How many people think that it is ok for a 16 year old to date a 19 year old?

Question

I am a 16 year old girl who is dating a 19 year old. Most people think that it is worng. But he treats me so right. I have found true love. I am not gonna leave him no matter what, but i wanna have other people's input. So do you think it is ok?

My parents are fine with it because he treats me right. He dose not presser me into having sex he wants me to wait until I am older.

By the way I really don't care that most of you think I am to young to know what love is. And that you think it is wrong. My parensts love him, I love him, f**k my whole family loves him. And his parents love me. They see nothing wrong with it in fact I am waiting until I get out of school and have a job and we wanna get married so what ever you all really think could mean less to me, even when you mention the law. That is me in the pic and that is well dressed when you see how the girls younger then me dress. I only wear that around my house my parents and my b/f would never let me wear that outside in public. Thanks for reading

Answer 1

Thanks for all the info................that clears all the negative reasons why people think is wrong!!!

In most cases............obviously not yours.........older guys approach younger women because it is easier to get them to do what you want while they impress to their girlfriends the fact that they are dating older men!! Older guys just like any guys 14+ and maybe as youngers as 10+ in other countries want women, girls, whatever for only one thing and that is: SEX!!!!!!

The younger the girl the less you have to work to get it.........or so it looks like!!!!

If your boyfriend treats you good and is respectful to you always...............then I agree with you and don't have a problem at all!! Good luck and have fun..........hope you are not making a mistake since most guys won't show their true colors until they get what they really wanted!!!

This world is really hard in every aspect you look at it.........but if you work it out as a persistent and strong person success will come sometime!!

Good luck!!

Answer 2

Without knowing you or your bf it's difficult to say. As a general rule I don't think it's a good idea.

I am a parent of two teenage boys and I would be concern if they were dating a girl three years younger than themselves.

For some teens three years is a huge gap and obviously if he was 25 and you were 22 the whole age thing would be meaningless. At that age you'd both be adults and on relatively equal footings.

Lets face it, everybody around you are worried he's going to take advantage of you. Is he mature enough not to? And if he is that mature, why isn't he with teens his own age?

You may have found true love but one cautionary thought to consider is love changes through time. Don't get in over your head here. Mistakes and heartbreaks at 16 can last a life time.

Answer 3

I dated someone who was 19 when I was 15. Im now 24 and looking back, I was crazy, although alot of it was because he was the wrong guy. Still, he's at a different point in his life, or at least he should be. You should be excited about going to dances and football games, and he really shouldnt at this point. It's true that age matters less as you get older.
You probably don't want to hear this, but whether you realize it or not right now, you're still a kid and there is something wrong if he's into the same stuff as you. I know you're going to roll your eyes, because I did the same thing years ago. You're thinking you two are different than others, but you're not. You'll look back on high school and think about what you missed out on. Keep in touch with him and in a few years if you guys are still into eachother, get together then. But for now, know that he's got issues if he wants to date a 16 year old, no matter how mature you are.

Answer 4

well people make a big deal of things there is actually a 4 yr difference btwn my hs sweetheart and I. I was 15 he was 19, sounds funny now but I am 22 he is 26 the difference gets less as u get older. As long as he is nice to u treats u well doesnt take advantage of u or ur age then who cares. yes technically he could ge tin trouble if anything happened....but as u age the gap isnt a big deal. so when ur 24 he would be 27 see doesnt sound as bad. btw my parents age gap is 9 years so how about that...they didnt meet until they were in their 30s though

Answer 5

well, it depends on the state and what the laws are where you are...in some states it's illegal. Personally I think you're too young for true love. You don't even know who you are yet and your bf is onyl 19 and guys mature slower than chicks! Personally, most guys who are into younger women (especially girls who are under 18) are usually gross! They're usually controlling perverts who get their rocks off by dating younger girls that they can control. I think you should stick to guys more your age. Most girls who date older guys at your age are looking for a "father figure" and have grown up in dysfunctional families where a strong male role model is non-existent. There are always exceptions to the rule but not often. Good luck though!!

Answer 6

It is wrong for 16yrs girls to date 19yrs boys.

1) What's wrong with boys your age and what's wrong with girls his age? Older boys who can’t compete with girls their own age find younger, inexperienced girls to take advantage of. Younger girls think older boys are more experienced and worldly, but sometimes that is not true. They are just older and aware of your inexperience in the dating scene and take advantage of that inexperience for sex and leave when it becomes inconvenient (like when they find someone their age or you become pregnant).

2) Love is transitory, meaning you may love him today and hate him later for the usual reasons (hurt feelings, empty promises, and abuse). Learn from the mistake of others; try not to make so many of your own today.

3) Not only is it not right emotionally, it is illegal for you to date a 19 yrs old. He can go to Jail. He could leave you at any time. He could take advantage of you (physically and mentally). Save your self for someone worthy of your love.

Have fun with boys your age and create memorable memories that will last a lifetime, not be a nightmare all your life.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Legally it's not right, but I personally think it's okay because it's only a 3 year difference. My husband is four years older than me, but I was 18 when we met. When you get older, age difference doesn't matter as much. You're not that far apart so I think it's fine. It's not like he's a really old sex predator, but the law is still there to protect you. As long as you're both consenting, I say go for it. If you're parents are on your side that helps too.

Answer 8

A bigger age difference makes for a more serious and communicated relationship I think... more serious things to talk about like this question and others... I actually think that having those mroe controversal things to talk about opens the relationship up more and makes it stronger.
Nothing wrong with an age difference if its approached intelligently.
I started dating a 20 year old when I was 16 and I'm still with him now.

Answer 9

If this picture is of you, then no wonder you are attracting 19 year olds! Leave a little to the imagination. At 16, you don't need to be flaunting it! 19 year old guys have only 1 thing on their minds. Don't be is such a hurry to grow up. You've got your lifetime ahead of you. Stick to the guys your own age or 1 year older.

Answer 10

Its fine to be dating him but you can not be having a physical relationship with him. If those people who think its wrong found out, he could go to jail and Im sure you wouldnt want that of your true love. to be rotting away in jail for you? The age problem has nothing to do with the dating... its the sex part people might be worried about.