My boyfriend and i have been getting into arguments since the beginning of this year.?

Question

I cant understand why we argue over many things and i end up saying i will pack up and leave i suddenly realize i really love him, and can't.
I did this many several times.
And still feel the same.
He has said to me hurtful things, like you're just jealous you don't have a best friend you could take advice from like i do, all you have is your aunt and your dad.
He has then cried like a baby each time i said i would leave, then i feel his pain, and want to comfort him and stay.
He has told me i don't say i love you first he has to be the one to always say it first, he's said i don't really love him if i say i'm going to leave him.
He has attempted to stab himself with a knife the minute i started packing one time, then stopped and said there are other people that love him like his family and friends.
When i talked and interuppeted him he bursted out angry and punched me on my shoulder arm several times telling me to let him finish what he was going say. I need advice.

Answer 1

All you require is patience. And try to inform your partner the problem you are facing becoz of him by way of e-mail or letter. But do not point out his weakness. All the things will set right soon

Answer 2

I say that u should leave immediately! He is trying to see how far he can push u which is emotionally abusing u! If he loved you he wouldnt first push you away by being a monster and then try and guilt u into staying! Worst of all he is showing signs of violence now! He hit u! Even if it was ur shoulder! U dont hit someone u love and i have a feeling that it is just going to get worse! He needs to get professional help! He is a manipulator and seems to want to hurt you whether it be by words or by violence! That isnt healthy for you and no matter how much you love him u need to leave! Because one day he might get out of hand and then it could be too late! Dont stay and take the chance that he could hurt u! be strong and leave! U must just remember that you are a wonderful person and deserve better than someone who bad mouths you and treats u like rubbish! He has u on an emotional rollercoaster! One moment he is calling u names and hitting u! The next he is crying cause u wanna leave! He is going to also break u down emotionally til u feel like u arnt worth much and start believing what he says! Dont do that! Pluck up the courage and move on!!!!!

Answer 3

First when you 2 are fighting try walking away from each other and counting to 10 and just take a deep breath then come back and discuss the problem at hand rationally without yelling at each other cause it only makes things worse yelling and you will always say stuff that you don't mean if you are angry. Also don't threaten each time to leave think first about what you are saying and whether you really want to leave or not. As for the abuse i don't agree with it. But maybe you 2 could try councelling your bf obviously has some issues if he says he will kill himself and couples councelling can't be a bad thing it always helps to talk to someone that is not friends with either of you. Also let him know how you feel it will make him fell better and try to open up to each other about your problems before they build up and explodes into a fight.

Answer 4

Your bf sound weird. I think he is insecure and need professional help. Do talk to him when he is in a good mood. See a doctor and ask for his advice. I am sure your bf want to be a good bf, but it seems like he have a split indentity that himself also didn't realise it. Therefore, help him to overcome the problem and also help yourself in giving him a chance to proof himself. If your bf beyond help, then i think it's best you make the decision whether to break off with him.
Oh no .. never let a guy hit nor punched yourself. You shouldn't even compromise with him punching your shoulder. This might lead to something worse if you didn't stop him from doing so. Do protect yourself by moving out to stay elsewhere. Try to talk to him at outside instead of inside the house / room. You won't know one day, he will get frustrated & bang you more than punched your shoulder.
Good luck in overcoming this problem. Would like to hear more from you.

Answer 5

Wait until he leave the house, and get out. Any man that will hit you and say hurtful things to you is not in love with you no matter what he says. Once they have hit you, they will do it again, and again. Sooner or later you are going to have to leave him, so you are better off doing it now before he seriously hurts you.

Don't let him know where you are, he will try to find you.

Answer 6

Emotional blackmail he is doing, by cutting with knife.
Sit together and sort out things.
He have some bad friends i feel, who are jealous about you. That is why he comes and say " you have only aunt and dad and no friends""".
Next time when he says the same dialogue, stop him and say that """ I GOT YOU, u r my friend, guide and everything""""".
Then he will realise his mistake and take care of u.
Patience is important. Seperation is very easy, reuinon is different. SO try NOT to be seperated

Answer 7

GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP NOW!

This guy is manipulative and mentally abusive.

Threatening to kill himself if you leave is blackmail.

And physical abuse is always an absolute deal-breaker.

There is no future in this relationship except more of the same and worse.

And it will get worse. It always does.

Answer 8

LEAVE!!! That behaviour is just not acceptable, and you staying is basically telling him that hitting you is ok. You can do better for yourself :-)

Answer 9

manipulative abusive bastard. just leave him. if he hurts himself, it'll one less abusive man in the world.