Okay I have a huge dilemma. My sister was scheduled for a C-section on May 11 of this year but had it done a day early. My wedding is scheduled for May 10, 2008. Which means, he will turn 1 on my wedding day which happens to be a Saturday. And she always plans the kids birthday parties for Saturdays. Should I reschedule my wedding or ask her to have the party another day? I love my sister and my nephew so I don't want to cause any kind of rift in the family. But she knew we had already started planning the wedding when she decided to go a day early. I don't want to be selfish but I really want to keep my wedding date. I need some advice!!
2007-05-14 03:12:14 · 17 answers · asked by deeshair 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have actually had this anniversary for 4 years now. It just worked out that our 5th anniversary is going to be on a Saturday
and it will be easier for him since he won't have to remember another date. He can't remember birthdays but he always remembers our anniversary. I just want to keep the date!
2007-05-14 03:40:11 · update #1
I almost had to reschedule our wedding because of other conflicts, but it happened to be our anniversary, and if we don't do it now, we'll have to wait 5 years because no one wants a big wedding on a weekday.
Please, don't reschedule. She may not have been able to help when she had her C-section, but she can set the birthday party aside a day for her sister. Especially if you've been planning for so long. No, you are not being selfish, this is a very special date for you and she needs to understand that. There will be many more birthdays, but never another wedding, or at least not on that date.
Best of luck.
2007-05-14 04:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Brin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your sister and see if she can reschedule the party till the Saturday after. Your nephew is only going to be one and won't know the difference if he has his party a week late or a month early :-) You had your wedding date picked already so you should keep it.
2007-05-14 03:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your sister knew of your scheduled wedding date well in advance and she chose to deliver her child a day ahead for no medically necessary reason than you should keep your day. If your sister didn't have a choice in the matter, (if it was medically necessary to take the baby on that date) that I would change your wedding date. Why not talk to your sister about the dilemma and see what she has to say about it, perhaps you two can come to a solution together. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-14 03:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont reschedule your wedding that a one time thing a birthday comes every year and she can always doing the next saturday
2007-05-14 03:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Meche 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that since your sister knows your wedding date, she will be planning his 1st birthday party for another date, probably the Saturday before or after. Talk to her, she isnt planning his party for the 10th, dont worry!
2007-05-14 04:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have only one thing to add... do you want to share your wedding anv. with your nephews birthday. Remeber that day will always be his birthday and you may have to share it with his birthday parties for a long time. If you dont mind talk to your sister and see if she is willing to move the party. If you would rather have your big day all to your self, move your wedding a week.
2007-05-14 03:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by A. IDE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a wedding trumps a birthday. She will deal with it believe me. You've already invested way more time and money than she has at this point. A wedding only comes once in a lifetime and birthdays are recurring. Stick to your guns and explain to her that this is your day. She's had hers and it's time that you get to have yours. She should be supportive instead of trying to steal a little attention.
2007-05-14 03:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Maria B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wedding=a year of planning and headaches, and things still go wrong.
Birthday party=a week of planning and headaches.
You win! Seriously, though, a 1-year-old won't remember their birthday. Plus, yours is the more important occasion.
2007-05-14 03:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your wedding is a way bigger day than a birthday. If it really comes down to it do a joint thing, have a birthday cake for him at the reception, and then do the friends birthday party on another day.
2007-05-14 03:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by sirenboy521 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about you just talk to her before you panic? I mean you have a year to work on this and I doubt she'd want to miss your wedding in favor of a 1 year old's party which could be held another time. Just calm down a bit and tell her what you are worried about. She'll probably laugh and say she'd never try to compete with you.
2007-05-14 03:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by indydst8 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋