is not inevitable. He will not force your wife to do something against her will. If she is unwilling to work with you to save the marriage then there is little you can do by yourself. You can certainly set a time table to give her time to change her mind but at some point if she does not change her mind you will need to accept the reality. God will be there to help you through whatever the future may hold.
2007-05-14 04:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation to talk about here. I believe that you and her should council with a local pastor. He will be able to put your relationship in perspective, with Biblical backing. He can give you must better advice than anyone of us here, who do not know you.. or your situation. If she will not go... still make the effort yourself. Any good pastor will not mind this... it is a part of ministry to help people through these problems.
Also maybe read the book....
"The five love languages"
It has saved many marriages.
2007-05-14 04:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by McClintock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes me so sad. It seems as if, for her at least, marriage is disposable.
My hubby and I have been married 21 years in July, we have had times when we were absolutely all over one another, and times where we looked at one another and felt little.
Love is an action, not an emotion. Relationships ebb and flow. It's sad when someone chooses to leave during a dry time.
You cannot make her change her mind, if she is determined to leave, there is not a whole lot you can do.
2007-05-14 04:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sister blue eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if you are both born again believers in Christ Jesus. I was married to an unbeliever and he wanted to leave.
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
2007-05-14 04:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can do both I would think. You can't make the marriage work alone and if she isn't willing then you will have to let go and get the divorce. That doesn't mean you can't pray for the strength to get through it though.
2007-05-14 03:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by ~Heathen Princess~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God first and then try to get her back and go back into church. When a Married couple puts God first in their lives they improve their marriages.
2007-05-14 04:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot divorce her unless she commits adultery and remain in God's favor. Jesus was simple and clear on that.
You may have to live by yourself awhile until she commits adultery or she remarries, which for her, would be an act of adultery.
Try to win her back if you love her.
I need to clarify something----you cannot divorce and marry another, unless she commits adultery.
2007-05-14 04:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by rangedog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will be with you during these times if you ask Him to be, but he cannot fix your marriage. God expects us to take action with the many options provided to us.
I would suggest some couples counseling, simply because...its good for my business, lol.
The Ol' Hippie Jesus Freak
Grace and Peace
Peg
2007-05-14 03:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋