Every time I meet a new guy, this question always pops up in my mind--assuming I'm interested in sleeping with him, how long should I wait before letting him “get it on?” I'm afraid that if I let him do it on the first or second date he'll think I'm a slut and quickly lose interest in me. But, if we wait much longer than that, he might just get tired of waiting and bail on me anyway. I respect your opinion, so tell me--how long is too long?
2007-05-14 03:42:41 · 24 answers · asked by iwonderlife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-05-14 03:44:55 · update #1
look... in short. i am a s l u t but i just don't want to get tht fame.
2007-05-14 03:53:17 · update #2
there is no length of time that is too long. if you put out on first or second date then your portrayed as easy. too long your frigid.
women dont get a good name either way. but if you are interested in this bloke, and he is interested in you then he will wait.
a decent bloke will always wait for around 6 dates before getting fidgity so why not wait for a bit and get to know the man first.
if after 4 dates you feel really comfortable with each other, why not sit together and start kissing. see what happens after that.if he says to you are you ready for this then you know that he is a decent enough man
2007-05-14 03:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given my experience...they are going to think whatever they want REGARDLESS if you wait 2 dates or 10. I'd say you are better off giving it a few months. Seriously. There are times I wish I knew now then & acted on it, meaning I wished I'd gotten to know the a**h** more & realized what he was BEFORE I gave him my charms. If the guy likes & respects you he'll understand & hold out as long as you can. If not, then he's not worth your time in the first place. Good luck honey.
2007-05-14 03:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're married. If a guy wants to stay with you as your boyfriend even if there's no "getting it on," then you know he really likes you for you. That's how you know you have a quality man. If he can't respect that, then he won't respect you.
Otherwise, it sounds like you don't think you have much to offer other than sex. Which means you need to get some self-esteem and self-confidence.
2007-05-14 03:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by chicagos_no_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the Honeymoon.
Ask yourself-Why would a man buy a cow if he keeps getting the milk for free?
If you keep this up you will end up old, alone and without prospects.
Think about your reputation-One day you will want to get married and have kids. Is this the legacy you want to bring them?
Or, play Russian Roulette with venereal diseases?
Wait for the guy who will swept you of your feet for the rest of your life, not the one that will forget your name after he has an orgasm.
This tidbit of wisdom has been free of charge.
2007-05-14 03:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it when your both ready and comfy (that could mean 1st date) . There is no law to this sceanrio No one has the right to decide this but the parties involved. For the record I did it 1-3 months after I met my past 2 serious relationships because thats when I was comfy. As far as my other relationships...the basis of the relationships was purely sexual so that was the purpose of it "friends with benefit relationships" Hoo ha!!
2007-05-14 03:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If we wait much longer....he might just get tired of waiting and bail on me anyway". If your meeting guys like this, why would you want to put out for them if they have that kind of mentality. Don't put a specific date on it, just go with the flow. And talk with him, see what he thinks about it. Your both adults sheesh
2007-05-14 03:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Pookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a guy wants you to do it the first or second date he is just after 1 thing and it is not love or a realtionship of anykind
I say wait till it feels right for you not him after all you have live with yourself from now on he may not be around very long at all. God bless and good luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-14 03:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Moma Dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is going to bail out on you just cuz he aint gettin any he really aint worth your time. because if he does this all he is after is sex. if he really cares about you he will wait for you. if you want a real future with this guy I think you should wait so you can get to know each other. their is no real time limit on things like that just let things happen naturally meaning no one is pressured into it. trust me you will be so happy you waited. Just protect yourself.
2007-05-14 03:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you sleep with a guy too soon, then yes he will think your a skank.....but i would really have to disagree with you, on the man who will bail on you for waiting too long...i mean, would you really want to be with a guy like that anyways?
wait atleast 6 months... build your relatinship, and if he can respect the fact that you want to wait, then what a guy! and hold on to him....but if he cant, then hes a horny litle beeyotch who should go away anyways.
2007-05-14 03:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships and Love dont involve a specific timeframe. It evolves because two people care enough for each other that they want to show that person how they make them feel and use passion, romance, and intimacy to express that to the one they love.
You will know when you feel it inside that the time is right...gl
2007-05-14 04:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋