I have been with my fiance for 2 in a half years and we haven't spent a night apart and we wanted the first night to be our night before the wedding. Is this chessy. I just feel too settled down to be going to friend's houses and spending the night. what do i do?
2007-05-14 02:22:25 · 22 answers · asked by summer_gurl0357 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can say no if you LIKE but really it's ONE night. Are either one of you going to not care about the other one if you don't see each other for one night. Spending the night with girlfriends at any age can be a blast. You forget all of the silly things that can be done and discussed when you are always being a "grown up" and "settled." Spending the night with her will also cut down on the travel/wake up time in the morning for you as you will all be situated with one another. Besides if you haven't spent one night apart since you have been together in two years, whether you recognize it or not you probably need a break. And if you can't do one or two nights apart now then what are you going to do when one of you is away on business or a family member is out of state and ill or you have an event and only one of you really wants to go?
2007-05-14 02:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You stated that you and your fiance have been together for two and a half years, and haven't spent a night apart. Then you stated that you wanted your first night to be the night before the wedding. You are contradicting your story. Which one is it?
As for spending the night with the bride and the other bridesmaids, do it. This is the last time th bride will be a single woman. She wants to spend cherished, quality time with her friends. You are being selfish and not a good friend.
2007-05-14 10:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by sunchine girl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can see both sides of your dilemma; as a bride you want everything to go flawlessly; like having all your bridesmaids there on time to have their hair, make-up, etc done. You could go and stay the evening with the bride and leave home for the night; tell her you will be there by 7 am, to help her get ready. That way you appease the bride and don't spend the night away from your fiance.
2007-05-14 09:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Frances D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if I understand the importance of you not spending a night away from your boyfriend unless it is the night before your own wedding. Is that it? What's the big deal? What if one of you had to go away for a job reason, or a family emergency?
A sleepover with the bride and all the bridesmaids the night before the wedding would be such fun, and you would all have such nice memories. Can the crap and do it.
2007-05-14 09:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm surprised everyone is telling you to go to the bride's slumber party,. I think that if you and your fiance have decided that you weren't going to spend a night apart until the night before your wedding, than you should stick to it. It's none of my business why you've chosen to do that, but since you have, i dont think it matters that it's the other bride's "day" Give me a break.
Just stay home. Let her know that it's important for you and your fiance to succeed in your quest to not spend any night away and that it'll make the night before your wedding all that more special to you. If she gets pissed, SHE's the bad friend. There are no requirements or ettiquette that says you have to sleep over her house the night before her wedding, and screw up your future plans.
2007-05-14 11:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You and your fiance will have the rest of your lives to spend together. Being "settled" doesn't have anything to do with your decision. Being selfish does.
Go, have a good time, but most of all, be the friend you should be to the bride who asked you to stand up with her at her wedding. If you don't, you may be driving a wedge into that friendship.
2007-05-14 09:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by GracieM 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First, I would just like to say weird. I have never heard of this. A bride needs as much sleep as she can get the night before since the next day is going to be busy and stressful. And having a big slumber party will likely keep everyone up too late and make everyone grumpy.
But anyway, I wouldn't leave my husband for something like this, either. I should think your friend would understand if you would explain this to her. But you should go and hang out as long as you can. Maybe until everyone else starts settling down to sleep for the night.
2007-05-14 15:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lilli 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She probably wants one more "girls only" night before she gets married. If you don't want to stay the night, then just go and stay very late. You can tell her simply that you don't sleep well unless it's your own bed and you don't want to be a party-pooper, but you want to be ready to go for the wedding(it being such a long day and all). You'll probably get crap for it, but just keep apologizing and be sure to stay as long as you possibly can. If it were me, I'd just suck it up and spend the night...even though I hate doing stuff like that and always have(I don't know why). As far as not wanting to be away from fiance, let me just say that I've been with my husband for 10 years(5dating/engaged and 5 married) and one night away is actually good for a relationship/marriage....just a little FYI!!! Good luck!
2007-05-14 10:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by emrobs 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The wedding is about the bride. Even if she normally is a very understanding, good friend, for some reason around the wedding day the bride turns into an evil beast when she doesn't get what she wants. I say you do it for her, your fiance should understand!!
2007-05-14 10:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ummm yes it's cheesy... you aren't siamese twins!
I'm not sure why she wants you all together... maybe she's got something very special planned, like an in home spa evening and a hairstylist and makeup artist in the morning!
If you are friends with all the bridesmaids, GO! A girls night will be much harder to manage after the babies start coming!
2007-05-15 01:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by endorable 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋