My husband has 2 children with his ex girlfriend. We have one child together. His ex is pregnant by his cousin and his family is so excited about the new baby coming. We mentioned to his mother that we are thinking of trying for another baby soon and she flat out said "no you're not". She wasn't kidding either. I love his mom but this really hurt my feelings. The rest of the family just shrugged their shoulders. Whats up with this?
2007-05-14 02:56:36 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Who cares what anyone else thinks or wants? It's up to you and your husband.
2007-05-14 02:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You do what is best for you and your family not your in laws. Obviously you are the one who is going to carry the baby for 9 months, deliver the baby, and raise it. So, if she doesn't agree then that's too bad its your life and your husband. You don't compromise with your in laws on how many babies you can or can't have. Besides when that bundle of joy is born she will go crazy.
2007-05-14 03:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Husbands family doesn't want us to have anymore kids?
2014-12-18 15:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they say? Maybe his mom is concerned about finances or has some weird other concerns in mind. But she isn't going to raise the child so it doesn't matter.
My mother-in-law is in her late seventies. Her son and I had our first when he was 48, second when he was 53. She was mortified. But she loves the little darlings very much. She would be ultra-shocked if we had a nother now that he is 56, but I know she would love him/her too.
Ignore her. Shrug her off like the rest of them, just smile.
2007-05-14 03:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in-laws have no say in whether you have more children. However, they might and I say "might" be concerned because of the financial responsibility in taking care of the two children with his ex and the child you have together and possibly having another one.
You need to look at it in that manner as your husband does have 2 other children that he MUST support until they are 18 years old. The more children brough into the marriage, the greater the financial hardship.
Sit down with your mother-in-law and ASK her what she meant by her statement. This will at least give you a clearer picture of where she was coming from.
I know, if my 39 year old son was in the same situation, I would certainly be concerned for him financially as he would be difficult to provide for 4 children in this day and age.
2007-05-14 03:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what is best for your family (Your husband and children). Never mind what his family thinks..do what is best for you.
Often, people throw out their free and sometimes harmful advice without thinking the damage it could do... They say what they think and forget about it, not realizing the lingering effect it leaves on us.
I will give you an example of harmful words and how they effect. My hubby's sister said to me...I was 5 months pregnant.."What did you do...did you tie (my hubby's hands behind his back" and you eat infront of him. I have never forgiven or forgotten those words..my son is now 28 years old. To this day, she can't understand why I dont want to visit them.
Bottom line.......This is your life with your hubby and young family. Never mind anyone else.....have the family you are looking for.
2007-05-14 03:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by CathyG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know when having kids became his mother's decision. It doesn't sound like the most prudent thing to do (to be quite honest). Dispite that, unless he is living under his mother's roof, she has no say in this situation.
2007-05-17 15:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by momof2bru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a case of devilmother-in-law. Every family works differently when it comes to having a tyrant that can't keep their opinions to themselves. Ultimately, it is your decision whether you have another baby or not. No one can tell you what to do with your bodies. I'm the kinda person that might say something like well, I wasn't finished. I meant to say we were planning on having another baby next year, then 1 a year for the next 3 years. Pardon my french, but screw her.
2007-05-14 03:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is something wrong. Your husbands family is excited about the new baby coming from your husbands ex girl friend and that too from a cousin, and they wont allow to have you a baby.
Its better you put your feet down and get a baby. Your husband must cooperate, but if he also sides with his family, then better think of another option and get seperated and find a man who loves you and respects your feeling
Or simply simply avoid meeting your inlaws and move to another city.
Speak the matter with your husband and make him realise that he is depriving you of your rights and it may mean that he doesnt love you and still have contacts with his ex girl friend, who ius a bad women anyway.
2007-05-14 03:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by simba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you a re financially stable enough for another kid right now and you don't have any serious relationship issues, do what you two want to do. it is not up to her how many children he has. perhaps she doesn't like you and is hoping you two will fizzle, who knows? ask him to have a heart-to-heart with his mother and get some real information.
2007-05-14 03:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by chelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im wondering if they think you and your husband make bad parents. Possible?? Besides that, this choice has nothing to do with her, the evil mother in law she may be. If you and your husband want another baby, than go for it. And dont let her drag you down and ruin your exciting time.
2007-05-14 02:59:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋