His "dream girl" always give's advice to him, and also cheer him up a lot, my Friend is confused about this situation, My friend tried to court her, but she said that she's not ready yet, She told my friend that if he changes she might answer him.....
And also His dream girl seems to care about my Friend a Lot, My friend is confused, what should he do???
2007-05-13 23:34:35 · 22 answers · asked by DARKSTAR 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just give some times , everything will happen in Time , if she is still not ready , then she is looking for something better to come up so she doesn't prefer him for 100% so she might be still thinking she still can get some one better in this while she is being good and carrying friend cause she doesn't wanna lose everything all of sudden
2007-05-21 19:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Amir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the "ladder theory"...
Women have two ladders. One is a friend ladder and the other is the boyfriend ladder. It is almost impossible to get on the boyfriend ladder once you've been placed on the friend ladder, especially if he is a nice guy. Typically, women don't want to have s&x with "nice guys". They like the bad boys or at least the bad boy image.
He'll never get anywhere with her, if he keeps being such a good friend. Next time she tells him that he's "such a good friend" he needs to let her know that he has enough friends and she is too beautiful, too wonderful, and too special for him to just be her friend.
With that he'll either win big or lose big but at least he won't be stuck in limbo.
2007-05-21 23:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have some issues of her own that she is dealing with and she wants to be able to give her all to him she obviously cares about him and depending on what she's asking him to change might be a health risk and that is a genuine concern if that's the "change" in question but i would tell him to wait if they are meant to be together it will happen things take time you can't rush true love! ♥ =o)
2007-05-21 20:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the girl might actually like also your friend But there are really cases like that.The girl is not yet ready to have a b.f or to date.Because she might still be giving herself a freedom to express her feelings but not really into jumping into a relationship she might also be reviving herself from a heart break before.Some cases there are girls that just plainly sweet that's why maybe your friend find her as his "dream girl'.But not really interested to be your friends girlfriend.
2007-05-21 14:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by siverdust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should make sure she knows that he is really into her. Make that clear and without a doubt. Once he's made every possible effort to win this woman then he can wait for the chips to fall. He should check on her and see how she is doing, etc. still. I disagree with darkshadow. Most mature women disappear if they think a man they're interested in is interested in someone else,
2007-05-13 23:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to know what to do in a situstion is to ask the person directly...If the girl has a specific reason why she is not interested in him as more than a friend then he needs to come right out and ask her why or what is it that turns her off from wanting to be more than friends...You never know after hearing her reasons he may not even want to date her...Why should he have to change who he is just for one person? So tell your frined to ask her.
2007-05-13 23:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
If your friend's "dream girl" is so wonderful, she should accept your friend for who he is, and not ask him to change. He may like her with all of his heart, but he'll never be happy if he has to change who he really is..if it's just to make his dream girl happy. Then again, some people will do anything to change for their "dream girl/boy". I think that your friend should find someone who likes him for who he is, and he shouldn't have to change..even for his dream girl. If she cares about him, she'll love him for himself.
2007-05-21 19:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Bubblez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend or you???!!!
As much as 'your friend' likes this girl, shes not for him. Anyone who asks someone to change in order to stand a chance with them is crazy. She shouldnt want a boyfriend who she has 'moulded' and 'he' shouldnt want to be with someone who wasnt interested in the real him!
She sounds ok as a friend but thats all. Your friend will find someone who loves everything about him one day, and thats the way it should be.
NEVER CHANGE FOR ANYONE! because one day it might not work out, and then you're on your own, and forgotten who you are.
xxxx
2007-05-13 23:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Magik_Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not ready for a realtionship, that is what she is trying to tell him, and just being friends is what she wants now.
If he can cope with that, then it should be no big deal for him, at least she still wants to be friends.
But remember, she can't change him, so maby a friendship is the best thing, would your friend want to be in a relationship with someone who wants to change your friend?
2007-05-13 23:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok there are 4 classes that guys fall into with women, 1st is i gotta have him! 2nd is he MIGHT be worthy? 3rd is JUST friends, and 4th is no way in hell! it is VERY difficult to navigate in and out of these classifications, so get used to the one you're in. now its not IMPOSSIBLE to move up but it takes work, and you will not have to change yourself, you will have to change how SHE sees you.
first thing is make yourself unavailable to her, make her think that you have better things to do, don't go running to her every time she calls or talks to you, be aloof, be confident, create some mystery to your personality, its not easy to alter how you behave, or how others know you to behave, but it can be done with hard work and concentration. my advice though really is to forget THIS one and go for another, 'saving' the one you THINK is right for you wastes alot of time and energy, plus its not likely that you will succeed there.
you can though use her for practice, to hone your skills and get ready for the NEXT great woman you meet, this is the key to success, always be willing to move on to the NEXT good thing, don't be afraid of letting go of anything or anyone, it puts you in command, a place of power, it is attractive to women to be led, they WANT to be led, grow some nuts and use them.
2007-05-21 17:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Railrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋