How can i get my son to like her?

Question

I have a 3 1/2 year old son and he doesn't seem to like my new girlfriend. It's wierd because when she's not there he asked about her all the time and then when she's with me he is mean to her. I dont know if he is too young to have a talk with him or not. Any suggestions? I really don't want to lose my girlfriend, but i know i have to look out for the best interest of my son.

Answer 1

don't force her on him. Let time take it's course. He'll get more and more used to her being around and will warm up to her. He's probably too young to understand what exactly is going on.

Answer 2

He's young enough to come around. Just ask for her maturity and patience while she grows on him. That's how most kids are and naturally so since the traditional relationship - Mom and Dad raising the baby together is just about an endangered thing... I have a blended family and it just takes a lot of time. Be patient, your son will come around. Don't have a talk with him, just be patient. He will always want Mommy & Daddy together again. But they can tolerate each other with some harmony with time. It ain't easy, but it does happen. Hang in there, you sound like an amazing Dad. Peace.

Answer 3

Kids at that age need time to warm up to a person. Bring her around and make sure you do something the child likes. Your son will then associate your girlfriend with something positive. My niece wouldn't come near me when she was younger (and she is named after me), because I was not around much (in college). After she played a few games together and I spent time with her (one on one) she loved me. I'm not saying to send your child off alone for a weekend with your new girlfriend, but do try to distance yourself when the three of you are together, so he can become comfortable with her.

Answer 4

kids are funny that way believe me i had 2 and when i was dating my sons didnt like any of my bf until this one. I would ask him why he is mean to her he may be young but he knows how to be mean and he should be able to tell you why. It could honestly possibly be that he feels she is taking you from him that is one problem i ran into myself. They feel that because there is someone else in the picture now in your case daddy wont have as much time for him so its hard to tell ya what to do let him help you make supper for her one night make sure that he feels included and i am sure it will be ok.

Answer 5

if you don't correct his rudeness at 3 1/2 years old he's going to think its okay to act that way. Do the best for your son before he causes trouble with people he comes in contact with.
he probably just needs adjusting to her. Have her spend sometime with him without you around. like a kids movie or taking him to the park. Sometimes kids just want attention.

Answer 6

I don't know kids very well, nor do I understand them. I'm assuming your son is a little jealous of the attention that you're giving your girlfriend. It sounds like he wants to like her, but she takes attention away from him when she's with you. My advice would be to try to involve your son in things that you and yourgirlfriend do. Find something all three of you can enjoy.

Answer 7

Though yr son is too small but he needs to be diagnoised analytically.
He is eager to know yr gf but from inside he is afraid. U need to let yr gf meet a couple of times with him, in yr absence.

Since how long is the mother gone?

Was he very affectionate to her?

Does he still recall her very often?

U need to understand some of these issues also.

Try taking him out with u both, for an icecream, a ride, or a fun park.

Give him an healthy exposure with yr gf, maybe that will reduce the fear of missing his loved one.

Answer 8

first off, he is 31/2. As far as i'm concerned, he don't have an opinion yet. If he don't like her, that's too bad. He has no say in what you do. You provide for him, not the other way around! Just give him some time to grow up and get used to her.

Answer 9

you cant force someone to think the way you want them to, even at his age. just tell him to be respectful and then ground/spank him when he's mean and doesn't mind you, his parent. Don't coddle your kid and have him make the decision who's good for you or not. I would think you would know more about what's good for you than him. Why would you even talk about losing your g/f just becasue your son is mean?? People like you have no clue. arrgh.

Answer 10

sorry to say this but usually when a child doesn't like an adult there is a good reason. have they ever ever been alone together? even for one minute? he also may be getting vibes from her like not good ones. I would keep her away from him and why not date for a few long months like 6 before you even introduce your child to the person. otherwise he is going to meet a lot of strangers and be expected to trust them and is that really fair? since you don't really know her or 'them'?