Has anyone been hurt by another that afterward they hated who they were even for a little bit and how did you benefit from it later on or learn from it or tell me stories of you loving yourself again... say if a significant other didn't like somehting about you that you hated but later learned to either love or live with or are still struggling with... please details... i'm bored and thinking of my own issues.
2007-05-13 22:41:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im going through a rough patch myself right now,
But god. a friend that is willing to come over and watch the notebook with you so you cna ball your eyes out and then play twister with you is amazing.
Do spontaneous stuff. Steal road signs. :)
2007-05-13 22:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a lot with my ex husband... I won't tell the whole long, terrible story, but it involved a four year relationship in which he broke up with me 10 times in the last 2 years of the relationship, and then kicked me out of the house a month into the marriage for no reason...
anyway...
I found myself at the lowest point of my life at the end of it all, living back at home, all of my stuff in a storage building, my car broke down, and only working part time while trying to go to college classes... and because he could give me no reason why he didn't want to be with me, I spent months trying to figure out what was wrong with me that made him not love me anymore. Spending all that time thinking of what I didn't like about myself made me hate myself
I hated the way i looked, the way I talked, the way I thought, my weight, my job, my ambitions... I figured I was doomed to a life alone because I just all around sucked.
But... as time wore on, I gained my confidence back. I started taking better care of myself, stopped obsessing over what some jerk thought of me, started working harder and keeping myself busy. I started doing the things I love to do again. I finally realized that letting some stupid guy control how I thought of myself was stupid. If I don't even love myself, why should I expect anyone else to love me?
Now, I'm the most confident person I know. I am not the prettiest or smartest or coolest person I know... but I'm still the most confident. The key lies in loving yourself enough to not care what others think. And if you don't care what they think, then they have no power over you.
Forget about what you don't have and can't do... and focus on what you DO have and CAN do. Take who you are and what you do and OWN IT.
2007-05-21 20:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Brittnee S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to get over it and that will come in time. But you need to do what makes you happy, fix what you dont like about yourself. Like if you think your fat go work out. Anything that will boost your confidence. There is not a way I can really explain. It just passes. But you need to love yourself to feel happy and confident. You should not let anyone put you down like that anymore. You need to reasure yourself that you are a great person and know that your better than that.
2007-05-14 05:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is frightening to think that we believe negative things about ourselves because someone we love said it was so!
It takes time to step back and realize that it was a way of controlling you. I had to make a list of things that I thought were positive, and I talked to family and friends about some of the things on the list. Once I started to realize that my belief in myself was most important, and was backed up by my real loved ones, I knew I wouldn't fall for the crap that someone tried to sell me just to control me. I still struggle with my self image, but it is sooo much better now!
Good luck to you!
2007-05-21 23:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love cheated on me whom i loved truely, i really got hurt to the point where my chest started to hurt which i still see my doctor for that, it took me more than two years to recover and it wasn't easy because we were together for over 3 yrs,,but anyways,,at first i was blaming myself or everything that happened, or somtimes others, but there came the time when i met this sweet gentle guy who really loves me and treats me with respect and care...someone who really loves me for who I am not because of looks or sex etc. Today I am thankful to God and to my ex that he did cheat on me, because if he wouldn't i would never would meet my true soul mate, I am so greatful for whatever happened because i believe that whatever happens, happens for a reason..now i got my answer of why everything happened that way, I now know that God had someone better than him for me and now i really know what true love means,,and another thing that " what goes around, comes around" a cheater will always be a cheater and I am sure someone else will cheat on him one day..I am living a very happy life today with my soul mate, my fiance, we are getting married on July and I am very thankful for every moment of my life and i hve to enjoy it to the fullest with my sweetheart, not with worry about a jerk who didn't deserve me..that was my story,,,hope u didn't get bored reading it...one more thing that life is beautiful, we must enjoy and share it with those who deserve us..not with those who give us tears,,because "no man or woman is worth our tears, and the one who is, won't make us cry!!"
2007-05-21 23:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, i am up late thinking the same thing.my best friend is being lured by a scam artist on Y!a and i hired an investigator to prove that he is shady. I hate him, because will devastate her. i am still struggling with this, the end for him is near though. he is going to be humiliated when he finds out what i know. that is my answer to your question. you sounded bored and it is not relevant to the question...but it could entertain you.
2007-05-14 05:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now I have, sorry, had a girl that I thought was way cool. Come to find out girl was only using me to pay for things and continuously lies about superficial items. I just keep telling myself she wasn't the right one and I keep looking for the next girl
2007-05-22 02:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by BigDaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try not to base yourself around someone else and what they think about you. It's called self-esteem. I'm sure that you're a wonderful person, with much to offer someone, whether it be in a relationship or friendship. As long as you are comfortable with yourself, you WILL find someone who will accept everything about you..I PROMISE!
2007-05-14 05:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never hurt other. Because though we are not in a position to get together but we live in society and therefore such sensitive subjects should be dealt with rational and logical manner and not by emotional feeling. Hope you may get rid of your problem.
2007-05-14 05:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its great to learn to love yourself again.. its fun pampering yourself and doing everything that makes you happy.. its a wonderful feeling to think of yourself at times first..
remember that after this downfall of yours, every pain that you will encounter will just be a piece of cake.. you will be a stronger and more confident person and perhaps the most beautiful you have ever been....
2007-05-14 05:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by camed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋